bigsi
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Post by bigsi on Oct 19, 2017 2:39:36 GMT
Hi everyone, just found this great site and would just appreciate your advice please. To cut a long story short I have struggled since childhood with depression, boredom, short temper, unable to concentrate etc etc. Came to the realisation that I probably have ADHD. Went to my Doctor with the factsheet of symptons, and he referred me to my nearest specialist, but was told there would probably be a two year wait !!!
I have stopped working due to depression, and tried all the anti-depressents known to man before prior to the ADHD discovery, but what the heck do I do now for two years ? I am in debt, and having a ten month tussle with the ESA without any benefits waiting for a decision on my appeal !
The waiting is killing me inside, I feel like I am waisting away, I told my GP I was going to look for work, but he said I would struggle again and be worse off. I was referred to my local mental health centre, but they just said because I wasn't suicidal I would have to wait two years !
I am over 50 now, and I have bluffed my way through life, but I am really tired now and can't do it anymore. My best friend took his own life recently and I am still struggling with life without him, but the way the DWP and the mental health services have treated me has left me shattered.
Any ideas please ?
Ps Thanks in advance, and sorry for the rant !
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Post by vagueandrandom on Oct 19, 2017 23:26:04 GMT
Hi bigsi Welcome! What area do you live in? (Some Drs haven't a clue and make waiting times up to put us off) Being over 50 isn't so bad . . I was dx at 48 and. .well, it's not been positive nhs MH services ways, but positive for my life in general . . . If you think you're ADHD, you likely are, so why not make the presumption and put some coping strategies in place . . There's usually someone to talk to here . .even if it's just me and @boost
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Post by bigsi on Oct 20, 2017 14:55:43 GMT
Thanks, I am trying to not to research so I don't convince myeslf I have it ( If that makes sense ? ) I am just looking to the future to see what kind of work that would best suit my scatty personality ! I am more of an ideas man, I love problem solving, but cant follow up as the boredom starts to set in soon. My humour and straight talking gets me into all sorts of bother, and pretty much all my family and friends have gone. The best thing for me is when I meet others with similar mind, and I feel like I have known them a lifetime. It's like they are on your weird level lol. So time to wait, and see how long I can last before I explode into a million pieces
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Post by jp on Oct 20, 2017 19:24:28 GMT
Thanks, I am trying to not to research so I don't convince myeslf I have it ( If that makes sense ? ) It makes perfect sense! I'm failing to not research it to death. And the only result is I'm getting more and more emotionally invested in a diagnosis, not cracking on with all the things I should be doing and pissing off my partner 😑 On the other hand it's great to have found a bit of focus 😂 By the way I can relate to EVERYTHING else you say... 🤔 spooky
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Post by bigsi on Oct 23, 2017 18:34:41 GMT
Thanks, I am trying to not to research so I don't convince myeslf I have it ( If that makes sense ? ) It makes perfect sense! I'm failing to not research it to death. And the only result is I'm getting more and more emotionally invested in a diagnosis, not cracking on with all the things I should be doing and pissing off my partner 😑 On the other hand it's great to have found a bit of focus 😂 By the way I can relate to EVERYTHING else you say... 🤔 spooky I just want to crack on and start working, but until I can get proper treatment I know I will keep failing and I just don't have the mental energy to do it all again. I do hope you get sorted my friend, keep falling forwards x
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