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Post by fuzzywuzzy on Jun 23, 2013 18:50:34 GMT
Hi kaleidoscope and welcome.....not been here long myself....lots of advice, support, humour and above all, utterly brilliant people! They're all mad, of course, as you'd expect when you feel like talking more.....post your own introduction thread look forward to chatting more fuzzywuzzy
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Post by Deleted on Jun 23, 2013 19:37:25 GMT
Howdy
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Post by Kathymel on Jun 23, 2013 21:16:22 GMT
Hello and welcome. x
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Post by kaleidoscope on Jun 24, 2013 15:51:16 GMT
Thanks for the warm welcomes guys. Well, I am wating for the confirmation of my diagnosis on ADHD. Don't know the name of the test I did. Well, I did two actually. One I believe is the one that the NHS is using now and the other is the one that was previoulsy used. Don't know what this "previously" refers to and again, don't know which one they use now. Read a name a few times here on the threads but can't remember it. Not that it would make any difference if I did remember what they were called on the threads. Ok, steering... Sorry, I will not delete what is non- sensical but it will cut the flow. I was diagnosed in Portugal with Bi-polar and had really hard years in the 80's 90's and "recently" in 2001 to 2003. These last two dates with accute anxiety. Ah, really starting to go drifting so to cut story short, it all makes sense now. I am a Learning Support Assistant and heard of adult ADHD in a BBC radio programm. Mental Health consultant was reluctant to accept that I had ADHD although I scored really high in the tests. I don't want to have it. But I think she thought I did. So I was called for a second appointment. This time she was more understanding. So maybe she will send a letter to my GP confirming it. Confirming that I have the thing not that I want to have it... The consultant is adamant that I do not have bi-polar.As I read more and more about ADHD I realize and recognize that this damn thing is responsible for my state.I have told a colleague and my manager this morning and they seemed supportive so let's see how it will go from now.
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Post by jan on Jun 25, 2013 9:43:36 GMT
hi - welcome to the forum completely get what your saying - it does sometimes feel that it appears to professionals (and friends thinking about it now) like we want to have this condition when its simply that we have to work so hard to prove and have it accepted that we have it - because we just need treatment!!! god who in their right minds would want this condition has someone mentioned to you that they think you may have bipolar? when i was diagnosed (privately) few weeks back i was also diagnosed with bipolar 2 there's 3 of us on here that have that diagnosis that i know of and a guy with bipolar 1 if you want to explore that option (not right word really ) happy to help if can look forward to readig your posts j x
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Post by angelpie on Jul 8, 2013 13:04:14 GMT
Hey guys I'm Michelle and am the other half to Little Miki...she has recommended that I join the forum in order to get and possibly give!) advice to other people who are going on the same journey as us. Miki has recently (as in last week!) had her diagnosis for ADHD (finally!) but we have found it much easier over the last year to assume that she has had ADD (didn't think she had the H!) and as such, have already put loads of steps in place to help her with having ADHD and to make sure our relationaship survives lol. I know that our lives are never going to be "normal" but then, who's is?! Anyway, that's the short story M xx
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Post by JJ on Jul 8, 2013 16:40:08 GMT
Hi and welcome to the forum Little miki's lucky to have such a supportive partner.... Hopefully you'll both benefit from the info and support on here - good luck on your journey x
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Post by littemiki on Jul 9, 2013 12:18:02 GMT
Hello there, AnglePie and welcome to the forum
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Post by marjoleine on Jul 11, 2013 16:02:50 GMT
Hi all, Im from rotterdam holland. having my own message board for add in holland and being blessed with a firm liking for anything english, scottish and irish, i was quite qurious about this mssg board here!
bit about me: 27, known about having ADD for about 7 years now, learned to love it most of the time, learned to laugh at it big parts of the time and being fed up with it almost never.
so i guess im just another annoyingly happy ADD lady with some experiance and a curious mind :-D
love marjoleine
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Post by Deleted on Jul 11, 2013 17:06:22 GMT
Try some Welsh.
They can be quite tasty too!
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Post by marjoleine on Jul 11, 2013 17:37:08 GMT
ooh yes very true! specially like the ones with something to ADD...
