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Post by Little Owl on Jan 3, 2016 14:14:34 GMT
For those who always wanted to write a diary
..... but could never stick to it.
In 2011 I started a Christmas scrapbook come diary which I call "Mucky Duck's Christmas Scraps." To make it colourful, I stick in bits of Xmas wrapping paper, cracker jokes, a few photos e.g. choosing the Xmas tree, new Christmas decorations etc. In different coloured pens I jot down memories of the year gone, New Year's resolutions, funny things people say, achievements, disappointments.
I do the jottings not by laying down in the bed at night like one does a a diary, but as and when the thought occurs (I have the scrap book open with coloured pens nearby). Anyone can jot a memory in the scrap book and I listen out for conversations about things that have happened that year. I prompt talk about things that have happened in the past year at the dinner table and have my scrap book open so I can jot memories down.
The key is that the scrap book is stored with the Christmas Decorations AND is put away on 6 Jan when the Christmas decorations go back into storage. This putting away on 6 Jan makes the endeavor ADHD friendly - its a short project with a deadline. Yet the diary is a special "decoration" for the family for years to come and it costs very little.
Its not a diary, but when I dropped my ADD perfectionist streak, its good enough.
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Post by Little Owl on Dec 26, 2015 16:54:15 GMT
On Christmas Eve I planted 100 snowdrops bulbs – way later than the recommended time but I’m optimistic they won’t all have died in the bag.
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Post by Little Owl on Sept 25, 2015 15:45:10 GMT
Pelargonium, Sorry to hear of your bad experience. Keeping on track of medication & making timely is hard without the added barrier of "computer system error." I’m impressed with your organisation even if it didn’t work out and has left you worn out without pills.
Medical practitioners talk of compliance i.e. doing what the doctor advises and taking your medication in the right dose, at the right time for the prescribed length of time. ADHD often responds well to medication so, should you choose to take medication, good compliance is helpful. It seems that, especially for mental health, compliance is a problem because of "poor" behaviour.I may be being too sensitive but I feel there is a taint of “you are useless/lazy/difficult” if you are non or partially compliant which doesn’t seem fair if your condition undermines your ability to organise your medication regime.
Making sure you are not going to run out of pills, remembering whether or not you’ve taken them, organising doctor’s appointments in advance of the day you realise you have just run out of pills and used up your re-order quota, thinking ahead when you are going on holiday so you have enough pills to cover it even counting out the pills accurately are admin jobs. Admin jobs require organisation and forethought; not exactly ADHD friendly. It is thus, no surprise that compliance is a problem in the ADHD world.
The admin side of GP surgeries needs to be top-notch; it would help to improve compliance. I hope your letter will help prevent others getting caught by the old website as you have done. Well done. If no one makes the effort to write a letter to the practice manager, it is unlikely the surgery will pay attention. To look on the positive side. I am really pleased with our local GP’s computer services and believe it helps handle ADHD. Once you’ve gone through the admin to get on the system, you can re-order at home when you are counting the pills i.e. no opportunity to forget to put the re-order slip in the GP surgery though you still have to remember to collect your pills 2 days later.
Recently they have added an on-line appointment booking system – fabulous. I can book at home where I am more likely to x-check my diary properly and I don’t have to “lie” about it being an emergency. Well it is an emergency because being ADHD I have forgotten to book in advance and I’m almost out of pills. I don’t do that now, but I did before I got a coping mechanism in place.
I think the system may even send reminders about up-coming appointments; a piece of advice given to consultants and coaches specialising in treating ADHD that I read in an ADHD book.
I hope you get your meds soon and are feeling better.
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Post by Little Owl on Jul 5, 2015 12:19:29 GMT
I fear I am not going to express myself particularly well, but I’ll try.
If a parent is diagnosed with ADHD and if, like me, they have 2 children, then the chances of one of their children having ADHD is 50% or thereabouts.
