I have a copy of Women With Attention Deficit Disorder by Sari Solden, it is a good book for explaining why ADHD impacts differently on women, explaining the different social pressures and expectations on women and how we as women with ADHD are more inclined to view ourselves as failures.
It is good for helping to come to terms with ADHD and helping you feel more positive about yourself. I don't have children or a husband so I can't say much about whether it helps with these things, but I'm sure it will have some good advice about it.
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Amazon - less than £8 delivered. It looks like its going to get into self-help further into the book. But have the impression its going to help me change the way I think, as opposed to how to not burn the dinner. Will have to get back to you when I've read it all ;D
So far the premise of the book seems to be that the symptoms of undiagnosed ADHD, can have a well-defined effect on the self-image developed by girls/women as they grow older. I can relate to a lot of things written in this book! Points out that most people have a narrow range of difficulties/abilitys, but that people with ADHD have a high likelihood of having exceptional talents alongside larger difficulties at the other end of the scale - giving a much larger range overall, and perhaps more difficult to reconcile within the same self-image?
I've never read a book about ADHD before. Just internet stuff. But think I defo bought the right first book to explore. I can't wait to read the parts about reconciling ADHD with the particular stereotypes/roles women heap on themselves. I'm hoping this book is going to help stop me from paralysing myself by beating myself up all the time. If its all as good as the first three chapters I'm going to love this book
Sari Solden's book is truely empathetic. It made me cry because there was so much in there with which I identified. Having a disorder that no-one around you understands can be isolating; it was for me. Women with ADHD.... is therefore a good place to start reading and learning. In hindsight I would read it before I started looking into self-help books.
Survival Tips for Women with AD/HD. Beyond Piles, Palms & Post-its by Terry Matlen, M.S.W. (2005) ISBN 1-886941-59-9, Speciality Press, Inc (Florida). “Over 300 tips by and for women with AD/HD. 25 tips great tips from AD/HD coaches.”
For me finding this book came a little late. I found that I had implemented, am in the throes of implementing, or have contemplated quite a few of the tips suitable for me and my family life. I may have employed a variant on a tip, but the basic idea is similar. Having said that, “Survival tips..” was a great boost to my self-esteem – I’m not going too far wrong.
However, if you are seeking new ideas, Terry Matlen’s book may be good for you.
It is in a format where you can dip in and out so you can use it as a “tip of the day” source.
The type face is a good size so if you are tired or dizzy you can still manage to see the words.
The chapters are short for those with a limited attention span.
With a self-help book containing so many ideas of things you can do I’d like to give a health warning.
Please select very carefully which tip you are going to implement next i.e. don’t try loads at once.
Involve the family (especially your partner) before you leap into the change i.e. communication, negotiation, review & feedback.
Recognise that you may have to adapt the tip to suit you, your life and your family i.e. a good tip may not prove to be a panacea and is likely to take more time to get in place or become a good habit than you ever expected.
Sadly, I didn’t give myself this advice and ended up in a state of collapse surrounded by demoralising failures. Yet again I had did my ADHD thing of starting too many projects, getting exhausted and failing to follow-through. This is not the fault of the book; it is me failing to manage my ADHD impulsivity and hyperactivity.
I did persevere, albeit at a crawling pace, and now attribute much of my success in managing ADHD to the self-help book “You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?!” by Kate Kelly and Peggy Ramundo. Please consider this my second recommendation.