dlcrook
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Post by dlcrook on Apr 30, 2021 20:52:38 GMT
Hi all,
I am after a bit of advice/reassurance. My daughter is currently going through being assessed for ADHD which got me reading up about how it presents differently for girls. When looking at the symptoms I could absolutely see myself in most if not all of the traits - it's been a huge lightbulb moment. I've struggled with mental health most of my life and am currently on strong anti-depressents, having been in and out of counselling the past 10 years (I'm now 37).
I contacted my GP yesterday and explained what I had discovered and how it runs parallel to my history and struggles - and that I want to go through being assessed. Unfortunately I didn't get a very positive response from him and was left feeling like I'm being a massive hypochondriac. He said most of the symptoms are most likely due to my anxiety.
He reluctantly agreed to refer me to the Mental Health team but I've been left feeling like I'm going to be waisting lots of people's time and doubting myself.
Has anyone else experienced this? Should I just push on??
Thanks,
D
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Post by speedy1 on May 1, 2021 16:57:47 GMT
Yes push on
Gps are not specialists I felt the same when I saw my gp he told me that ADHD was a childhood condition
When I told him it wasn’t because my mum had just seen a documentary on it he basically said he didn’t think I had it
I’d never met the guy b4 and I was in there 4 less than 10min I don’t think he knew what ADHD was
U could say he didn’t recognise it when it was literally staring him in the face
Also my traits are more physically obvious than a lot of other peoples presentations of ADHD coz I’ve got hyperactive traits so god knows what he thought ADHD is
When you know you’ve got it you just know
I had 2 go private coz there was no service for adults with ADHD in my area
I got diagnosed pretty much straight away the psych told my mum there and then that it looked likely (I’d walked out by then I’d had enough of trying to fill out forms and I was kinda rude)
He confirmed it by speaking to my childhood friends and my boss at the time
And bobs your uncle
I don’t even think we need gps anymore google does a better job and u don’t need to go through the mammoth task of trying to get an appointment
Good luck hope this helps (ending this message b4 I go on a rant about how useless doctors are)
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reg
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Post by reg on May 2, 2021 22:52:32 GMT
Hi all, I am after a bit of advice/reassurance. My daughter is currently going through being assessed for ADHD which got me reading up about how it presents differently for girls. When looking at the symptoms I could absolutely see myself in most if not all of the traits - it's been a huge lightbulb moment. I've struggled with mental health most of my life and am currently on strong anti-depressents, having been in and out of counselling the past 10 years (I'm now 37). I contacted my GP yesterday and explained what I had discovered and how it runs parallel to my history and struggles - and that I want to go through being assessed. Unfortunately I didn't get a very positive response from him and was left feeling like I'm being a massive hypochondriac. He said most of the symptoms are most likely due to my anxiety. He reluctantly agreed to refer me to the Mental Health team but I've been left feeling like I'm going to be waisting lots of people's time and doubting myself. Has anyone else experienced this? Should I just push on?? Thanks, D Getting help is never a waste of time. Please don't be dissuaded by what sounds like another sexist GP.
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bandito
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Post by bandito on May 3, 2021 13:45:45 GMT
Hi all, I am after a bit of advice/reassurance. My daughter is currently going through being assessed for ADHD which got me reading up about how it presents differently for girls. When looking at the symptoms I could absolutely see myself in most if not all of the traits - it's been a huge lightbulb moment. I've struggled with mental health most of my life and am currently on strong anti-depressents, having been in and out of counselling the past 10 years (I'm now 37). I contacted my GP yesterday and explained what I had discovered and how it runs parallel to my history and struggles - and that I want to go through being assessed. Unfortunately I didn't get a very positive response from him and was left feeling like I'm being a massive hypochondriac. He said most of the symptoms are most likely due to my anxiety. He reluctantly agreed to refer me to the Mental Health team but I've been left feeling like I'm going to be waisting lots of people's time and doubting myself. Has anyone else experienced this? Should I just push on?? Thanks, D Getting help is never a waste of time. Please don't be dissuaded by what sounds like another sexist GP. Absolutely push on, bringing up any mental health issue with a GP can seem like a daunting thing to do, especially in such a short 5-minute window with a GP who can often be dismissive. The mental health team will be much better placed to assess and address your concerns. reg, what gives you the impression the GP is sexist?
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Post by chickster on May 17, 2021 17:14:38 GMT
Its brutal for women. We are expected to be super organised, & to be good at housework. I am not. I dont like cooking, struggle terribly with housework & while Im good at booking hotels organising other peoples lives stresses me. Then theres the relentless noise & demands of children (I avoided them. I knew I wouldnt be able to do it well). We are expected to be calm & tolerant at all times & to remember everyones birthdays & appointments. As Ive got older Ive found that Im expected to be better at this kind of thing - or maybe theres so much more to think about? Something always slips through the net. And I think its what men want & expect too - they dont want a barely house trained woman who isnt going to smooth their day to day life over & do as she is told. Better to get very good at a fun (non typically female) career & to have good friends.
Dont expect too much from the NHS, or professionals. Just push through & get the medical help - I got referred through the Babylon app after I had a private diagnosis & dont expect understanding or help outside of Elvanse. Change GP if this one isnt helping. I like Babylon because its a different GP every time. I struck it lucky one night with a very nice American doctor - but then I already had diagnosis. But if your daughter does it will be much easier for you. Its one of the most heritable conditions there is - so your GP is clearly not very bright.
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Post by londonwillow on May 25, 2021 0:41:47 GMT
I felt the same when I started looking into it. I actually paid to see a private specialist who upon learning about my financial situation, offered to write to my gp and ask them to refer me. He wrote a detailed account of my presentation and explained that he thinks adhd is a likely diagnosis. He also added that the traits cross over with other conditions that should also be considered. I had my assessment yesterday morning and I was formally diagnosed with ADHD (and historical trauma). They have already made plans for my care going forward and it’s a relief. My biggest fear was being accused of being an imposter but the validation has helped immensely. Even if you don’t get an ADHD diagnosis, you may learn something else that will help you to move forward in your life with more clarity. Please don’t let the docs attitudes put you off. There is obviously something that made you want to pursue this so whatever it is, it’s not ‘nothing’. Best of luck.
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Post by Easily_distrac on Jun 15, 2021 20:34:49 GMT
My GP fobbed me off too, I read around the subject and realised what he’d told me was just wrong. GPs are expected to know a little about just about everything and the can't, and ADHD came onto the syllabus after some of them trained – so do your own research, and push to be seen by the experts (the Mental Health team). dlcrook ADHD is hereditary, so there's a very high likely hood one or both her parents have it.
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Post by londonwillow on Jun 18, 2021 12:56:51 GMT
I gave my daughter the form where it outlines the symptoms and asks how bad they are etc. She contacted the doctor after filling this out and asked for an appt to discuss the results with a view to getting a referral to the psychiatric services. (She’s over 18 now otherwise we would have done it through the school)
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