It would not be unreasonable for this statistic to promote guilt and anxiety ridden thoughts like “should I have my children assessed?”, “how will it affect their career chances if they are labelled as ADHD i.e. they carry a mental health issue?” and “It’s my fault they have ADHD.”
The NT partner may also feel, quite justifiably, that it is all about their ADHD partner; my needs are ignored. To combat this it is incredibly important that no changes are made without embracing the needs of the NT partner; even if it is only to recognise that they are sacrificing their need for the better good.
Medication is the medical profession’s cornerstone treatment. Yes it helps, but in my experience it is worth jack-shit unless you and your partner change your behaviours so that they are ADHD, relationship and family friendly. To educate yourself, change behaviour, improve co-operation and keep optimistic as you try to accommodate ADHD is tough.
My NT husband, bless him, did not understand what was needed and to make things worse, through education, I did. All along, I knew his subtle resistance to even positive change was to be expected and that we would (and did) suffer a great deal of avoidable pain over the last 9 years since diagnosis.
If you and your partner can re-frame the reason you are going to change your behaviours to accommodate adult ADHD, you may find the co-operation, motivation and optimism that will help sustain your efforts and foster love despite the challenges.
Not only will your possibly ADD children witness and participate in developing family friendly ADD management techniques they will also witness a strong, supportive, loving partnership facing and overcoming difficult challenges. This is fantastic parenting.
Children learn by copying, parents don’t really have to do anything special for this to happen; it just does. As an adult, ADD management techniques you develop will be suitable for adult life and promote the skills ADD proffers; anything they learn from you could last them a life-time. Yes, I firmly believe my skill set is both improved and tainted by ADHD.
I think it possible that the “ADHD gene,” if such a thing exists, may skip a generation. If true, that means your NT child may have to parent a child with ADHD. If so they, as much as an ADHD child, will benefit from knowing about ADHD techniques.
So, any effort you or your partner put into educating yourselves and pain you may suffer putting theory into practice will benefit your children regardless of whether or not they have ADHD, regardless of whether you and your partner decide to have them assessed and regardless of any consequences that an ADHD diagnosis may have.
I wish this message could get through to any parents who are trying to raise a family with adult ADHD in the mix.
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Post by Little Owl on Jun 26, 2015 15:06:41 GMT
If a parent has it there's a 30% chance their child will, and it increases the risk of all developmental disorders also- although I don't know that stats Blaze, where does the 30% statistic come from?
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Post by Little Owl on Jun 26, 2015 15:03:59 GMT
The only statistic I have heard or read is from Ari Tuckman PsyD, MBA when he was speaking at an ADDISS conference workshop in autumn 2013.
“One out of four children of parents with ADHD will have ADHD. This is a conservative number.”
To put it another way, if a parent has ADHD there is a 25% or more chance their child will have ADHD. This is pretty close to the statistic given by blaze.
For a parent diagnosed with ADHD this is a very important piece of information and I wish there were more sources and evidence out there.
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Post by Little Owl on Apr 28, 2015 19:45:15 GMT
I’ve struggled hard with cooking as I too find recipes hard to follow. Trying to put a meal on the table when children are around is horrendous so I rarely grill stuff and when I do it is often black. To reduce the tea time pressure and distraction, I often cook from fresh in bulk when no-one is around and heat up portions in the microwave.
I have had quite a lot of success by taking a recipe, trying it out, typing out my own version which often omits some non-essential fiddly steps and printing it in big font.
Whilst this risotto is chicken and ham, you could substitute say vegetarian sausages, quorn or some such item. I use chicken left over from the roast dinner so there is no browning of the meat. If you want to use fresh chicken brown it with the onions before you add the other stuff. My cup is one of my small white cups which takes 250 ml of water; it is not an American cup. You will need to find something of similar capacity.
