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Post by marjoleine on Jul 14, 2014 11:12:54 GMT
wow.. that is very politely put sky! sounds like as much an asswipe as my manager was. people like that can ruin your good-times at a workplace. mind your boundries and make sure that you remember how worthy you really are of being there and doing your job!
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Post by computermandan on Jul 14, 2014 11:33:09 GMT
pretty much EVERYTHING i post on facebook... "must stop posting on facebook" "must stop commenting on wife's friends statuses" "must stop deliberately antagonising people on facebook" doh.
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Post by contrarymary on Jul 14, 2014 14:51:31 GMT
i wonder if you have any idea how much damage you do when you tell me i am "difficult". not, i note, that you sometimes find my behaviour difficult, or that you find me difficult to work with or to understand, but that I am difficult. and when i ask for clarification you simply say "we ar what we do and you are difficult" and this despite your years of training, despite your famously strong pastoral skills, your own privately-told insight that much of the "problem" has stemmed from your own personal history, lack of knowledge and insecurities and your generous admission that you can never repay me for what i have enabled you to do. but still you take the credit for the work we have done together and roll forward on the back of what I have taught you, telling the world that you had to work slowly with me because i am difficult. it is not fair. and you go on and reap the benefits and i am left with little and still misunderstood, even by myself i hope there is an upside. atm i am sad, and i am angry. i am trying to let go of it and respond compassionately but it is so hard.
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Post by petra on Jul 14, 2014 16:44:16 GMT
((((cm))))
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Post by shiveringsky on Jul 14, 2014 16:46:26 GMT
wow.. that is very politely put sky! sounds like as much an asswipe as my manager was. people like that can ruin your good-times at a workplace. mind your boundries and make sure that you remember how worthy you really are of being there and doing your job! The gas thing, is that she used to be a social worker. The whole thing has me really thrown but positivity comes in the fact that I know I am doing the best I can. If it isnt good enough... well I tried. The failure isnt on me, it's just not the right fit. I sometimes think way too much about what I am going to say and the zillion ways it can be taken, so when others don't I find it even more hurtful. But feck 'em, aye?!
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Post by shiveringsky on Jul 15, 2014 12:08:37 GMT
I have a feeling I'll post here way too much but...
Hey Mr Taxi man in yer fancy silver Merc... don't tell me to "Cheer up and smile." then ridicule me for only being up after a sleepless night. It makes me want to twist the badge off your car and wear it as a necklace while gleefully chiding you into smiling and being happy about it. Don't you know about resting bitch face? I can't help it. I was born to look melancholy, baby.
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Post by petra on Jul 18, 2014 3:04:54 GMT
Dear brain,
I don't think you realise quite how difficult you are to live with. I've tried everything I can think of to sort out our problems - including counselling and even medication. I've tried giving it time, and adapting my life to fit around you better. But whatever I do, it's never enough.
It's just not working out between us. I want a divorce.
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Post by petra on Jul 20, 2014 3:03:37 GMT
I would like a medication library so I could trial all different medications and supplements for free, as and when I felt like it, to see what actually worked.
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Post by smith on Jul 22, 2014 0:20:54 GMT
Take your CBT and stick it up your ignorant ass. Do you not think ive tried to think positively all fucking ready?!!! Seriously?!!
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Post by tashg on Aug 5, 2014 21:22:34 GMT
things I want to say: to partner - no it is NOT ok for you to really need to talk and have a meltdown when I haven't slept for 42 hours with a massive work crisis; and if I really try my hardest to stay awake and talk because you are in serious distress and I love you and then drift off once or twice it is DEFINITELY not OK for you to get reactive and pissed off with me. ... (but I am pleased you felt much better after you vented for 4 hours and I really listened - we were good again after that!) to partner - when you say you want to go through all the last few months and look at what I was doing during the day and if I was working or not "to see how you can support me" that makes me fearful and potentially judged and it scares the bejesus out of me. What was going on for me was that I know I could NOT get on task with work and was too scared to admit it to you or anyone. Especially you because you are so good at being on task and on time. Deadlines are something you just don't miss. I can learn so much with you and from you, and I thank you for that. But I am still scared that you will judge me, like you did the week before I started on meds. to my manager - you are being fantastic in helping me pick up the pieces, but close monitoring and requiring me to report every day on stuff and timesheets and all the extra HR admin stuff I need to do every week is actually stopping me from meeting my ridiculous deadlines because I need to do all that admin stuff first in order to demonstrate that I'm on top of my job - and THEN fit in the real work. I can't do it, I can't meet those deadlines and how on earth am I going to fix this? I can't move my leave and if I try to work during my holiday again I will spend half of it having a massive row with my partner about why I have not got it all done already on time. to the planet - PLEASE can someone invent a time machine and only make it available to ADDers so we can just nip back and get an extra 35 hours in the working week? then we'd probably just about get it done. maybe.
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Post by tashg on Aug 5, 2014 21:34:16 GMT
to my dad - bloody hell. I WISH you had faced up to your bipolar and other stuff going on and worked out what the hell it was and taken responsibility for it. It would have made all of our lives much much better.
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Post by astraka on Sept 12, 2014 7:32:05 GMT
Access teams are walking clichés. I've mentioned my own recent experience elsewhere on the board but was talking to a friend last night. Different Trust, different access team, still you've heard it all before.. My friends daughter, who has an eating disorder, was told her BMI was too high to access services. Telling some one with anorexia they weigh too much! You couldn't make this stuff up
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Post by aardvark on Oct 5, 2014 22:43:13 GMT
To the people who create the student timetables: Arrgh! Is it too much to ask to have a timetable that isn't completely different every week?! Organisation is difficult enough as it is!
To my next door neighbours who keep playing the same song over and over repeatedly whilst I'm trying to read: The only reason I haven't burnt your house down is because my house is attached to it. That and I don't want to be arrested.
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Post by cloud9 on Oct 8, 2014 18:53:56 GMT
To anybody who tries to talk to me on my coffee break..... My head is feeling like the untidy kitchen drawer (full of stuff that's important enough to retain but with no idea of what to do with it) and after a mental morning it's now overflowing with the stuff. So for ten minutes I want some caffeine and to pretend to read this magazine and not make eye contact with anyone No I'm not interested in the hilarious story about your mothers new kitten?
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Post by supine on Oct 10, 2014 20:26:10 GMT
*BAD LANGUAGE ALERT - LOOK AWAY NOW IF YOU ARE EASILY OFFENDED* The Scene:Today, on a conference call which included directors of two companies, both of which are quite large and influential. The context: I had just completed 30 days work in 20 days, including writing a technical low level design document in a day and half for a complex security system. The trigger: Not even a thank you, even from the guy who stands to make a commission on a £10m sale based on my documents that I just handed to him The insult: Being asked to do it again, this time they want a 20 days project in 5 days What I would like to have said: SHOVE IT UP YOUR FUCKING ARSE YOU UNGRATEFUL LITTLE PARASITE! I'M DELETING ALL THE DOCUMENTS I'VE WRITTEN AND I QUIT. IF YOU WANT THE DOCUMENTS AND MY CONTINUED COMMITMENT TO YOUR PRACTICES OF VIRTUAL SLAVERY, YOU CAN KISS MY HAIRY FUCKING ARSE. TWAT. That feels better
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Post by computermandan on Oct 15, 2014 12:40:34 GMT
Please send me to the moon where it looks like it might be quiet and people won't persistently pester me about the things I haven't done and never am likely to get round to doing because they are futile pointless things that just absorb my time and effort when I could be looking up house prices anywhere but here like the moon for example.
Dan's post management groan at me for not keeping client documentation up to date...
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