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Dec 1, 2009 15:47:20 GMT
Post by Deleted on Dec 1, 2009 15:47:20 GMT
sorry i come accross as weird on here, im not complety mad honestly just wanted some reassurance and advice thats all. Having hard time, if getting on peoples nerves just have to say and i wont post on here again. Thanx everyone for your support.
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Dec 1, 2009 15:57:32 GMT
Post by .... on Dec 1, 2009 15:57:32 GMT
Ello Meggie. Was sorry to read about your bad day yesterday by the way. Thought the whole thing terrible, but was too cross at them on your behalf to write anything intelligent. I seriously doubt anyone on here thinks you are weird. Reassurance and advice is what I find on here too. If you get on anyones nerves - and I think it unlikely - then they will wander off to another part of the forum. If anyone on here had to be sorry about anything I'd put money on it being unable to help each other more than they do. And in the spirit of it being the 1st of December today - Merry Christmas! There. I got in first. Ta da. And you gotta pop back on the other thread later on Meggie (unless you already did) so you can tell me how you can 'hold a baby wrong' ?? I've had a close hand in raising two stepsons, two daughters, three nieces and a nephew and that one bamboozled me!!! I'm finding it difficult to believe you aren't doing far better than you think. Chin up.
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Dec 1, 2009 16:09:26 GMT
Post by Deleted on Dec 1, 2009 16:09:26 GMT
Thanx chraysis, Merry Christmas too you and everyone too i posted a thread on here and put it in introductions, which was in wrong place just down today.
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Dec 1, 2009 16:20:30 GMT
Post by Deleted on Dec 1, 2009 16:20:30 GMT
Rushing out but ditto! DOn't see why anybody here would see you as "mad". This is the one place I feel like pretty much anything I say can be guaranteed someone's felt it before, or something like it, or that at least they'll make the effort to understand what it might feel like.
Didn't read about your bad day yesterday. Hope you're feeling a little better now!
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Dec 1, 2009 16:27:06 GMT
Post by Deleted on Dec 1, 2009 16:27:06 GMT
Thanx gav im please you had recognition of adhd and aspergers congrats, itsw a step in right direction lol
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Dec 1, 2009 16:45:22 GMT
Post by Deleted on Dec 1, 2009 16:45:22 GMT
Meg you come across as a lovely person here & in 'real' life lol i'm so looking forward to meeting u..
You're hard on yourself, you couldn't have the career you have without being somewhat 'together' & professional in person, you have so much going for you!
You can reveal your 'head-mush' in here, we've got to have somewhere where people understand us, & can offload out difficulties?!! This is a adhd forum after all, we're not pretending to be perfect, right?? xx
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Dec 1, 2009 16:53:54 GMT
Post by roland on Dec 1, 2009 16:53:54 GMT
Hi meggie, I certainly don't think you're weird and you haven't been getting on my nerves, and I seriously doubt that you've been getting on anybody's else's nerves. Like chrysallis I too am very cross at the people where you work I wish I could come over and knock some sense into their silly little heads for you but it probably wouldn't do any good because they would just think I was weird and annoying. Now there's a thought, how do you think they would handle a bunch of us ADHD'ers? btw I too want to know how you held a baby the wrong way. What did you do mistake it's bottom for it's head? ;D
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Dec 1, 2009 17:01:41 GMT
Post by Deleted on Dec 1, 2009 17:01:41 GMT
Thanx guys i think job is not right for me its an extremely responsible job dealing with vulunerable famillies and children, and althogh im trying best i can do it until get adhd and head sorted. I left a pair of adult scissors in the room a child could have gokt hold of them and hurt themselves, its too stressful like nursing was. At least i have diagnosis and hoipfully be medicated and after couple years and some thraphy who knows. But for ow ive asked for redeployment, if they cant find me anything ill look for somthing else. lol
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Dec 1, 2009 17:04:47 GMT
Post by Deleted on Dec 1, 2009 17:04:47 GMT
I was going to post on your other thread but couldn't think of anything I could put in writing. I've been in a similar place to you (and worse at work, but that's another story) and really feel for you - but how do you write it down? I'm not much cop at anything but butting heads and being difficult, and have difficulty expressing myself, but I want to join in with a virtual hug (if you do hugs and my support for you. Keep it going Vicky, online mates aren't as good as 'being there' but we'll do what we can.
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Dec 1, 2009 17:08:55 GMT
Post by Deleted on Dec 1, 2009 17:08:55 GMT
Awww thats really nice dave, you put it perfectly..Hugs fo meg!!
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Dec 1, 2009 17:11:15 GMT
Post by Deleted on Dec 1, 2009 17:11:15 GMT
thank you ill sort my life out, i think adhd makes me caring and compassionate, i i spout my feelings too much. But thats me, what you see and hear is me. I wish i could hide feelings, i also wish i wasnt impatient, and impulsive god life would be so much more simpiler.