Little Owl’s Risotto
Chicken & Ham 350-400g Vegetables 800-900g Rice 1 ¼ cup Chicken stock cube 2 Water 2 cup Wine 1/2 cup Turmeric 2 teaspoon Meat : Veg ratio 1:2 – 1:2.6 Serves 4
Vegetables: Any mix of onion, spring onion, celery, carrots, peppers, French beans, fine beans, frozen peas
That is all I have on my recipe card because I know the instructions. For you I will add the following instructions and notes.
a) Get out a pan with a lid, the chopping kit, food waste bucket, scales & cup b) Chop meat & add to pan (say 1cm pieces) c) Chop the vegetables & add to pan (I do them quite small maybe 1/2cm each) d) Bring to the boil, then simmer for 20-25 mins until the rice is cooked. • Check & Stir every 5 minutes ….. Put the timer (s) on – I’m ADHD – death to food without my timers. • If it is starting to stick to the bottom of the pan, add some water • If it is looking a bit dry (I like mine sloppy), add some water and check more frequently.
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Post by Little Owl on Jan 21, 2015 14:57:52 GMT
I found "Patents, Registered Designs, Trade Marks & Copyright for Dummies" useful. Not encouraging but useful; It injected a healthy note of realism to my dreams.
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Post by Little Owl on Nov 3, 2014 15:32:56 GMT
When children come along they bring home things that make one’s heart go squishy – baby grows, pictures they have drawn, dressing up outfits, things they have painstakingly and proudly made. My sister clutter busts this stuff ruthlessly – I can’t… but I’ve found another way.
I have split these precious items into boxes that I bring out for various festivals – spring equinox, Easter, birthdays, autumn, Halloween, Fireworks and of course, Christmas. It was an enormous undertaking as I forced myself to do declutter of 8 years of accumulated stuff at the same time. Making a decision to chuck something was sometimes really hard.
I grant you that using baby grows, dressing up outfits or ancient childish pictures for decorative purposes is a somewhat eccentric, but I don’t mind that. I’d rather see and feel these precious things once a year rather than have them stuffed away in the cupboard. When I explain my reasoning, attitudes change somewhat.
I have my festive boxes in one cupboard so they are pretty easy to hand. I have made it as easy and quick as possible to put the stuff up and take it down again. It still takes time, but nowhere near the time it takes to handle the Christmas decorations.
I never want to have to take on a back log again, so I keep on top of the children’s stuff by making a decision to chuck (and I chuck a lot), add to a festival box or keep for 6 months. Keeping for 6 months helps because it is sometimes easier to chuck something out after a little time has passed.
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Post by Little Owl on Sept 22, 2014 15:54:00 GMT
One of the posts in this thread talks about DVLA setting limits on drug use. The "Drug Driving and ADHD" article by Dr Philip Asherson in the ADDISS newsletter "ADHDnews, Autumn 2014" is all about this issue.
If you can get hold of the ADDISS news letter, it may be worth a read. To give a couple of tiny quotes from the two page article....
"People with ADHd should not be concerned about the use of prescribed drugs for the treatment of ADHD symptoms in relation to the new drug driving laws."
"To avoid potential problems it is advised that evidence of legitimate use is carried by drivers taking amphetamines (dexamphetamine, lisdexamfetamine or Adderall)."
"This evidence could, for example, take the form of a letter from their doctor explaining the drugs and dosage they are prescribed, or a copy of the prescription."
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Post by Little Owl on Sept 22, 2014 15:36:20 GMT
2014 EDIT - this lead post is now out of date. Most of us do not need to inform the DVLA or insurance companies BUT check to find out if you do.
I have just read an driving article by Dr Philip Asherson in the ADDISS newsletter "ADHDnews, Autumn 2014." Dr Asherson states "The DVLA already has a section on its website in which it states that people with ADHD should declare their diagnosis and treatment if they are driving a vehicle. To be precise, the DVLA does not state that everyone with ADHD must declare the diagnosis, but rather the diagnosis must be declared if it is thought to be associated with impared driving." It seems sensible, as PlanetDave suggests to check.
