Post by n1979 on Jan 24, 2023 20:29:09 GMT
Over a year ago I discussed my concerns with my Son's school that I think he may be on the Autism spectrum, at the time I didn't know that ADHD & ASD traits can overlap. A referral needed to come from the school, however when the SENDCo teacher observed my son in class, she said there were no issues and I don't need to worry as he's doing fine. He has always performed well at school & again at the time I didn't know that you could be "high functioning" & on the spectrum. My instinct told me something wasn't adding up as we were really struggling at home. When I asked her if it would be worthwhile seeking a private assessment, she said to me, over the phone that it was a lot of money & why would I want a label on my son when he's obviously doing fine. It did make me think twice & when I asked a couple of private companies, they were not assessing children of his age (7 at the time). Forward a year & a bit, he's almost 10 & we did get a private assessment in December for ASD & ADHD & he was diagnosed with ADHD. This has come as a relief as we can understand him so much better & explain things to him also, so although we still have some meltdowns, it's nowhere near as bad as it used to be.
After my son was diagnosed, I spoke to the Head & deputy at his school & said that I was really unhappy with the SENDCo's advice / opinion & that she should not be talking in these terms. I've said that I want this addressed with her, but they are telling me that she is unwell & I get the feeling they just want me to drop it. My children are at an independent school & this means that the school does not have a statutory obligation to follow the SEND code of practise beyond EYFS. I accept that, however I don't understand how it's acceptable for a SENDCo employed by the school to talk in these terms to concerned parents.
How would you want this resolved?
After my son was diagnosed, I spoke to the Head & deputy at his school & said that I was really unhappy with the SENDCo's advice / opinion & that she should not be talking in these terms. I've said that I want this addressed with her, but they are telling me that she is unwell & I get the feeling they just want me to drop it. My children are at an independent school & this means that the school does not have a statutory obligation to follow the SEND code of practise beyond EYFS. I accept that, however I don't understand how it's acceptable for a SENDCo employed by the school to talk in these terms to concerned parents.
How would you want this resolved?