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Dec 1, 2009 17:20:02 GMT
Post by Skybird on Dec 1, 2009 17:20:02 GMT
I'd just like to repeat what everyone else has said in the fact that we don't think you're mad, we all need a place to vent our frustrations.
it's hard when a job is not right for you and I hope you find something else very soon.
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Dec 1, 2009 19:40:18 GMT
Post by twix on Dec 1, 2009 19:40:18 GMT
I'm going to quote a good friend of mine who used to always tell me to STOP APOLOGISING As for the scissors, yeah shouldn't have left them there, fair enough, but really, total over reaction, stop worrying about past mistakes, and they are just being difficult, which like I said is bullying. Everyone makes mistakes. Nobody died. When I have a **** day at work, that's my bottom line. FWIW I work in a similar job to you and I think you could be well suited to that kind of work, but you need to be at your best for that kind of job and you can't be when you are not being supported. Its not you its them.
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Dec 1, 2009 21:43:56 GMT
Post by boo on Dec 1, 2009 21:43:56 GMT
heya meggie, i just wanna second what everyone else has said and say i think chrys is spot on about if peeps are possibly sorry about anything its not being able to offer as much support as they would like, it certainly is for me anyway, i havent posted much lately cos i have felt as useful as a chocolate teapot, but i guess we all have our own peaks and troughs that we go through and that means that when some are down and need the support, others can help and vice versa. you arent coming across as mad or weird, well, no more than the rest of us ;D, i reckon we are quite a mad bunch anyway, in a good way of course dont let the bstards get you down, and definitely dont disappear on us
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Dec 1, 2009 23:48:05 GMT
Post by Deleted on Dec 1, 2009 23:48:05 GMT
I used to work in a china shop and everything was going swimmingly when one day this bloke came in, copy of the Racing Post under his arm. He seemed all right and everything and we got chatting about this and that, and he even gave me a couple of tips, and then, out of the blue, he says, "tell you what, could you just look after my bull for a minute while I pop over the road and put a bet on?" Thing is he seemed on the level, but he never came back. It was just me and this bull, looking at me. The first ten minutes was great. Bull was happy. I was happy. And then he started tapping his back foot a little. Just this minute movement really, but it was making me nervous. So I'm thinking "come on fella" your race has got to be over by now, starting to sweat a little under my collar, you know. And the boss was due back any minute. But there I am still thinking, "it's ok, I'm just doing a good turn. Anyone would do the same. I mean, wouldn't you though." But come lunch time and he's not back, I'm really starting to get worried. Bull's looking at me now, but looking at me funny like. He doesn't look so happy any more. What can I say?! Boss comes back, shop's a bloody mess. Well, shop's a mess is an understatment. That's what he said to me: "Gav", he said, real quiet like, kind of worse than when he's loud is when he's quiet like that, "bit of a mess is an understatement. I'd call that an understatemen myself." No shop left more like. "Gav" he said, "you prat. You've fell for old cock and bull Harry haven't you. I should've knowd it the minute I sin you." And then he opens the door and shouts out "Hey Sid" Sid runs the army and Navy stores across the road, "new boy's only gone and fell for old Cock and Bull!" "He hasn't!" says Sid, red faced, bulbous nose, hip flask in hand, laughing heartily. He raised his hip flask at me, sinking behind the counter in the non shop. "Still" he says, "not to worry. Damages will be paid for." And he closed his door. Old Sid closed his door. Hm, ok, sorry, late burst of hyperfocussed lyricism. I didn't work in a china shop as it happens, but I have made more mistakes than a sultan has had sultanas and I can tell you there a natural part of any job. Don't beat yourself up about it. And don't expect too much. And if you see a paddy walking a bull, don't offer to look after him, even if he's the most personable bull you ever set eyes on! I feel like Jackanory. Who's weird and completely mad now wahahahahaha
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Dec 2, 2009 13:07:20 GMT
Post by laura on Dec 2, 2009 13:07:20 GMT
id like to second what everybodyelse has said, i dont think you wierd or completely mad, thats what we are all here for! ;D to read and give advice and reassurance dont go! ;D and merry christmas everyone!!
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Dec 3, 2009 23:27:15 GMT
Post by haydreamer on Dec 3, 2009 23:27:15 GMT
Meg, please stay and chat here, ;D I smiled when you mentioned that you discuss everything in the open and need reassurance and am impatient, that's me too!! Just read my VERY FIRST posts, I was really down sometimes and the people here were fantastic, we all come here to vent our feelings, we are not judged here, unlike the selfish ignorant non adders , like at your work place, Don't be discouraged, would be great if u could get together and find or start a support grp in your area, having adders to support you would be a great peace of mind,take care, I second BOO, don't let the b***tds get u down, PM me if you wish, I am more than willing to lend a listening ear. Hugs x
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Dec 4, 2009 9:16:31 GMT
Post by Deleted on Dec 4, 2009 9:16:31 GMT
Thanx haydreamer, and thanx everybody.
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