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Post by Little Owl on Jul 31, 2014 15:38:09 GMT
I think that there is a bit of a tendency to assume in books that the adhd person is the man. Shame has been a real issue for me. I have had to try to remember to be nice to myself, not to compare myself to others without adhd and remember what I have achieved. I also find the wheelchair metaphor helpful-would anyone think it was shameful if a wheelchair user couldn't get upstairs? Good metaphor. You are right about the tendency. I'm reading books new books about ADHD relationships. While many quotes are about men with ADHD, the authors make efforts to include examples where the woman is ADHD and swapping genders in their narrative. This is good to see. Since more men than women are diagnosed with ADHD, it maybe there are more examples around where the man has ADHD and his female partner does not.
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Post by Little Owl on Jul 31, 2014 15:03:35 GMT
I'm not sure I understand your comparison between ADHD and non-ADHD people? It's taken me a lifetime to transcend feelings of shame/inadequacy and I'm still not quite there! When I look back, I can see what these feelings have cost me, in relationships, in lost opportunities. Are non-ADHD people the same? I think Melissa Orlov was talking about some research within the general population i.e. mainly men and women without ADHD. It is recognised that those with ADHD tend to harbour feelings of shame, presumably beyond "normal" levels. Given this, I was musing whether a woman with ADHD would suffer shame to a similar level to that felt by men in the general population. If so, that could mean that woman with ADHD may be able to empathise with a non-ADHD male parner quite well. If this empathy was there, I wonder whether ADHD counsellors could use this in some way to improve communications. I wish you well with your battle with shame and inadequacy. Hopefully future opportunities will get grabbed rather than lost.
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Post by Little Owl on Jul 28, 2014 9:11:33 GMT
I am reading “The ADHD Effect on Marriage” by Melissa Orlov. This quote struck me hard….
“There are some who feel that men suffer more shame than most women realize, and that women are driven by a fear of abandonment or disconnection. So when a woman expresses dissatisfaction, a man may become defensive or not want to talk about it because he feels shamed by her dissatisfaction. Women who fear disconnection and abandonment often respond to this behaviour by “pursuing” the man than much more.”
I’m a woman with ADHD; my husband non-ADHD. He only has to mention a list of jobs he has completed and I am riddled with shame because I fail to achieve as much as he. Internally I withdraw into myself. The external manifestation of this is that: my face hardens as I hide my shame and my additional shame at having that emotion; and I fail to praise him to the heavens for his fantastic and jolly helpful achievements.
I’m musing on the idea that a woman with ADHD may be as sensitive to shame as a non-ADHD man.
Any thoughts?
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Post by Little Owl on Jan 15, 2014 13:51:56 GMT
These suggestions are interesting. I like the links to youtube, my son may well be tempted to look at them.
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Post by Little Owl on Nov 4, 2013 15:37:44 GMT
I found this: At a glance guide to the current medical standards of fitness to drive (pdf) at www.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/232964/At_a_glance.pdf It states with respect to ADD: DEVELOPMENTAL DISORDERS Includes Asperger‘s Syndrome, autism, severe communication disorders and Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. A diagnosis of any of these conditions is not in itself a bar to licensing. Factors such as impulsivity, lack of awareness of the impact of own behaviours on self or others need to be considered. Continuing minor symptomatology may be compatible with licensing. Cases will be considered on an individual basis. The impact of comorbid conditions may cause more problems - they are also discussed in this document.
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Post by Little Owl on Nov 4, 2013 15:18:00 GMT
Does anyone know how long it takes for the dvla to officially say you're ok to drive - I'm assuming you do actually get something? I got my license through today 4th Nov 2013 (Happy Day), valid for the full 10 years and no restrictions. I have to declare if my GP or doctor says I shouldn't drive but that is true of anyone. I submitted the form 27th July and due to information not getting from my psychiatrist & GP to the DVLA I was waiting (and chasing up) for just over 3 months.
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Post by Little Owl on Oct 25, 2013 16:36:26 GMT
This is triggered by Cleverliteral post about relationships.
