Post by lisablue on Feb 8, 2018 13:43:48 GMT
Hi,
I seemed to be locked in a battle with my son’s school but I don’t want to be!
I have ADHD (combined type), OCD, and bad anxiety of late due to huge change in circumstances. My meds have been halved due to blood pressure, my husband has worked away for months on end and drinks a lot when home, and I’ve had to give up work to care for my father in law who has vascular dementia and heart failure
I have told the school this to more than one member of staff as they come down hard on my son for being late for school or just general rubbish. Mainly if he questions what he seems to be unfair punishment, speaking up for himself which I view as a good trait to have as he had to have extra help for low self esteem.
They gave him yet another detention and just put ‘failure to comply’ so I emailed asking them for more info as he had no idea what he’d done wrong, so I told him not to do it (it’s was after school detention) until I found out why. I got a short text reply saying he’d done no work and had to be asked twice to take his coat off. My son insisted he’d done the work so I made him bring it home to prove it, and he had actually did the work, so basically he got half hour for his coat. They then doubled it to an hour for not attending the first one! I emailed saying could they not punish him extra for doing what I told him to do, but I got a short reply text saying they still want the extra. He then had two different teachers saying he should not have come home as I told him! He then went in school the next day to be made to do a whole day in isolation...felt so bad for him.
Now I’ve got a snotty ill informed letter from the head telling me off as I said by not taking my perspective into account was basically treating me like a child, as if my feelings and input matters for nothing!
I feel like they are working against my issues and I just don’t know how to respond...I feel a bit crap actually...bit hurt!
Should I even bother defending myself by responding to the heads letter?
Thanks for reading
Lisa
I seemed to be locked in a battle with my son’s school but I don’t want to be!
I have ADHD (combined type), OCD, and bad anxiety of late due to huge change in circumstances. My meds have been halved due to blood pressure, my husband has worked away for months on end and drinks a lot when home, and I’ve had to give up work to care for my father in law who has vascular dementia and heart failure
I have told the school this to more than one member of staff as they come down hard on my son for being late for school or just general rubbish. Mainly if he questions what he seems to be unfair punishment, speaking up for himself which I view as a good trait to have as he had to have extra help for low self esteem.
They gave him yet another detention and just put ‘failure to comply’ so I emailed asking them for more info as he had no idea what he’d done wrong, so I told him not to do it (it’s was after school detention) until I found out why. I got a short text reply saying he’d done no work and had to be asked twice to take his coat off. My son insisted he’d done the work so I made him bring it home to prove it, and he had actually did the work, so basically he got half hour for his coat. They then doubled it to an hour for not attending the first one! I emailed saying could they not punish him extra for doing what I told him to do, but I got a short reply text saying they still want the extra. He then had two different teachers saying he should not have come home as I told him! He then went in school the next day to be made to do a whole day in isolation...felt so bad for him.
Now I’ve got a snotty ill informed letter from the head telling me off as I said by not taking my perspective into account was basically treating me like a child, as if my feelings and input matters for nothing!
I feel like they are working against my issues and I just don’t know how to respond...I feel a bit crap actually...bit hurt!
Should I even bother defending myself by responding to the heads letter?
Thanks for reading
Lisa