Reaching out for practical advice on how to support my partner.
My partner is female in her late forties and I think it likely that she is living with AADD. She loses track of time, is impatient when in a queue, is capable of hyper-focus on activities that engage her, is followed by piles of paperwork and clutter that keep building back up seemingly of their own accord, is distractable and is very sensitive to criticism. On the last point, the bulk of the criticism that troubles and upsets her is perceived not actual, to the point that she finds it difficult bonding with, for example, new work colleagues because she perceives most of her interactions with them to be adversarial and critical.
She's not been assessed for AADD and I don't propose to suggest that she do, mostly because I'm not a doctor and also because I think that suggesting she seek an assessment would cause her to shut down at what she might experience as very undermining feedback.
So my questions to the group are: -
- Should I continue to leave my partner the space to find for herself that she may be living with AADD (if she is, of course) and seek an assessment of her own accord or
- Be more direct in saying that I think she may be living with AADD and might benefit from an assessment?
If the feeling of the group is that it's best to leave her to her own devices regarding AADD, what practical support can I and should I offer her, silently from the sidelines?
I have a fairly similar situation. I got diagnosed with autism a year ago, with "residual adhd traits". In the process of exploration, I realised that my husband has attention deficit disorder. I told him this - it wasn't welcome news! He became angry and said that he didn't want to know. I feel that it would help us function better as a couple of we could discuss it, but he continues to say that he doesn't want to know if I raise it and then becomes angry and withdrawing with me I'm a bit stuck for how to proceed! I know this doesn't answer your question but I wanted to share.
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