From what I have read, if the client desires to look at relationship issues in a Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) session that would be just fine.
There is another form of therapy that concentrates specifically on relationships - not surprisingly called "Interpersonal Therapy." I read of it's existence in a book about depression though I know nothing about what it entails. I looked on the web for a description and the following seems reasonable:
"Interpersonal therapy delves into an individual’s social relationships and how to improve them; thus taking note of current relationships and evaluating the health of these relationships. The IT approach seeks to improve a person’s relationship skills, communication skills, expression of emotions, and assertiveness. Both of these approaches [CBT & IT] emphasize the importance of the client being actively involved in their own recovery."
It may be an option if an IT therapist with ADHD training exists.
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Post by Little Owl on Oct 25, 2013 15:43:30 GMT
I thought you may be interested in an update. I submitted my form 27 July, it is now 25th Oct (3 months) and the declaration is still being processed.
The delays are due to problems getting information from psychiatrist to DVLA. I can't get to the bottom of the issue but it has resulted in my having to do some unexpected chasing up. Administration and making sure things are chased up in a timely manner are not ADHD strengths. The DVLA send a letter every 6 weeks to give you an update on the progress of your application - this helps to make sure I keep on top of the situation.
I spoke to the DVLA and they were quite clear. If your psychiatrist deems you safe to drive then you can continue while your application/declaration is being investigated. If you are making a declaration, it is probably a good idea to phone the DVLA and check in case the rules have changed.
It is fortunate that I am allowed to drive, otherwise I would be in a right state now. As it is, I am happy just to wait.
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Post by Little Owl on Oct 25, 2013 9:36:38 GMT
Also, I've just remembered that I used to fiddle a lot with blutac and paper clips and things like that when I was in primary school (before I knew I had ADHD). In terms of things to do in class, it's really discreet because they're just normal objects! Do you mind me asking how old your son is? > "Do you mind me asking how old your son is?" Not at all. He is 11 and will today have completed his first somewhat chaotic (surprise, surprise) half term at secondary school. I think we are on our seventh item of P.E. kit that has had to be replaced as they did not make it home. He has (bless him) asked his teachers, gone back and looked in the rooms and looked in the lost property but it is hard when you are the first year and don't want to look stupid.
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Post by Little Owl on Oct 25, 2013 9:20:08 GMT
Wow, Thank you folks - I am quite astounded by the number of suggestions. I'm going to write a list and pass these to my son as possible things he can do. I won't do them all at once so that I reserve some as he gets older and above all, give him choice. Any further posts are still welcome. Thanks again, Little Owl.
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Post by Little Owl on Oct 20, 2013 13:34:54 GMT
This is quite likely to cause screams of horror as what I did goes against all advice to find a place with no distractions.
I (many years ago) used to do all my homework in front of the TV; not french vocabulary or when I got into higher education but certainly during secondary school. My mum let me do it because I used to get on with my work without her nagging me much and the work was generally of high standard). It took me ages to do my homework but I got there.
It worked in part because I was capable of hyperfocus (sometimes found with ADHD). It also afforded me a way to relax my mind; I looked up at the TV in a sort of dreamy fashion when I could not think what to write next. TV may have helped with boredom & procrastination in someway - if I could do both things (one pain, one pleasure) at the same time, I was more likely to start.
The programmes I watched were familiar and somewhat repetitive e.g. scooby-doo which has essentially the same plot in every episode so did not require much brain energy. Children are happy watching recorded programmes over and over again. This would have worked for me.
I don't think working in front of the TV would help many with ADHD and it certainly does not work all the time - but it may work for few ADHDers, some of the time.
If you want some other ideas, Kevin Robert's "Movers Dreamers and Risk-Takers" has some. His ideas would need to be adapted for your primary school child but his amusing book may seed some helpful strategies. It will also give you some fodder for helping your child in higher education.
