helbryce
Member's not posted much yet
Posts: 4
|
Post by helbryce on Nov 4, 2017 2:56:39 GMT
Hi. I am a 37 year old woman who (after years of being 'diagnosed' with depression/anxiety/bpd/etc/etc) was diagnosed last year with 'adhd' (inattentive type), medicated with concerta xl, and has been doing really really well! My issue is my nearly 3 year old daughter. She is very much like me! For the last 6 months she has been having what appear to be night terrors and very very severe tantrums (behaviour like the night terrors) during the day (although less frequently). She also seems at times to be 'absent'My husband has epilepsy so we have sought medical advice and been referred to a paediatrician. Epilepsy is obviously the main concern however, I am concerned that the behaviour my daughter is displaying may indicate she has a similar issue to me. Many of her 'issues' (and I am aware that they may be simply 'normal' if extreme toddler behaviour) can be indicative of a cognitive processing disorder. If epilepsy is ruled out how do I raise the issue of cognitive processing disorder? My psychiatrist (in the course of diagnosing me) saw my daughter and did suggest that it may be an issue with her. I would not wish her to be labeled at the moment as (apart from the issues I have mentioned) she is developing fine but I worry that if issues arise in the future she may have to go through what I went through (years and years of being misdiagnosed and medicated inappropriately- which, in my case, lead to serious problems)
|
|
|
Post by marionk on Nov 6, 2017 10:20:48 GMT
Hi helbryce, welcome to the forums Forwarned is forearmed, so if she does develop problems that you or she can't deal with on your own, then at least you know that ADHD is likely at the root of them, and can push for an appropriate diagnosis.
|
|
|
Post by computermandan on Nov 14, 2017 14:10:42 GMT
We think our middle daughter (now 12) is like me... very innatentive and shy/awkward etc.
We haven't sought diagnosis for similar reasons. And she copes like i did (just about) with school. Teachers when mentioned dont have a clue about the types and look at us odd when explained. So we gave up.
Instead using what worked for me amongst other things to try nd help her thrive somehow. The worst is friendships etc are minimal. Made worse as sisters going to parties and sleepovers all the time... its not that ppl dont like her she just doesnt think to invite ppl and doesnt get that deep with ppl too.
I would play it by ear as it seems you are and if you think extra support is needed prob best to approach school formally as we found informal a waste of time
|
|
helbryce
Member's not posted much yet
Posts: 4
|
Post by helbryce on Nov 17, 2017 4:26:08 GMT
Thanks for replies... Am up at a stupid time in the morning as my daughter's sleeping issues have got worse/different. I have decided to 'go with the flow' if you like, for now. I think that there is a significant possibility that my daughter has similar issues to me.. But I coped through school, and 6th form (less well!), without major problems. What I am going to do is, if problems/issues arise, be they educational or emotional or medical, raise the possibility of ADHD/Processing disorder, and push for an assessment. I have discussed this with my mother- and she says she wishes I had my diagnosis far far earlier and she thinks about what she could have done to make that happen. My Mother is a primary school teacher with a degree in psychology and experience in special educational needs, but I stumped her! My adhd is not and would not have been been a huge problem... What was the problem was being wrongly diagnosed and then given meds that not only did nothing, but actually gave me more problems... If my daughter faces those problems I hope I will be able to fight, on her behalf, for correct treatment, or give her the information, knowledge and support to get it herself
|
|
helbryce
Member's not posted much yet
Posts: 4
|
Post by helbryce on Nov 17, 2017 4:32:46 GMT
Thanks for replies... Am up at a stupid time in the morning as my daughter's sleeping issues have got worse/different. I have decided to 'go with the flow' if you like, for now. I think that there is a significant possibility that my daughter has similar issues to me.. But I coped through school, and 6th form (less well!), without major problems. What I am going to do is, if problems/issues arise, be they educational or emotional or medical, raise the possibility of ADHD/Processing disorder, and push for an assessment. I have discussed this with my mother- and she says she wishes I had my diagnosis far far earlier and she thinks about what she could have done to make that happen. My Mother is a primary school teacher with a degree in psychology and experience in special educational needs, but I stumped her! My adhd is not and would not have been been a huge problem... What was the problem was being wrongly diagnosed and then given meds that not only did nothing, but actually gave me more problems... If my daughter faces those problems I hope I will be able to fight, on her behalf, for correct treatment, or give her the information, knowledge and support to get it herself
|
|
|
Post by marionk on Nov 30, 2017 7:28:22 GMT
I have recently discovered that my sleep is very much affected by what I eat, and while I still have a long way to go to find a remedy for my daytime fatigue, at least it is now only intermittent rather than unremitting, and I have made significant progress in getting quality sleep at night. Sadly the two do not appear to be related, at least not in the simple positive way of a good night's sleep resolving daytime sleepiness.
You say your daughter's sleep problems have changed, and my recent discovery makes me wonder if something in her diet has changed? Has she recently started drinking tea or coffee, does she now have packed lunch rather than cooked, has she 'turned' vegan or vegetarian?
|
|
li
Member's not posted much yet
Posts: 2
|
Post by li on Dec 26, 2017 19:36:54 GMT
I’m a new member to the forum and would like some advice. I’m concerned because my Son lacks focus. He has a wild imagination and is so very creative: he can spends hours playing with his toys, having a great time. What I’ve noticed over Christmas is he rarely listens to any one when they ask him questions. I have to signal to him to let him know that his auntie, uncle, grandparent, cousin etc wants his attention before he will pay attention. When I talk to him as well he doesn’t listen the first or second time most of the time. It is only when I speak more sternly that he makes a conscious effort to listen. He is bright but only when things interest him, I worry that because he can switch off and go off in his own world so easily that he doesn’t pay attention in school. I’m concerned he may have add from what I’ve read this evening online. Does this sound likely from how I explain him to be? I would be so grateful for any advice
|
|
li
Member's not posted much yet
Posts: 2
|
Post by li on Dec 26, 2017 19:37:58 GMT
Also, apologies if I’ve posted in the wrong place
|
|
|
Post by vagueandrandom on Dec 27, 2017 18:21:47 GMT
I’m a new member to the forum and would like some advice. I’m concerned because my Son lacks focus. He has a wild imagination and is so very creative: he can spends hours playing with his toys, having a great time. What I’ve noticed over Christmas is he rarely listens to any one when they ask him questions. I have to signal to him to let him know that his auntie, uncle, grandparent, cousin etc wants his attention before he will pay attention. When I talk to him as well he doesn’t listen the first or second time most of the time. It is only when I speak more sternly that he makes a conscious effort to listen. He is bright but only when things interest him, I worry that because he can switch off and go off in his own world so easily that he doesn’t pay attention in school. I’m concerned he may have add from what I’ve read this evening online. Does this sound likely from how I explain him to be? I would be so grateful for any advice Hi! it sounds pretty much like ADHD . .you'll have to talk to your GP and school if you want to get an assessment. This forum is for adults with ADHD and most of us haven't been diagnosed until well into adulthood, so it's probably not the best place to look for advice. Try the ADHD Foundation or ADDIS. If it is ADHD, your son can't filter out anything, so all noise will seem the same and he can't pick out the speaking bits . .it could also be that he's listening, but looking elsewhere. . .or listening, but not retaining the information . . .there's a lot more to ADHD than lack of concentration.
|
|