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DLA
Oct 1, 2009 21:00:45 GMT
Post by Ann Dear on Oct 1, 2009 21:00:45 GMT
Following a conversation with a friend today suggesting I claim DLA I'd just like to find out if anyone here has done that & actually had it awarded? I am generally crap!!! I am capable of a lot of things & am an intelligent fast learner and all the rest of it......but i am absolutely useless at completing things - even the most mundane day to day things. For example - shopping - IF i buy the right stuff in the right amounts & have a fridge, freezer & cupboards full to the brim I lose the will to live as I have noidea what to make - too much choice & it does my head in - I get really agitated. Once decided upon If it's something that takes half an hour to do I can't be bothered to wait & end up getting a take away I can't afford!!! I really find the art of catering impossibly frustrating! Of course this is just one silly fraction of my day, every day. Today I forgot to make sure the kids had their packed lunch bags when we went to school & had to pay £4 for them to have school ones for the day when I can least afford it. They come home with letters & give me them to which I tell them to put them back int their bags or i'll lose them. They then get wrong when I forget to look at them and haven't signed things. Getting wrong off a 7 year old who'se in the right isn't nice but it's my life all over! I get really frustrated at my lack of clear thinking & can get really depressed about it. I'm pretty well as bad as my daughter is but I have a mortgage & other kids to look after - it's impossible. My friend asked me today 'Could you hold a job down? At 42 I have had 4 jobs - the longest lasted 4 months - all temporary mind - (i think) the last was 16 years ago!! I left school with 7 cse's all crappy grades 3 & 4 yet have an IQ of 136, on doing a Morrisby Psychometric Test I was the person who the Carreers Advisor wanted t be - I pretty well scored extrememly highly on everything - telling me nothing I didn't know already - that I have a brain but can't narrow it down into useful functioning! ARGH getting annoyed just writing this - wasted bloody life!!! Right going before I start bloody crying & my husband wonders what the hell i'm up to!!!! Anyone - any ideas? Help!
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DLA
Oct 1, 2009 21:46:01 GMT
Post by laura on Oct 1, 2009 21:46:01 GMT
hello sorry no ideas on the DLA but its nice to meet you ;D it all sounds so similar apart from paying for school luches, i have to nip into co-op on the way to school and buy crap to fill his lunch box with because he wont eat school lunches, which i have neither the money nor time to do as i am always late to take him to school. sorry should realy say im a single parent to 5 year old boy called tae. he complains about the mess and calls me fifi forgetmenot because i dont remember anything, but hes just the same so we normaly get on quite well when we are not arguing like a married couple ;D im still seeking a diagnosis and having a hard time doing so but im actually getting somewhere now. yay ;D anyway im sure someone will be along with some lovely useful advice for you
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DLA
Oct 1, 2009 21:56:31 GMT
Post by Ann Dear on Oct 1, 2009 21:56:31 GMT
Hi to you too - we only get packed lunches because we are so skint! I had them havign school meals before this year so they would at least get one decent meal a day as i'm pretty well useless!!! As mentioned above!! I try to get decent stuff for them & so far they aren't bored with it!!! It's seriously hard to remember anything & it's just wearing watching others grumble about things when you know their lives are probably so much more chilled & organised!
Oh another night terror coming downstairs fast asleep i think.....someting else we are having to deal with right now - could do without it!
Oh & i'm married with 4 kids - including a 16 year old with a 3 month old baby she had at 15 - yes she has ADHD.....an 8 year old with ADHD but looking more like he has some ASD going on also & the one just downstairs who is possibly a 'typical boy' but erm.....doesn't explain his constant butting in & impatience....
