Post by ronniehall on Sept 23, 2020 15:52:26 GMT
I am waiting for formal diagnosis of ADHD at the moment but after going through assessment steps with my now 7 year old son I realised that I have ADHD. It has always been there but I just didn't realise why I found so many things so difficult. I arrived for perfection ND always fall short, I was treated for depression and anxiety for many years but now think it was a secondary symptom caused by undiagnosed ADHD. When I started reading about ADHD as a result of challeny my son was experiencing it all made sense. My husband even brought it up with me, he didn't know I'd already been thinking it myself.
Anyway covid means it will take longer for assessment although NHS will assess me the waiting list was a year already.
But I really feel that the pressure of having children and caring for everyone, having such a lot if responsibility and the typical "mental load" that comes with parenting has made my struggles more prominent. I can't seem to process things quickly enough, I micro manage (or try to) then get frustrated when things don't go to plan, other people let me down or I can't keep up the pace. I worry all the time about messing things up for my kids, am I making the right decisions. I feel guilty that there are things I find so difficult and feel my kids may be missing out (I can't do lots of after school clubs etc as I just can't be over scheduled, or have the pressure to keep up the pace). To be fair my kids don't seem bothered so I don't know why I can't shake the feeling of guilt and not doing a good enough job.
At least once a month it's like I burn out (usually around my menstrual cycle) and I just need to be alone. I feel peopled out and touched out (I have 3 year old, 7 true old and a husband who all want to hug and touch me all the time). I love being around people but I get such a crash when I've done a lot of socialising or being around people in general.
I quite often feel so overwhelmed by how much I have to do, everything in my head and all the things I'm not managing that I procrastinate and do none of them . I find it impossible to prioritise effectively, and I need to, as everything has equal importance in my mind. I find it hard to get going on a work or training task and then really frustrated when I am torn away from it by family commitments. I love my family but I am so exhausted all the time.
I guess I just want to know if anyone diagnosed as an adult felt their ADHD became more apparent as a result of having children becausd everything is ramped up and Jr's difficult to practice self care or have time to yourself?
Anyway covid means it will take longer for assessment although NHS will assess me the waiting list was a year already.
But I really feel that the pressure of having children and caring for everyone, having such a lot if responsibility and the typical "mental load" that comes with parenting has made my struggles more prominent. I can't seem to process things quickly enough, I micro manage (or try to) then get frustrated when things don't go to plan, other people let me down or I can't keep up the pace. I worry all the time about messing things up for my kids, am I making the right decisions. I feel guilty that there are things I find so difficult and feel my kids may be missing out (I can't do lots of after school clubs etc as I just can't be over scheduled, or have the pressure to keep up the pace). To be fair my kids don't seem bothered so I don't know why I can't shake the feeling of guilt and not doing a good enough job.
At least once a month it's like I burn out (usually around my menstrual cycle) and I just need to be alone. I feel peopled out and touched out (I have 3 year old, 7 true old and a husband who all want to hug and touch me all the time). I love being around people but I get such a crash when I've done a lot of socialising or being around people in general.
I quite often feel so overwhelmed by how much I have to do, everything in my head and all the things I'm not managing that I procrastinate and do none of them . I find it impossible to prioritise effectively, and I need to, as everything has equal importance in my mind. I find it hard to get going on a work or training task and then really frustrated when I am torn away from it by family commitments. I love my family but I am so exhausted all the time.
I guess I just want to know if anyone diagnosed as an adult felt their ADHD became more apparent as a result of having children becausd everything is ramped up and Jr's difficult to practice self care or have time to yourself?