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Post by blaze on Oct 2, 2018 6:04:01 GMT
Woman can have masculine traits, that doesn’t make them less of a woman, just like men can have feminine traits also. Masculine & feminine are just the roles we are socialised into by society, they are nothing inherent to sex and it’s rare any person identifies fully with them.
Look at Patti Smith - all woman but plenty of traits typically considered masculine, or Nicky Wire- all man but plenty of typically considered feminine traits.
It’s completely ok to be a woman but not feminine.
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Post by blaze on Sept 12, 2017 14:52:22 GMT
The general psych who did my first adult adhd assessment (he had socialist interest in adhd) was amazing as was his college who did my meds for a decade. The adgd service I've seen since in England are shit.
So don't write of general psychs
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Post by blaze on Mar 8, 2017 14:45:40 GMT
Then he should be honest about his reasons for doing the program rather than 'special interest' or whatever that sounds creepy.
Big difference between I have adhd so am looking into others experiences as well & 'special interest' which is cringeworthy
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Post by blaze on Mar 8, 2017 11:35:42 GMT
Anyone in the public eye with a 'particular interest' in something like adhd creeps me out. Unless they have it themselves. Or their kids do. In which case be honest about it rather than expecting others to put their life's oit their for you.
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Post by blaze on Mar 8, 2017 11:30:52 GMT
Are you calling yourself a bad parent?
Adhd Def exists. If we know about it some parenting methods can help us understand and manage adhd somewhat better. That's true.
It's not a women's job to 'manage' a man its his job. And at 19 it's your sons opinion on meds/alternative therapies that matters, unless for some reason he doesn't have capacity which doesn't sound like the case.
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Post by blaze on Mar 8, 2017 11:27:35 GMT
Can you explain where on here? Relatively tolerant I would said here. Perhaps not as female friendly, but then that's pretty standard everywhere. And there certainly plenty lovely women who challenge that here. (Despite one getting bullied away). If anything I'd say it's a bit to pc here.
However that's off point, and although right alt left and everyone else has a chance of living with adhd and this forum is for that. Plus most people arn't just alt right/left etc, many hold varying stances. I'd be left wing but Def hold feminist beliefs which can be accussed of rad fem being alt right
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Monarch??
Mar 8, 2017 11:22:59 GMT
via mobile
Post by blaze on Mar 8, 2017 11:22:59 GMT
Anyone know anything about this. Sounds like a tens machine for the brain. How do you get one?
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Post by blaze on Feb 23, 2017 11:22:53 GMT
Passed first time but in my 30th on automatic car after about 60 lessons & only because I had to do it for my kids sake
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Post by blaze on Feb 23, 2017 11:14:06 GMT
I've tried most of the natural dopamine precursors (excepting one that stops contreceptive pill working) with and without Meds, together &;seperate. They have an effect for a few days then back to usual I generally find. Not as effective as Meds ime
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Post by blaze on Feb 23, 2017 11:05:46 GMT
Ime yes. There are lots of areas in life I have discovered I am much better than others at, but that didn't come until I just gave up trying to catch up to others in areas I can't manage. Stop sweating the small stuff & beating yourself up over uncontrollable stuff then it leaves more room for the things you can excell at
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Post by blaze on Feb 23, 2017 11:02:38 GMT
Brain development is use dependant so if struggling to focus is overwhelming they're brains it's likely other areas will take longer to catch up. My eq as a child was far behind, as an adult generally far ahead of others.
The areas they suggest are underdeveloped are also often seen to be under developed in many other conditions, ndds, mhp, lds etc
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Post by blaze on Feb 23, 2017 10:59:31 GMT
I'm in York, was originally refered put of area to Wakefield, who were lovely but no where as experienced as the amazing local psych I saw in Aberdeen. But I havn't seen Wakefield in 3 yrs now for med reviews as Dr left & waiting lists backing up. Now york are sorting an adult adhd they have informed me I will be sent there, but I expect a big wait (asyou kids are waiting 12 mths+ for asd/adhd assessments despite alot of professionals nagging them for us)
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Post by blaze on Dec 30, 2016 19:47:27 GMT
I am just so so so sick of hidden disabilities being so disregarded. We have a huge bundle of different conditions between me & kids, such a mess of needs.
I work my ass off in part to keep it getting so bad that our needs are impossible because unless people can see you have a need they don't give a fuck. And it comes from those with visable disabilities as much as from non disabled.
I find it such a confusing mix to get no acknowledgement from the aboves yet (and we are lucky because of this) that we get so much recognition from the professionals involved.
And it feels like my kids are up against it- they are female, multipul diagnosis facing, plus possibley my hidden physical disabilities, plus ofcourse being kids they are hugely vulnerable anyways....
It often feels like there's no way to argue with the ignorance out there around hidden dis abilities and it's head banging wall time. Often don't see a way forward in this mess.
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Post by blaze on Dec 30, 2016 18:09:34 GMT
It's not your job to malert things work. Either you both want to stay together and jointly choose to work on it or you move on. It's not the females job to keep the relationship & it does sound like he us trying to disengage. Most high school relationships don't remain together, however much we may want them to.
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Post by blaze on Dec 30, 2016 18:06:30 GMT
Interesting
I'd need to avoid progesterone for the same reason. Although I should have a while till I get there. Oestrogen has a positive stabilising effect for joints and a positive effect on the left side of the brain that deals with organisation.
I know just with contraceptives that I react horrifically to some types of hormones and great to others, so I would wounder if hRt is the same?
