Post by razor707 on Feb 14, 2020 16:24:55 GMT
Mine seems to be a similar story to many others but I'll briefly introduce myself in the hope of being supportive to, and being supported by you all.
I'm a 49 male and 18 months into a 2 year waiting list for an official ADHD diagnosis.
Bright but awful at school. Constant feelings of failure and not being able to do simple things my peers seemed to easily be able to achieve. Never felt like I fitted in but an observer would probably say I was well liked.
All my relationships started well but eventually went bad. I've always had an enormous amount of love to give but always got frustrated because my partners couldn't understand me or see that I was making any efforts in the relationship at all. It just never made sense to me. I've just separated from my second marriage.
Major periods of depression and/or anxiety since I was a teenager.
My 10 year old son was diagnosed with ADHD about 3 years ago and for the life of me it never occurred to me to get tested until about 18 months ago. I just thought I was a bit odd and tried the best I could to fit in all my life.
The GP informing me I almost certainly had ADHD hit me like a train. On the one hand I now had answers to so many areas of my life this had obviously impacted. On the other hand I didnt want to use it as an excuse to my failing marriage. Unfortunately its all a bit too late as my wife didn't really seem interested in researching ADHD in her husband even though our son has it.
So I find myself at 49 with no significant assets (through very poor money management), 2 failed marriages and 2 young kids- one of which has ADHD and the other is on the verge being expelled from her school due to behaviour problems.
So all in all I'm feeling pretty sorry for myself at the moment. At least I know I'm not alone thanks to others on this forum and the growing amount of information on the subject.
Thanks for reading and best to you all.