Post by victoriaw on Jan 31, 2020 11:23:07 GMT
Hi, This my first time posting. So my little boy is due to start school in September and the school applications deadline was the 15th January. I applied on the 17th after a friend came over and made a comment about doing her little girls application and I said 'Oh I haven't done mine...', and she informed me I had missed the deadline.
Upon investigation it has become apparent that there is no chance whatsoever of my son getting into the same school as his three older siblings with a late application and we will be at the back of any appeal/waiting list as well. I have quite severe ADHD which I actually feel has ruined my life in many ways but hey ho! I struggle literally all day, every day, which I am sure many of you will be able to relate to. I am a single parent and I also work, there is absolutely no way I could possibly manage two drops and pick ups and work, My kids are already late for school almost every day despite trying my hardest to not let this be the case and I am also late for work and my whole life is just a joke.
Well I made my late application as soon as I realised and emailed the admissions team to explain my situation and that I haven't received any information about applying for a place, I had no idea when the deadline was, that I barely get a moment to come up for air and that things that don't fall into my every day routine are often omitted purely because of how my brain works and my inability to function like a normal person, or just the fact that I have ADHD. I stated that I was only two days late and that I wasn't asking for him to be guaranteed a place anywhere, just that his application was considered with the on time applications.
They emailed back to say that usually nursery/pre-school will send out information and that they try to give out information where possible but it is not compulsory so they can't help me.
I am wondering how a process that provides no information whatsoever (years ago we received a letter when our child was nearing school age), no reminders, NOTHING! And has a fixed deadline of which to apply by, is in any way fair on people with ADHD given the struggles we face on a daily basis?
I would be really interested in other peoples views of this, I have been researching this for the past two days and ADHD seems to be a disability that people don't give much thought to which is upsetting in itself. I am 100% certain that if I did not have ADHD, I would not have missed the deadline, if I had had a letter or email, or something for reference to put on the fridge etc I would not have missed the deadline, and even being made aware of the deadline in the first place would have probably also helped! I am in no way the kind of person to pull the 'disability card' in order to have my own way about anything and everything, I have never even referenced me having ADHD as having a disability but it really, truly is, as I am sure anyone here who has ADHD will know, and I think if there is ever a time to advocate then its now.
Anyway, thank you for reading, sorry for rambling, any opinions or advice greatly appreciated. Thanks!
Upon investigation it has become apparent that there is no chance whatsoever of my son getting into the same school as his three older siblings with a late application and we will be at the back of any appeal/waiting list as well. I have quite severe ADHD which I actually feel has ruined my life in many ways but hey ho! I struggle literally all day, every day, which I am sure many of you will be able to relate to. I am a single parent and I also work, there is absolutely no way I could possibly manage two drops and pick ups and work, My kids are already late for school almost every day despite trying my hardest to not let this be the case and I am also late for work and my whole life is just a joke.
Well I made my late application as soon as I realised and emailed the admissions team to explain my situation and that I haven't received any information about applying for a place, I had no idea when the deadline was, that I barely get a moment to come up for air and that things that don't fall into my every day routine are often omitted purely because of how my brain works and my inability to function like a normal person, or just the fact that I have ADHD. I stated that I was only two days late and that I wasn't asking for him to be guaranteed a place anywhere, just that his application was considered with the on time applications.
They emailed back to say that usually nursery/pre-school will send out information and that they try to give out information where possible but it is not compulsory so they can't help me.
I am wondering how a process that provides no information whatsoever (years ago we received a letter when our child was nearing school age), no reminders, NOTHING! And has a fixed deadline of which to apply by, is in any way fair on people with ADHD given the struggles we face on a daily basis?
I would be really interested in other peoples views of this, I have been researching this for the past two days and ADHD seems to be a disability that people don't give much thought to which is upsetting in itself. I am 100% certain that if I did not have ADHD, I would not have missed the deadline, if I had had a letter or email, or something for reference to put on the fridge etc I would not have missed the deadline, and even being made aware of the deadline in the first place would have probably also helped! I am in no way the kind of person to pull the 'disability card' in order to have my own way about anything and everything, I have never even referenced me having ADHD as having a disability but it really, truly is, as I am sure anyone here who has ADHD will know, and I think if there is ever a time to advocate then its now.
Anyway, thank you for reading, sorry for rambling, any opinions or advice greatly appreciated. Thanks!