Ah life --- well at least they're lookers :-)
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DLA
Oct 1, 2009 22:36:38 GMT
Post by laura on Oct 1, 2009 22:36:38 GMT
i tried to get him to have school dinners for the same reason, i feel like a bad parent sometime because he doesnt usually get a decent meal from me, but luckily my mum lives not far away so i go down there to get him fed and everybody here are great and really build you back up when your down ;D do you mean actual night terrors because my son has those they used to scare me to death because he just starts screaming but hes not actually awake and i cant comfort him, or i find him wondering around. wow i find it hard with one child so 4 and a husband, i take my metophorical hat off to you ;D i thought it was hard getting pregnant at 17 and having my son at 18 so i cant imagine what it must be like for your daughter and oyur family too, although if it wasnt for my son unfortunately showing symptoms of ad/hd i wouldnt have found out about it myself. im trying to get him assessed because hes a lovely little boy but has very low self esteem, is having problems with learning at school/writing ect, but i find he can actually do it if i can get him to sit down and pay attention long enough. he loves art and design and computers but doesnt like doing anything else at school. he has terrible mood swings and gets upset really easily, he often seems in a world of his own, i even got his hearing checked because he just doesnt seem to be able to hear me sometimes. he also hits himself on the head when he's angry and has done since he was about 2. anyway i hope you find it helpful on here and if you join up you can see in the lounge. i like it in there its like a private special bit, but its just the same really
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DLA
Oct 2, 2009 13:30:09 GMT
Post by boo on Oct 2, 2009 13:30:09 GMT
hi ann i have just sen this now and thought i would say hello. were pretty similar in age (i too remember the days of cse's ) I skipped before exam time and didnt even leave with one of those since my dx last year i have been on one hell of a rollercoaster ride, not sure its quite finished just yet either, but maybe its slowing down a little bit. i really felt for you in your last sentence about crying for your wasted life, i have felt pretty down and low at times and hate seeing anyone else feeling like that too. i think the thing i really should think myself lucky for is that i am working and although its not a terribly satisfying job (to say the least), it does pay my bills and mortgage and chipping away at the credit cards and consolidation loan s! that have built up over the years i spent most of my early adult life being told how i had thrown it all away and i had so much going for me if only i had settled down and worked hard. yeah thats just great. and i think about the 'professionals' i encountered between the ages of 13 - 20 and wonder why i was left to flounder with just a few 'wise words' occasionally to send me on my way anyway, heres me blurbing out when you have asked a question i havent even come close to answering, sorry wasted life and tears? yeah i get just where you are coming from x
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Oct 2, 2009 14:55:16 GMT
Post by Deleted on Oct 2, 2009 14:55:16 GMT
Hi Ann, welcome
With regards to DLA, we have a high majority of the young people (16-25yrs) on DLA. Many with High Rate care and others with Middle rate Care plus all on Low Rate Mobility.
It will depend on the level of your support needs and managing day to day. There is a website (can't remember link) that helps with regards to claiming DLA. Oh and the dx does not mean anything, it is your level of need that counts.
My own son now 27 is on DLA High Care & Low Rate but he is dual dx with ADHD & ASD. There is also a DWP free phone number for people with disabilities.
On the school meals/packed lunch issue---are you on low income? Recieve Tax Credits etc, etc then there is a possibility you can claim for Free school meals for the kids and School Uniform/transport allowance.
Hope this helps?
Honey x
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Oct 3, 2009 17:22:18 GMT
Post by Deleted on Oct 3, 2009 17:22:18 GMT
Hi Ann, i just want to say hi too. I could have written Boo's answer. I've been going through a grieving process since finding out i have add. It could have been very different story for all of us in here.
I'm trying to stay positive that we still have a chance to enjoy the rest of our lives & make the most of it!
I'm similar to you, i've got 4 kids, one diagnosed adhd, one being assessed atm, so understand your struggles!! Its a mad-house.
Can't help u with any DLA q's, its all new to me too, Simone x
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Dec 8, 2009 14:12:39 GMT
Post by Deleted on Dec 8, 2009 14:12:39 GMT
I found out just recently that i could claim DLA for having ADHD. So i've applied. Still waiting for a reply though.
The Social Worker who helped me fill the form in is pretty confident that i'll get it.
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Dec 8, 2009 20:10:19 GMT
Post by Deleted on Dec 8, 2009 20:10:19 GMT
Hi I claim Dla for adhd and dyspraxia and have done for several yeae and i totally get the wasted life high IQ i feel exactly the same.
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Dec 9, 2009 18:20:02 GMT
Post by Deleted on Dec 9, 2009 18:20:02 GMT
Hiya again, about to start forms tomorrow!! Tried to get meg to do them for me lol!!!! got psyc nurse friend coming over to help!! should take her 20mins, me 2 yrs! Then i've got to do dd's..Want to find out what support is available, just don't know where to start!
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Dec 10, 2009 22:25:35 GMT
Post by Deleted on Dec 10, 2009 22:25:35 GMT
Hi Simone ill definately do them ring me and ill tell you what to put if you need me for anything im here for you xx
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