Post by sharon2610 on Apr 10, 2018 10:53:08 GMT
I am new to this forum but really need some advice about my 24 year old son. I am at my wits end with how to deal with him and keep threatening to kick him out because he can be so rude and disrespectful. He was diagnosed as a child with ADHD and Tourettes. I feel like I am constantly on at him to do things because he doesn't do it otherwise. His bedroom is a mess, (clothes, crockery, stale food, cans of lager all over the floor) and I have to tell him all the time to tidy it. He drinks lager excessively to the point that once he starts he doesn't stop. There are quite often full cans on the floor that he's forgotten he's opened, they will then get knocked over and left, spilling out into the carpet. I have had to ban him from bringing it into the house during the week because it was affecting his ability to work, so he drinks on a Friday night and usually throughout the weekend. His life is working during the week (this has only happened since he joined my partner and son in law a year ago), going straight on to his xbox when he gets home and the weekend spent drinking or sleeping. He has got himself into debt with payday loan companies and there is no evidence as to where the money has gone as he doesn't go out to buy anything. He cannot project ahead to plan for his future. If it's not going to happen now it's too long to wait. I really need him to move out, for my sanity and in the hope he might take some responsibility for himself, but worry about how he'd cope on his own. It affected my relationship in the past and I don't want it impacting on my new relationship. I feel can't move on with my life with him the way he is.