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Post by Little Owl on Oct 20, 2013 13:03:42 GMT
Hi,
Having just had one of those mum, dad & son conversations with my son, I am appealing for some ideas...
My son can't concentrate unless he is in someway fidgeting - Neither can I (ADHD). My husband (not ADHD, just has lots of jobs to do) finds sitting still listening a bit tricky.
Son does not want to use fiddling toys (bored with the suggestion) so please, please will you tell me your ideas?
Here are some things my husband or I do: Get up and unload the dishwasher/ wipe down kitchen work surface or other mindless household task, bite my nails, doodle on a sketch pad, take notes of what is being said or decided, try and stop my foot from bouncing, twist a bit as if my back is hurting (which it is sometimes), rub my chin (sagely) or play with my hair, fiddle with the mobile, grit my teeth, deep breath....
What I'd like to do is give my son some ideas. We wouldn't mind him shuffling cards for example; we know he can listen and in fact often listens better if he is fiddling. As he is at home we can let him do things that maybe he can't do at school, but I am hoping you guys will some ideas he can try and maybe adapt for other situations.
In the long term my aim is for my son to develop his own socially acceptable ways of keeping his attention on the conversation but for now he needs lots of ideas to try.
Regards, Little Owl.
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Post by Little Owl on Jul 27, 2013 14:21:45 GMT
Today, the DVLA says that "You must tell DVLA if you have attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD)." See www.gov.uk/adhd-and-drivingThe full list of conditions that may have to be reported to the DVLA is on www.gov.uk/health-conditions-and-drivingThe form you have to fill in is the M1 form at www.direct.gov.uk/prod_consum_dg/groups/dg_digitalassets/@dg/@en/@motor/documents/digitalasset/dg_066650.pdfI know this because I have had to renew my license and have declared my conditions. BTW it was not clear whether I should send my renewal + M1 form to the Drivers Medical Group (stated in the M1) or the renewal group stated in the renewal form. I sent it to the Drivers Medical Group. It would be nice if the Drivers Medical Group sent you a letter or email to say that they had received the form, but they haven't. Even nicer would be something reassuring that says I can drive while they investigate. After all, the DVLA are dealing with people who are quite naturally anxious about their future ability to drive (its a big thing to the individual; a matter of routine administration for the DVLA). I am concerned that my driving license will expire while they investigate, leaving me unable to drive because I have been honest. I feel as if I am starting to shout so I'll sign off.
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Post by Little Owl on May 30, 2013 8:51:50 GMT
This issue terrifies me. I can feel the anxiety levels rising every time I think about it. My situation is complicated by the fact I have comorbid bipolar. My life and that of my family would be devastated without a car, almost certainly the imposition of a ban would in itself throw me into depression.
A few years back I looked at the DVLA website and support sites – the conclusion I came to was the situation is a quagmire. If my ADHD memory serves....
. The outcome of any assessment is (according to the support sites) hugely variable. . The rules on temporary bans are based on medication changes alone i.e. if your medication is decreased you should not drive for 3 months. . No safe behavioural changes to accommodate one’s disorder are taken into account.
I know I have the information I found in my logbooks but cannot bring myself to make a more informative post. BTW my psychiatrist has said repeatedly that he deems me save to drive and my driving record is good.
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Post by Little Owl on Mar 3, 2013 15:39:09 GMT
I’d like to recommend a book called: Survival Tips for Women with AD/HD. Beyond Piles, Palms & Post-its by Terry Matlen, M.S.W. (2005) ISBN 1-886941-59-9, Speciality Press, Inc (Florida). “Over 300 tips by and for women with AD/HD. 25 tips great tips from AD/HD coaches.” For me finding this book came a little late. I found that I had implemented, am in the throes of implementing, or have contemplated quite a few of the tips suitable for me and my family life. I may have employed a variant on a tip, but the basic idea is similar. Having said that, “Survival tips..” was a great boost to my self-esteem – I’m not going too far wrong. However, if you are seeking new ideas, Terry Matlen’s book may be good for you. - It is in a format where you can dip in and out so you can use it as a “tip of the day” source.
