Post by dina1 on Aug 30, 2014 12:02:02 GMT
Hi,
I am new to this forum for some time I have suspected my partner has ADHD I have been doing reading on ADHD and he really has all the symptoms.
We have been going out for just under 2 years we live together and we continue to have had the same issues over that time, the biggest being his lack of communication, disappearing without contact, disorganisation, not appearing to listen or follow through on tasks and just generally being disorganised about most aspects in life. About 6 months into the relationship we had a conversation and he told me he was kicked out of every school he has been in for disruptive behaviour, anti social behaviour when younger but when he explained the behaviour it wasn't malicious. He then said he had to get some tests and go to some groups, his mother then said they wanted to give him medication, change his diet and she said no. I asked him was he diagnosed with ADHD and he said he can't remember.
We recently went on holiday and he is always the last person back from wherever we are or what we are doing and he actually said I think there is something wrong with me and again I said I know you spoke about your childhood do you think you might have ADHD, maybe you should talk to a doctor he did not respond.
His behaviour is increasingly affecting the relationship in a negative way as he also does not have a job at the moment and I am getting frustrated with what appears to be his lack of other support or effort. he is now depressed and I don't really know how best to support him to get him to a better place and what to do for this relationship to last. He is very adverse to getting diagnosed.
has anyone experienced anything similar, any thoughts, ideas would be greatly appreciated I really love him and want it to work just struggling to find a way through the chaos
thanks
Dina
I am new to this forum for some time I have suspected my partner has ADHD I have been doing reading on ADHD and he really has all the symptoms.
We have been going out for just under 2 years we live together and we continue to have had the same issues over that time, the biggest being his lack of communication, disappearing without contact, disorganisation, not appearing to listen or follow through on tasks and just generally being disorganised about most aspects in life. About 6 months into the relationship we had a conversation and he told me he was kicked out of every school he has been in for disruptive behaviour, anti social behaviour when younger but when he explained the behaviour it wasn't malicious. He then said he had to get some tests and go to some groups, his mother then said they wanted to give him medication, change his diet and she said no. I asked him was he diagnosed with ADHD and he said he can't remember.
We recently went on holiday and he is always the last person back from wherever we are or what we are doing and he actually said I think there is something wrong with me and again I said I know you spoke about your childhood do you think you might have ADHD, maybe you should talk to a doctor he did not respond.
His behaviour is increasingly affecting the relationship in a negative way as he also does not have a job at the moment and I am getting frustrated with what appears to be his lack of other support or effort. he is now depressed and I don't really know how best to support him to get him to a better place and what to do for this relationship to last. He is very adverse to getting diagnosed.
has anyone experienced anything similar, any thoughts, ideas would be greatly appreciated I really love him and want it to work just struggling to find a way through the chaos
thanks
Dina