Post by Geordiemarmite on May 22, 2018 23:23:16 GMT
Hi....
I need some help... it’s just so hard to know where to begin... So i’ve been in a relationship now with my girlfriend officially for about a good two months give or take, she’s amazing, she also has ADHD, Epilepsy, BPD, and Anxiety. We dated since January/February time, nearly didn’t get together because she was unsure because of what happened with her ex, but then decided I was the man she wanted and needed and we built from there .
When we first started talking her hyperfocus kicked in heard from her once every hour in terms of text and now that has changed considerably... sometimes it’s hours, sometimes a day, mainly I suspect this is the case because she feels comfortable in the knowledge I won’t ever be annoyed, which is true because I love her very much and understand what she’s going through and constantly learning to understand ADHD and in turn her. But it has become difficult sometimes... we both work at the same place, I bring her coffee and a kiss in the morning to start her day, don’t see her till the end of the day and we french kiss before she goes home, I say “I’ll message when I get in” and say our goodbyes. When I do get home, I send my message, do other stuff whilst waiting for a reply, but sometimes now...it never comes but yet she’s on facebook either posting stuff or potentially speaking with her friends. This hurts me as it makes me feel forgotten, but also makes me wonder is it on purpose or has she simply forgotten. When she realises she hasn’t messaged me back she’ll apologise and say she fell asleep or was doing something else. We also haven’t had sex yet... i’m not so fussed about that because I know she’ll either be still working it all out, or isn’t confident enough for it yet or another reason. I honestly don’t mind her dividing her time as well, and I know she’ll struggle to do it with her mindset, she’s even said she now and again needs her “space”. But I just don’t want us to be together if i’m just being dragged along so my feelings are protected, I don’t think that’s the case but there’s been times where it has crossed my mind.
I haven’t been in a lot of long term relationships myself and still learning the ropes but I love this girl, and she’s said the same to me. I just don’t wanna be a burden to her...
Any advice would be helpful
Thanks
R
I need some help... it’s just so hard to know where to begin... So i’ve been in a relationship now with my girlfriend officially for about a good two months give or take, she’s amazing, she also has ADHD, Epilepsy, BPD, and Anxiety. We dated since January/February time, nearly didn’t get together because she was unsure because of what happened with her ex, but then decided I was the man she wanted and needed and we built from there .
When we first started talking her hyperfocus kicked in heard from her once every hour in terms of text and now that has changed considerably... sometimes it’s hours, sometimes a day, mainly I suspect this is the case because she feels comfortable in the knowledge I won’t ever be annoyed, which is true because I love her very much and understand what she’s going through and constantly learning to understand ADHD and in turn her. But it has become difficult sometimes... we both work at the same place, I bring her coffee and a kiss in the morning to start her day, don’t see her till the end of the day and we french kiss before she goes home, I say “I’ll message when I get in” and say our goodbyes. When I do get home, I send my message, do other stuff whilst waiting for a reply, but sometimes now...it never comes but yet she’s on facebook either posting stuff or potentially speaking with her friends. This hurts me as it makes me feel forgotten, but also makes me wonder is it on purpose or has she simply forgotten. When she realises she hasn’t messaged me back she’ll apologise and say she fell asleep or was doing something else. We also haven’t had sex yet... i’m not so fussed about that because I know she’ll either be still working it all out, or isn’t confident enough for it yet or another reason. I honestly don’t mind her dividing her time as well, and I know she’ll struggle to do it with her mindset, she’s even said she now and again needs her “space”. But I just don’t want us to be together if i’m just being dragged along so my feelings are protected, I don’t think that’s the case but there’s been times where it has crossed my mind.
I haven’t been in a lot of long term relationships myself and still learning the ropes but I love this girl, and she’s said the same to me. I just don’t wanna be a burden to her...
Any advice would be helpful
Thanks
R