Post by kate1 on Apr 25, 2019 10:49:11 GMT
I have an 11 year old son with adhd and a 3 year old daughter who I have never been concerned about before. My daughter's nursery has some concerns about her behaviour, she is very clumsy, she doesn't pay much attention to where she is walking or what she is doing so she has a lot of accidents. I am told she doesn't sit still for long and bounces from one activity to the next. My son, is an overwhelming presence in the household. He loves his sister dearly and they play together a lot. It is often with light sabres or plastic swords, or some other fast paced, head spinning play, which she loves. They do have their share of arguments, he is totally unreasonable and argues with her as if she were the same age as him. When hes about, unsurprisingly, it's like a whirlwind of noise and activity and she loves it and she loves him. She's grown up with his influence as he was 8 when she was born, he's always been there being his glorious insane self. He has a lovely spirit and a lovely bond with her that I wouldn't change for the world. However, is it possible that she is exhibiting adhd symptoms through mimicking his behaviour? Could she be displaying learnt behaviour that she may grow out of? Does anyone else have experience of this? I have contacted a health visitor to see her as the nursery has asked me to. I'm just wondering if I have been walking around with blinkers on. It's just come as a real shock to me. I know it runs in families and I fully expected her to have it whilst I was pregnant. I can think of 2 uncles and 2 cousins in the family that definitely do have it aswell as 3 members of the family with asd (which we are pretty sure my son has too) I don't know why I am finding it so difficult to believe that she could possibly have adhd. With her brother it was a given, you only have to be around him for 5 minutes and you just know, I've had mothers come up to me in shops saying, "don't worry, I have a ..... with adhd too". I should mention that when she is by herself with me she is usually calm, I can take her out and she won't run away from me, sHe listens to me, she carries out instruction and she can be reasoned with, even mid tantrum, she has excellent communication skills and she reads social situations better that my son did at twice her age. She's also extremely stubborn and a little bit spoilt in my opinion (Daddys little princess). She has the odd tantrum but nothing on the scale of her brother or cousins. Sorry for the long post,just wanted to know if anyone has experience of the impact of a child with adhd on younger siblings without adhd as there seems to be very little research on the subject.