wilzo
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Post by wilzo on May 26, 2019 8:44:01 GMT
Dear all. Iโve just landed *with a thud* at your forum. I have recently been formally diagnosed with ADHD- having spent a few years on Waiting lists and going down blind alleys. Finally I feel I have the correct diagnosis, and I have been doing lots of research and reading up on the subject. The diagnosis has answered a lot of questions for me but also provided more to ponder. Why wasnโt I diagnosed sooner? Why did I have to endure for so long? Life could have been different. Should I even care?
Would love to meet another person with ADHD. Iโm sure I have (unknowingly). I have so many questions- which I may forget, misplace, not respond to, abandon... Iโm sure you know what I mean!!
Hello everyone! I really hope I can help and get help and advice. Thanks
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Post by speedy1 on May 26, 2019 10:31:18 GMT
Hi wilzo welcome. Can relate 2 the oh so that explains why I'm like that moment. Think my next stage was so what's ADHD & what's me? If u can be bothered u should definitely document ure voyage of discovery (put it in the diary part on this forum) Think it might help others going through the same rainbow of emotions just so they know they're not alone.
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wilzo
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Post by wilzo on May 26, 2019 14:11:49 GMT
Thank you Speedy. Certainly will check out the diary pages. I really like the โvoyage of discoveryโ idea. Positive spin on things ๐๐ป
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Post by richb on Jun 7, 2019 12:02:23 GMT
Hey
Its all so obvious now right?
I dont know how old you are but I am 48 and I dont think people even knew what it was when I was a teen. Teachers certainly werent very nice back then, or lots of them werent anyway. Nothing like being told you are a dunce for your self esteem
I agree with the sentiment. I have had a bad life, dont get me wrong, but yes it could have all been different. I think that I have struggled really with my own self-worth and been harder on myself than others have been. Basically I have always found everything a struggle, I have never given up but its been exhausting and depressing.
I have been aware of the ADHD for a while but had convinced myself that either I couldnt have it or that I was intolerant to all the meds, because i didnt get on with them. The reason I mention this is that I have had a bit of an epiphany with concerta this last fortnight. Its not been without a few side effects and ups and downs but I have stuck at it, and the best thing for me is that its taken away the never ending random thoughts and obsessing about things that arent helpful instead of what I need to do, The noise in my head has gone and I make a decision and move on, dont backtrack. Still messing stuff up here and there in time honoured tradition, but pleased to say I dont care so much or dwell on it. Concentration better but far from perfect but early days. Maybe good enough to start putting in place a few strategies though. I used to look at the ADHD strategies and think - yeah , like thats gonna work for you Rich.
Anyway, Hope this is of some help. Dont give up.
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Post by daisy4 on Jun 7, 2019 14:12:21 GMT
Hi Wilzo (and everyone else on here)
I've only just joined this site so not sure how it all works really...
How is everything going? Have you started any types of treatment, CBT, medication or tried anything else to help with ADHD yet? Did you meet anyone to chat with yet?
I was diagnosed with ADHD (combined) in Feb this year at age 43. I just started taking medication (Elvanse) on Tuesday, very low dose to start with though and early days so not sure how it will work out yet. I've felt very much the same as you the last few months, lots of questions and mixed feelings about everything, my head often feels like it's going to explode. I don't know anyone in real life that has ADHD (pretty confident my dad does but it's not the kind of thing he would talk about and thinking maybe my son does now too). I've told a couple of family members, husband, son, parents (not much comment from them), and couple of friends so far. I feel like whatever I said they don't truly understand. My husband has no difficultly doing any of the things I struggle with in life, which all seem to me to be ADHD related, so although he's a wonderful husband, when we've discussed the fact I have ADHD I'm not sure it actually makes much difference to him (he's really lovely, and very laid back luckily so he doesn't get annoyed with me very often, other than maybe when I make us late for things, start packing for a holiday about 10 minutes before we're due to be driving to an airport and staying up far too late all the time). His solution to a problem, such as being continually late, is just leave earlier, set an alarm or whatever. Just doesn't work for me like it does for him though, no matter how hard I seem to try, and if you don't have a problem with doing something yourself then I think it's hard to really understand. Same with all the other ADHD issues I have, I can't seem to address them by myself, nothing really works. Now I've told him all about ADHD a few times over the last few months, I don't think he really wants to talk about it again. He never discusses his own emotions, never gets stressed, upset, worried, seemingly doesn't find anything hard, he's seems so perfect to me I feel so inferior to him in so many ways...
Anyways, I could go on forever! Wish there was a magic wand to un-ADHD us!
Hope you find something that helps. It's quite new to me too, so maybe there will be something out there that helps us both. Still hoping these meds will help me. Hope they work for you to, Rich if you read this.
Bye for now
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