- The type face is a good size so if you are tired or dizzy you can still manage to see the words.
- The chapters are short for those with a limited attention span.
With a self-help book containing so many ideas of things you can do I’d like to give a health warning. - Please select very carefully which tip you are going to implement next i.e. don’t try loads at once.
- Involve the family (especially your partner) before you leap into the change i.e. communication, negotiation, review & feedback.
- Recognise that you may have to adapt the tip to suit you, your life and your family i.e. a good tip may not prove to be a panacea and is likely to take more time to get in place or become a good habit than you ever expected.
Sadly, I didn’t give myself this advice and ended up in a state of collapse surrounded by demoralising failures. Yet again I had did my ADHD thing of starting too many projects, getting exhausted and failing to follow-through. This is not the fault of the book; it is me failing to manage my ADHD impulsivity and hyperactivity. I did persevere, albeit at a crawling pace, and now attribute much of my success in managing ADHD to the self-help book “You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?!” by Kate Kelly and Peggy Ramundo. Please consider this my second recommendation.
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Post by Little Owl on Mar 3, 2013 14:50:57 GMT
Sari Solden's book is truely empathetic. It made me cry because there was so much in there with which I identified. Having a disorder that no-one around you understands can be isolating; it was for me. Women with ADHD.... is therefore a good place to start reading and learning. In hindsight I would read it before I started looking into self-help books.
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Post by Little Owl on Aug 6, 2012 8:35:51 GMT
Naturally with ADHD I have two ideas that may help. It will take me too long to give both, so I will amply an important technique for my ADHD. That is to try and bat one idea out of my mind so I can concentrate on the other.
But I don’t know which to choose. URGhh! A classic example of my follow through problems with ADHD. I will choose the easiest, another technique to employ.
Oops, I have to go and get dressed. Time is ticking and I haven’t finished this post. I’ve spent too long reading this site. Now more ideas will flow, not just for this post but ideas for my own writing. I will have to bat these ideas away too, just to get dressed. ADHD again.
Back finally.
With ADHD or other mental health disorder, if you are struggling, the advice is to get help.
Let’s say you are struggling with sequencing and organising your thoughts into chapters of similar size before life passes you by and someone else nicks your ideas. In this example, what you may need is an editor or secretary to sort the ideas for you.
I bet there are mum’s out there with skill in this arena who are seeking a part time job they can fit into child care i.e. not working in the summer holidays and during term time, working from 10-2pm.
They may be prepared to work at a cheaper rate than is normal for their skill level.
I once contacted a local nursery to ask if they know any parents in this position and they came up trumps. My child had gone to the nursery, they remembered me and were willing to help. I couldn’t afford much help but it was very useful for the time I had it.
Oh dear, I’m starting to write too much. I have to go back, edit, type in and actually post. I also want to put this in as a diary entry on addwise.org.uk, the adult ADHD site I am trying to create . Another battle with balancing ADHD and family life ensures, I really should go back and help get the children dressed and ready for the day out.
Done the edit by remaining in my bedroom, ignoring my duties to the family. Now I have to go downstairs and try to find time to type this in. This will annoy my husband who expects, quite reasonably, me to get on with family duties. My next battle continues.
In posting this article, I have won this battle so far, that is unusual.
My next battle is posting my article on AddWise.org.uk. Will I do that? I don’t normally manage.
You say “The trouble is that the time it's taking me means that someone else is going to steal it or make the links themselves.” Due to ADHD, time is passing me by as well, I sympathise.
Regards, Little Owl.
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Post by Little Owl on Aug 6, 2012 7:04:15 GMT
I'm sorry I got my post wrong. My message "I found your "recommended reading" interesting and informative. Thank you for posting the links." was for andy12345.
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Post by Little Owl on Aug 6, 2012 7:02:26 GMT
I found your "recommended reading" interesting and informative. Thank you for posting the links.
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