wj2044
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Post by wj2044 on Jan 27, 2015 15:54:43 GMT
[Sorry to post this twice. I tried posting as guest but the text is not displaying in the thread - Admin please remove other post] Hi there I'm looking for help for my partner's son. He has had ADHD most of his life and is now 26. He made a breakthrough 2-3 years ago when he went back to college and gained GCSEs having failed them at the age of 16. He has also had some limited success by entering the word of work, albeit in minimum wage jobs. Sadly the three jobs he has had have not lasted. He was dismissed from the second one for poor time keeping and he has just quit the third job. He is very bright, highly articulate and personable. However, he seems to have hit a brick wall in terms of finding a way through the fog to determine the best career path for him. The help I need:I'm looking to introduce someone to him who suffers from AADD and who had similar challenges finding a career path. Ideally someone late twenties or older. I'm hopefully not talking large amounts of time, just maybe a few chats. That person needs to be someone who has now found a career path and is successful in it - and I don't mean in terms of financial wealth, but success in the broader sense of the word. Can you help? Thanks
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Post by Mouse on Jan 28, 2015 1:07:48 GMT
I found a good 'job fit' and job satisfaction by trial and error, rather than having a career path set in my mind. I would have given anything to have a set career path, and an ambition.
But, as I didn't know what I wanted to do I settled for being employed in the meantime - with frequent changes of job - across of range of job types.
After dx I analysed all the jobs I'd ever done and worked out what I'd enjoyed and why. Then I was able to identify and apply for jobs that I had a greater chance of enjoying and doing well in.
Nowadays even the people who have identified a career path don't always get to follow it. They may be thwarted by many things (eg lack of jobs in chosen field, lack of training available, redundancy, change in personal circumstances). Or, after following a particular path, find they have outgrown the job, or are no longer challenged by it/enjoying it, or it wasn't what they wanted after all.
So IMO being flexible / open-minded helps.
Things like dealing with issues like lateness etc are something else again. Maybe find coping strategies /find a flexible employer / flexi time working. Or find work where timekeeping is not an issue - though I can't think of any.
I hope someone has PMd you about having a chat with your partner's son.
It is late so I have rambled on and missed the point.
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Post by wj2044 on Jan 28, 2015 12:22:01 GMT
Mouse that's actually really helpful and no you haven't rambled on nor missed the point! The point you make about not having a career path and not necessarily needing one is a good one. Look forward to hearing about experiences from others.
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Post by Mouse on Jan 28, 2015 13:31:08 GMT
You are most welcome What I should or could have added... that nowadays I tend to be a bit more 'controlled' about giving up on job. Thats because it is a more difficult job market and employers seem to prefer taking on someone who is currently in work. So I hope someone has or will be in contact for a chat. Maybe they will be able to act like a mentor and talk things through before a job becomes unmanageable. Sometimes the jobs are actually okay but it's our feelings and emotions that get in the way. I was some time in getting to realise this was the case for me!! So I would in sometimes regret giving up and my impetuosity. Not always though. It would have helped to have someone to talk to... even if only to blow off steam
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Post by Mouse on Jan 28, 2015 13:39:11 GMT
Also forgot to say congratulations to him for going back and getting qualifications.
Sounds like he has intelligent thinking, resourcefulness, tenacity and resilience on his side.
adhders with these qualities do not always see that in themselves and need reminding !
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Post by chickster on Jan 29, 2015 16:46:59 GMT
I was in commission sales for a while, starting with non complicated technology in a new market & moving up into complex IT over the years, earning 6 figures. It suited me well because my colleagues were a lively bunch, my lack of fear helped a lot & I was paid based on performance. There wasnt too much fuss about being on time in the morning as long as I worked hard & hit targets etc & there was lots of variety. Now Ive got my own business & staff/my business partner do all the things Im no good at, but at 26 you really need to be working for someone else. IT/Technology can be great (excellent pay, business hours only), recruitment is ultra strict, estate agents pay next to nothing & expect everything & advertising sales is just a slog.
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