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Post by blaze on Dec 30, 2016 18:02:21 GMT
Ahh don't say that, pretty sure my girls will be dx with both. I'm just hoping that Meds work for them like they do me!
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Tramadol
Dec 30, 2016 18:00:36 GMT
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Post by blaze on Dec 30, 2016 18:00:36 GMT
I've taken it repeatedly for pain. It used to dope me up but then it made me hyper. I would be careful about self medicating unless you have no tendency to addictions (I don't) because it is a common comorbid with adhd
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Post by blaze on Dec 30, 2016 17:49:43 GMT
I had depressive episodes as part of ptsd, now resolved, and if I'm over tired I naturally get v low, but I don't have depression as an illness.
Same with anxiety really. I can get v nervous in situations where I have to anticipate things- exams, social things,formal meetings etc but I don't have the ongoing or emotional part of anxiety. [b Oh and add pmdd to that- not actually diagnosed but i find i must stay on the conteaceptive yazmin that was desugned for pmdd to stay sane. Hormones have a huge effect on my adhd as well as mood. r]
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Post by blaze on Dec 30, 2016 17:45:05 GMT
Haha vague that's the exact line I use when people bring it up- that it doesn't exist until after my bday, although that gives me a bit more than a week.
Turns out thus was out best year, kids coped better than before, and while I feel like hell I am getting to lounge about on pj's most of the time. While it feels crappy now I know the down time will help me cope when rl hits again. Can't believe how chubby I got on Xmas chocs!
& a belated happy bday.
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Post by blaze on Dec 30, 2016 17:28:26 GMT
I know why it's not covered, just disgusted.
But there seems no outrage from disability groups either, no petitions, swept under the carpet on forums.
I am often finding hidden disabilities target for disabilism from those with visable disabilities - divide and conquer working well.
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Post by blaze on Dec 7, 2016 18:23:40 GMT
There's not a huge amount in the press about it, like no one cares.
I have 'dared' to say that elsewhere & been shot down by pEppleby saying everyone experiences discrimination etc - yet the un chose to focus only on dis a bled human rights violations & it's not ok to acknowledge that or talk about it.
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Post by blaze on Dec 3, 2016 14:01:55 GMT
I can't post links so if you want to read the details you can check out the BBC article-
But the UN have now concluded their investigation into UK discrimination of people with disabilities. They found that the UK (under dc government) are the first country to violate the convention on the rights of people with disabilities. Some point were that bed room tax unfairly discriminates against people who need the extra room for reasons relating to their disabiliaty and that the media continually portrays us as lazy, fakers, scroungers etc
Havn't seen anything happen because of it though....
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Post by blaze on Oct 25, 2016 13:29:20 GMT
Anyone else dreading it? Traffic gets too busy for me, buses are late, cues too long, lots of organosing to do, kids party's, Xmas crafts, blah blah.....
We do a super super small Xmas as the kids don't with much but still I dread the run up. Kids are more aware this year also & so want to do things like go to their friends parties even though they can't cope with the over stimulation. & I want to fit in seeing close friends but have to jungle everyone's schedules to find a time we are all free. Not looking forward to it all!
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Post by blaze on Oct 25, 2016 11:35:47 GMT
Glad she's OK, I liked her input here. Hope the battles get easier for herx
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Post by blaze on Oct 25, 2016 11:08:17 GMT
As above really, just curious how she is getting on
Anyone intouch pls pass along my best wishes
Cheers
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Post by blaze on Oct 25, 2016 11:03:28 GMT
I identify with the menatal paralysis hugely, I used to put it down to adhd procrastination but now we are looking at pda asseasements for my kids the pressure avoidance stands out to me.
But I find that strange as other than sensory issues I don't meet asd criteria. I'm a bit socially akward or gawky perhaps in some circumstances (or so I think, others disagree as I do well socially over all) I don't get social politics & tend to be gullible honest (am stretching here....) but many of the asd difficulties are my strengths & so don't fit, but the avoidance of pressure is huge.
I'm a major under achiever, quite comfortabley so but I do wounder if I didn't freeze with pressure what I'd be better suited to. Many of my best essays were ones I didn't bother to make much effort with (or ones I wrote for other people).
Sorry nothing useful, I can't follow the train of thought with too many teeny paras, but I v much identify with the menatal paralysis. It's probably my biggest struggle, although I have taylored life around it not to be, but probably the only thing I would directly change about my adhd & Meds don't touch it at all. Although I'd swap my ed in a heart beat, pain sucks as do the pain Meds. .....
Good luck job searching
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Post by blaze on Oct 20, 2016 14:56:37 GMT
Yep biggest problem of adHD for me. & Meds while helpful for other things do minimal amounts for this.....
There's certainly parts of my kids pda assessments that I define indenty with, but I would never fit the asd criteria necessary for pda assessment, if adults cold even get assessed for pda.
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Post by blaze on Sept 10, 2016 20:08:49 GMT
How incredibly hard it is
Just need to write that down somewhere
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Post by blaze on Sept 10, 2016 19:56:37 GMT
Ramona has probably fits adhd criteria & she is fucking awsome
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Post by blaze on Aug 31, 2016 15:00:44 GMT
Well high fat/sugar/*junk* diets are linked to obesity/gest diabetes etc which gives higher rates of prem/traumatic births which is one of the known factors in switching on the genetic component of any neuro developmental disorder there maye be some indirect *link* but not a causall factor & probably not the most helpful study in that for any of us with hg you eat whatever you can keep down to survive being that a live expecting mother obviously is better for the baby well being.....
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