Hello everyone. Apologies for the unfinished subject name but I was unsure how to word it. I am unsure if anyone here knows about Childhood Emotional Neglect (CEN) but I am having psychotherapy because of my mental health diagnosis's and my childhood has been something that I am struggling to deal with. Throughout my childhood I was the one that wouldn't do as I was told / argue etc. I was diagnosed in my early 20s with ADHD so my parents, as well as me were totally oblivious to why I behaved the way I did. During my childhood after some heated arguments my dad would sometimes go for days without talking to me because I did something wrong- which although I did do something wrong it was so difficult to deal with. I would try to apologise and talk to my dad and I would get upset but he would just ignore me and at the time it was so hard to deal with. My mum would take my dad's side so when he was around she wouldn't interact with me. I know this is a long shot but I am hoping I can find someone or some people that can relate. I am sure that I can't be the only undiagnosed adhd kid that was emotionally neglected.
For anyone unsure on what CEN is here is a link which will help give you an understanding of the subject:
That sounds really tough. I had something similar with my mum - when things got bad enough she would shut down and ignore me. It was never for days though - usually max of one day. But it was very distressing; sometimes she would shut me out of her room in silence while I cried on the other side of the door saying sorry. For hours. But I think she has issues too, so it's hard to blame her completely for it. She never says sorry to this day! But hey ho. I don't think I suffer from many of the issues mentioned - maybe worrying too much what others think of me, even if I logically tell myself, "who cares?!". I luckily had my dad who was always a lot more supportive emotionally. And my mum wasn't entirely non supportive, it just depended on her mood and how crazy I was being.
Sorry I can't relate anymore, but at least you're in a good place to find support here - I recently joined the Facebook group, so if you like you can try reaching out there <3
Hey Duckester I can relate to what you are saying. My 10 year old daughter has anger outbursts on a daily basis and in an attempt to help her, I've been researching ADHD. I now believe that I also have undiagnosed ADHD and I really relate to what you say about your childhood
i was the epitome of the troubled child of the 80s before anyone called it adhd it was called being a naughty little fucker..
i was kicked out of three primary schools, one high school all for outbursts an my inability to lisetn to teacher or anyone else (BUT I EXCELLED ACADEMICALLY??? AT LEAST WHEN I WAS ALLOWED IN THE HALL TO DO THE EXAMS, ID DO THEM AN LEAVE BEFORE MOST HAD STARTED BUT TEACHER DIDNT LIKE IT IF I COULD EXPLAIN HOW I WORKED STUFF OUT "i can see the answer in my head" just was not acceptable to my maths teacher!!!!!!
My parents just stonewalled it and ignored it, rather they carried on working late all time an just leaving me alone ot do what i wanted.
Given house keys at 9 an being told to stay out of the way was not helping..
i ended up kicked out of school, my mum disappeared saying she couldnt cope and i ended up in jail by 17, parents never even came to see me in four years, got out an rebuilt my life a bit. didnt ever speak to mum again..
10 odd years on, id been sacked time after time for anger issues, then turned to weed to manage my as yest undiagnosed issues..got bewtter an able to work, held down good jobs, promotions to team management allsorts!!!!
now 20 years on i had a huge mental breakdown due to my ex neglecting my child.. i lost my whole world, then get diagnosed an now im a single dad trying to raise a 2 year old girl while managing my adhd issues an bipolar too
i have no meds, no support, no idea where to turn now or whats going to happen but i DO NOT want my children to go through what i did so i am trying to learn all i can in case my kids have what i have.. Id be grateful for any insight or supprort anyone can offer
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