Post by mcfairy on Aug 6, 2015 8:40:29 GMT
Hi Guru's
Wondered if anyone can help. My partner had an angry episode on Sunday which came like a light switch being flicked on, it lasted half hour of ranting then I took hold of him looked him in the eye and just spoke. I had to swallow my hurt and want to argue back at the unfairness of it all but it worked and he snapped out of it like the switch just got switched back off again. No sugar coating it, he was just pure nasty in the things he was saying.
I left it a day for things to calm down (which was hard as I was still gutted) and then we sat and talked about it. He was full of remorse but I had to remind him I didn't actually get an apology, which he swears he gave me. Not sure he likes to apologies in general. When I started to talk about what was upsetting he visibly flinched as he obviously doesn't like hearing it, but swears he doesn't remember.
Is this denial or is this something possible??
He is on medication, had a 'break' from it on Sunday. He had, had a few beers, not massively I don't believe. (I had been out and just got in when it happened). He wasn't pacing around annoyed when I got in, he went from sat on the sofa to fuming! He wasn't rolling around drunk (he is a big guy and can take a few beers easily) so don't believe he was too drunk to remember.
We are being referred again to the an Adult ADD specialist again as we have moved to a new surgery, so not sure if this is something we just need to tell them? Or is it just the way my partner is wired? We had a very lovely couple of weeks where we had been getting on brilliantly... so I feel we have took another step back...again... I would go as far as to say he was quite romantic last week ...totally confused. He does swear I did nothing wrong and it isnt my fault... (not that anything I might have done (baffled if I have) would warrant that response anyway).
I reckon we may go through these big episode 4-5 times a year?
Thanks as always
Wondered if anyone can help. My partner had an angry episode on Sunday which came like a light switch being flicked on, it lasted half hour of ranting then I took hold of him looked him in the eye and just spoke. I had to swallow my hurt and want to argue back at the unfairness of it all but it worked and he snapped out of it like the switch just got switched back off again. No sugar coating it, he was just pure nasty in the things he was saying.
I left it a day for things to calm down (which was hard as I was still gutted) and then we sat and talked about it. He was full of remorse but I had to remind him I didn't actually get an apology, which he swears he gave me. Not sure he likes to apologies in general. When I started to talk about what was upsetting he visibly flinched as he obviously doesn't like hearing it, but swears he doesn't remember.
Is this denial or is this something possible??
He is on medication, had a 'break' from it on Sunday. He had, had a few beers, not massively I don't believe. (I had been out and just got in when it happened). He wasn't pacing around annoyed when I got in, he went from sat on the sofa to fuming! He wasn't rolling around drunk (he is a big guy and can take a few beers easily) so don't believe he was too drunk to remember.
We are being referred again to the an Adult ADD specialist again as we have moved to a new surgery, so not sure if this is something we just need to tell them? Or is it just the way my partner is wired? We had a very lovely couple of weeks where we had been getting on brilliantly... so I feel we have took another step back...again... I would go as far as to say he was quite romantic last week ...totally confused. He does swear I did nothing wrong and it isnt my fault... (not that anything I might have done (baffled if I have) would warrant that response anyway).
I reckon we may go through these big episode 4-5 times a year?
Thanks as always