Hello everyone. Apologies for the unfinished subject name but I was unsure how to word it. I am unsure if anyone here knows about Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) but I am having psychotherapy because of my mental health diagnosis's and my childhood has been something that I am struggling to deal with. Throughout my childhood I was the one that wouldn't do as I was told / argue etc. I was diagnosed in my early 20s with ADHD so my parents, as well as me were totally oblivious to why I behaved the way I did. During my childhood after some heated arguments my dad would sometimes go for days without talking to me because I did something wrong- which although I did do something wrong it was so difficult to deal with. I would try to apologise and talk to my dad and I would get upset but he would just ignore me and at the time it was so hard to deal with. My mum would take my dad's side so when he was around she wouldn't interact with me. I know this is a long shot but I am hoping I can find someone or some people that can relate. I am sure that I can't be the only undiagnosed adhd kid that was emotionally neglected.
For anyone unsure on what CEN is here is a link which will help give you an understanding of the subject:
That sounds really tough. I had something similar with my mum - when things got bad enough she would shut down and ignore me. It was never for days though - usually max of one day. But it was very distressing; sometimes she would shut me out of her room in silence while I cried on the other side of the door saying sorry. For hours. But I think she has issues too, so it's hard to blame her completely for it. She never says sorry to this day! But hey ho. I don't think I suffer from many of the issues mentioned - maybe worrying too much what others think of me, even if I logically tell myself, "who cares?!". I luckily had my dad who was always a lot more supportive emotionally. And my mum wasn't entirely non supportive, it just depended on her mood and how crazy I was being.
Sorry I can't relate anymore, but at least you're in a good place to find support here - I recently joined the Facebook group, so if you like you can try reaching out there <3
Hey Duckester I can relate to what you are saying. My 10 year old daughter has anger outbursts on a daily basis and in an attempt to help her, I've been researching ADHD. I now believe that I also have undiagnosed ADHD and I really relate to what you say about your childhood
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