Post by anita on Feb 25, 2020 15:53:05 GMT
Hi
My name is Anita, I'm 56 years old.
In the past my sister has commented on my behaviour; I overheard her telling someone that I was probably autistic (she also used other terms that I don’t want to quote her on.) Lots of people tell me I tend to go off into my own little world. I think there’s something different about me too. My partner thinks I may have ADHD.
My partner is typing this up for me, as I find the forum screen very confusing and jumbled.
Sorry, I'm getting frustrated, my mind has gone blank, I can't concentrate on anything, but I need to crack on.
I notice there's certain things I always struggle with that other people don't seem to struggle with. Sometimes I can shut off into my own little world. I struggle with communication, a lot of the time I get the information but it gets all mixed up and I end up doing the wrong thing. I tend to sit and listen rather than pushing my own opinions. If it’s everyday chit chat, it’s not too bad, but if it’s anything to do with the work environment that’s when I have real issues; a lot of the times I don’t understand things and I have to ask for things to be explained again, especially if it’s a few commands, because I’ll either forget one of them or do them in the wrong order or otherwise get things wrong. If I’m already doing a task and someone asks me to do another job, I’ll go and do the new task but will forget to go back to the previous one. I’m now unemployed.
At home, I struggle to prioritise tasks. When it comes to administration tasks I’m useless and totally get confused. I have always struggled with being organised, but my partner has helped me learn to force myself to use a calendar and to use lists, and to stick to using them, which has really helped. When my partner asks me to do something or get something, I tend to get things wrong. If my partner tells me a long sentence the words tend to get jumbled up in my head or it’s like words get missed out. If I try to do things the actions get jumbled up. It sometimes really upset my partner who gets frustrated with me as it can add lots of strain and stress. My partner says that I tend to blurt things out without thinking, sometimes at the very worst of moments whilst she’s doing complex things, especially when she’s already asked me to wait for an appropriate time or give her some space.
When I read things written down or on a computer screen I struggle to read from top to bottom; I always end up skipping paragraphs, lines or instructions without realising and often missing important information.
I had a go at the Psych Central ADHD Quiz ( psychcentral.com/quizzes/adhd-quiz/ ) I scored 37 (inattention subscale 23, hyperactivity/impulsivity subscale 14) which placed me in their "Adult ADHD" score range.
I think that’s it for now.
I don't know where to get a diagnosis (for Adult ADD if that's what it is) as I believe it isn't provided by the NHS anymore locally (Derby) for adults. I gained the courage to approach a local GP about it with my partner but the Doctor was very dismissive and we both left feeling very embarrassed and awkward.
Could anybody give me some feedback as to how to move forward?
Thank you for reading this.
Anita.
My name is Anita, I'm 56 years old.
In the past my sister has commented on my behaviour; I overheard her telling someone that I was probably autistic (she also used other terms that I don’t want to quote her on.) Lots of people tell me I tend to go off into my own little world. I think there’s something different about me too. My partner thinks I may have ADHD.
My partner is typing this up for me, as I find the forum screen very confusing and jumbled.
Sorry, I'm getting frustrated, my mind has gone blank, I can't concentrate on anything, but I need to crack on.
I notice there's certain things I always struggle with that other people don't seem to struggle with. Sometimes I can shut off into my own little world. I struggle with communication, a lot of the time I get the information but it gets all mixed up and I end up doing the wrong thing. I tend to sit and listen rather than pushing my own opinions. If it’s everyday chit chat, it’s not too bad, but if it’s anything to do with the work environment that’s when I have real issues; a lot of the times I don’t understand things and I have to ask for things to be explained again, especially if it’s a few commands, because I’ll either forget one of them or do them in the wrong order or otherwise get things wrong. If I’m already doing a task and someone asks me to do another job, I’ll go and do the new task but will forget to go back to the previous one. I’m now unemployed.
At home, I struggle to prioritise tasks. When it comes to administration tasks I’m useless and totally get confused. I have always struggled with being organised, but my partner has helped me learn to force myself to use a calendar and to use lists, and to stick to using them, which has really helped. When my partner asks me to do something or get something, I tend to get things wrong. If my partner tells me a long sentence the words tend to get jumbled up in my head or it’s like words get missed out. If I try to do things the actions get jumbled up. It sometimes really upset my partner who gets frustrated with me as it can add lots of strain and stress. My partner says that I tend to blurt things out without thinking, sometimes at the very worst of moments whilst she’s doing complex things, especially when she’s already asked me to wait for an appropriate time or give her some space.
When I read things written down or on a computer screen I struggle to read from top to bottom; I always end up skipping paragraphs, lines or instructions without realising and often missing important information.
I had a go at the Psych Central ADHD Quiz ( psychcentral.com/quizzes/adhd-quiz/ ) I scored 37 (inattention subscale 23, hyperactivity/impulsivity subscale 14) which placed me in their "Adult ADHD" score range.
I think that’s it for now.
I don't know where to get a diagnosis (for Adult ADD if that's what it is) as I believe it isn't provided by the NHS anymore locally (Derby) for adults. I gained the courage to approach a local GP about it with my partner but the Doctor was very dismissive and we both left feeling very embarrassed and awkward.
Could anybody give me some feedback as to how to move forward?
Thank you for reading this.
Anita.