Post by noidea on Nov 5, 2014 14:05:36 GMT
Hi,
My partner of 2 years was diagnosed with ADHD about a year ago and now takes the appropriate medication (well, when he can remember). On top of the ADHD he suffers extremely poor self esteem and lack of control over his... I'm loathe to use the word temper because it isn't a temper as such, just frustration I guess and it comes out in a bit of an aggressive manner. Its caused him problems his whole life and whilst I have the patience of a saint (I was the one who got him the diagnosis because I pushed and pushed and pushed for specialist help) even I am struggling. Things have been extremely stressful the last year for reasons other than the ADHD but none of it does the ADHD/anxiety/self esteem any good and we have spent more time arguing than anything else. We are trying very hard now to move on but at times I wonder if I should just get out now. Is that really harsh? I don't mean to be, but sometimes I really just want a bit of peace. I love him to the moon and back and we get on well when there are no external influences but add those in and it all goes a bit wrong really
I suppose I just need to know others have felt like this really... the never ending rollercoaster ride is wearing me down and I don't know how to stop it wearing me down. It goes totally against my nature to leave someone because of a mental health condition (I have depression myself that I keep under control with medication) but there are days I want to shut that door and never open it to him again. Yet to imagine life without him in it? I honestly don't know. I don't know if I'm stressed or if I should listen to these little warning bells going off in my head that say 'get out before it gets worse and you waste your life'.
Horrible place to be in I sound so selfish I know - I'm really not, honestly. I just... sometimes I've just had enough. I don't even know what I'm expecting anyone to say really, I know only I can make the decision but I honestly don't know. When things are good they are fantastic but when they are bad?? I really don't want to be there. I'm so, so confused.
My partner of 2 years was diagnosed with ADHD about a year ago and now takes the appropriate medication (well, when he can remember). On top of the ADHD he suffers extremely poor self esteem and lack of control over his... I'm loathe to use the word temper because it isn't a temper as such, just frustration I guess and it comes out in a bit of an aggressive manner. Its caused him problems his whole life and whilst I have the patience of a saint (I was the one who got him the diagnosis because I pushed and pushed and pushed for specialist help) even I am struggling. Things have been extremely stressful the last year for reasons other than the ADHD but none of it does the ADHD/anxiety/self esteem any good and we have spent more time arguing than anything else. We are trying very hard now to move on but at times I wonder if I should just get out now. Is that really harsh? I don't mean to be, but sometimes I really just want a bit of peace. I love him to the moon and back and we get on well when there are no external influences but add those in and it all goes a bit wrong really
I suppose I just need to know others have felt like this really... the never ending rollercoaster ride is wearing me down and I don't know how to stop it wearing me down. It goes totally against my nature to leave someone because of a mental health condition (I have depression myself that I keep under control with medication) but there are days I want to shut that door and never open it to him again. Yet to imagine life without him in it? I honestly don't know. I don't know if I'm stressed or if I should listen to these little warning bells going off in my head that say 'get out before it gets worse and you waste your life'.
Horrible place to be in I sound so selfish I know - I'm really not, honestly. I just... sometimes I've just had enough. I don't even know what I'm expecting anyone to say really, I know only I can make the decision but I honestly don't know. When things are good they are fantastic but when they are bad?? I really don't want to be there. I'm so, so confused.