mazzyc
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Post by mazzyc on Jun 20, 2020 9:56:41 GMT
Hi I am a 55 year old woman and I was finally diagnosed with adhd in February . I did not feel comfortable in the diagnosis room as I felt that adhd was made to be a negative thing and that by having it there was definitely something wrong with me. I don’t thing there is anything wrong. I and all my fellow adhders are just different. I have been prescribed meds but they make me cough -not good in current circumstances - and I find myself taking them so that I don’t get hurt by others perceptions of me not to help me structure! Is there a helpsheet for partners somewhere so that they can learn what adhd means and how we see the world and that putting things away distracts from what we are doing etc . Also that negative comments and insults just make us worse. I have scoured internet and all I can find is the worlds opinion that we are wrong and it has really upset me.
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Post by speedy1 on Jun 20, 2020 17:39:58 GMT
We r different and like u I don't think that's wrong
I usually do everything the hard way which seems 2 frustrate the life out of those closet 2 me
I've found that taking my time and explaining why I have done whatever I've done in the way that I've done it has helped
Example I was getting a bollocking of my then boss about why I had changed my delivery route
I explained about traffic school closing times and whatever other reason there was 4 me 2 deviate
She said ok I c ure thinking but 1 of the deliveries was timed which I didn't know
So we agreed next time that if I wanted 2 change my route I'd let her know and she'd write on which orders were timed
Problem solved
So what I'm saying is u've both got 2 compromise
U can't expect 4 him 2 do all the work/changing
And u can't do everything in 1 go!!
U can't just write a list and boom all ure problems r solved
If he does something that annoys u tell him y it bothers u
Likewise when u do something that annoys him tell him ure reasoning 4 doing it that way
Maybe u'll reach a compromise?!
Also remember it's easier 4 us 2 understand "normal" people
Because we've had more experience of dealing with "normal" people than others have of dealing with us diverse thinkers
Due 2 the abundance of "normal" people in society
I hope u get what I'm trying 2 say? Good luck hope everything works out
And just a sidenote please don't feel pressured into taking meds
I don't and my friends and family love me 4 my quirks
When I first got diagnosed I was advised 2 try meds
And I kinda felt like I shud just 2 prove I had ADHD
I think at first u feel like a fraud or something
I'm sure u'll make the decision that's rite 4 u but 4 me aspiring 2 b normal sounded pretty boring
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