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Post by jan on Jul 11, 2013 21:45:30 GMT
dag wel kom an adhd'er that doesn't get fed up with it - i'l be following your posts with interest looking for tips on that
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Post by marjoleine on Jul 12, 2013 13:23:03 GMT
haha thank you! your dutch is quite good i guess my biggest 'secret' on not getting fed up with myself consists of 2 things: 1- making sure i feel happy and content 2- being able to laugh at stupid things i do instead of feeling self contious. both took some serious work hahaha ill find a post or place to explain it better.. dont wanna get too offtopic on my second day ;-)
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Post by nomad on Jul 20, 2013 12:41:03 GMT
Hi all, I'm Philip, 43, currently living in the west midlands. I'm new to all this and only recently made the connection that I am probably ADD. Previously I'd always thought you had to be hyperactive to be ADD, but now realise that's not necessarily the case. I've had a whole range of problems through life such as depression, anxiety, Seasonal Affective Disorder and about six years lost to Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, but now suspect ADD is at the bottom of it all. The penny finally dropped when I realised that the only two drugs that made me feel better (Modafinil and Bupropion) are also used to treat ADD folk. Life's in a bit of a mess at the moment as I haven't been able to hold down a job for long in recent years, and so living in crappy temporary shared accommodation, but fingers crossed that will change. Anyway, that's more than enough for now. Looking forward to chatting with you and learning more about this thing! cheers Phil
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Post by fuzzywuzzy on Jul 20, 2013 14:41:27 GMT
Hi Phil, We're clever like that, aren't we? We figure it out ourselves .....wonder why that is!!?!?! We get there in the end......just takes a few years (decades) for the penny to drop! Then really all we're doing is getting professional validation Well done you for joining the (clever) gang! Welcome and looking forward to hearing more X x
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Post by JJ on Jul 20, 2013 16:34:36 GMT
Welcome to the forum Phil
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Post by Kathymel on Jul 20, 2013 23:14:05 GMT
Hi Phil. Welcome to the club. Are you going to do anything about getting a diagnosis?
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Post by nomad on Jul 21, 2013 17:59:37 GMT
Thanks v much for the welcome, guys I don;t know yet Kathy. It's all new so I need to read-up on all the helpful info here on the pros and cons. It looks like a great site you have here and I'm really glad to have found it! Will need to do some reading and get stuck into the social chat too. cheers for now
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Post by veerveer1 on Aug 13, 2013 5:42:06 GMT
Ok, will take care of this.
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Post by nomad on Aug 20, 2013 19:15:23 GMT
Should I be worried?!
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Post by katmint on Aug 21, 2013 18:58:57 GMT
Hi everyone - my name is Kathy and I live with my husband Baz and our 3 children in Newcastle. My middle son Dan is going through assessment for ASD, SPD and now ADHD. I'm going to post for advice in the relevant section but thought I'd come and say hi here first! Lovely to meet you all.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 21, 2013 19:58:16 GMT
Hi Kathy and welcome to the forum
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Post by Kathymel on Aug 21, 2013 20:42:12 GMT
Hi Kathy. I hope your experience with assessments is a smooth one. Fingers crossed! x
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Post by New Understanding... on Oct 5, 2013 2:01:27 GMT
Can't believe what I have just read!!! SO MANY of your stories ring true with me too! I'm a girl who just recently turned 30, and after circa 20 years of lighthearted acknowledgment from friends and family, and myself, that I am "totally ADD!" I just yesterday happened upon an article about the condition. OH. MY. GOD!!!... I couldn't believe what I was reading, and ended up reading for hours (something I usually struggle to do for long times) with utter disbelief at how much the whole description matches me!
"Intelligent and promising" but "too chatty and unfocused" at school, daydreamed through each lesson, often feeling angry and abandoned by my friends as they withdrew to focus on their schoolwork. I was popular and funny, and had plenty of friends, but couldn't relax or commit to just one routine, so I drifted constantly between several friendship groups.
At home my Mum wasn't coping, and the house and her parenting were utterly chaotic and unsettled. She ABSOLUTELY was suffering with the condition throughout my life. I can state that as fact having read up on this, as she displays even more symptoms than me! Short tempered, hated ANY distractions or noise in the house evenings or weekends (whenever she was home basically!!!), interrupts all the time, crazy oversensitive, anger management issues, chronic lateness, disorganization - with MOUNTAINS of newspaper cuttings, bills, clothes and groceries FILLING the house, very late sleeper and hence always exhausted, neurotic and OTT speedy storyteller, problems with authority, relationship issues. My Dad too in different ways. Couldn't handle human company for too long, very distractable and irritable, entirely intolerant to authority figures (such as bosses, teachers and doctors), and boasting a LONG string of shortly held jobs and studies, although he is a HIGHLY academic man, and writes prolifically. Both parents have been on and off Fluoxetine, Prozac, Citalopram, etc throughout the years, but improvements to their problems seem MINOR!
From 14 I was in and out of the NHS for mental health support, usually put down to depression, or unknown issues. I've struggled with sadness and whenever left to my own devices general overwhelmed BLANKness dominates my mind, and I can spend whole days staring ahead, only to realize the day's gone by and I need to get myself into bed for the night! I have partied, drank, and been premiscuous, and have consistently struggled to control sexual impulses when I find chemistry with someone. This has led to infidelity in most of my important relationships past, leading to DEEP pain, guilt and regret, and to me ending relationships in order to "release" then loving partners.
I have achieved moderate success with my musical career, and have a very low-functioning website for my own craft business, but I have a long list of failed jobs, courses, degrees, voluntary roles, projects, and relationships behind me - which over the years has led to the deepest feelings of shame, disappointment, regret and confusion.
I am currently on 10mg of Citalopram after twice breaking down at the GPs, unable to verbalise what was wrong with me, and being diagnosed as suffering from anxeity, but I have an appointment in 2 days, in which I am going to ask for specialist referral. I AM SO EXCITED!!! Have been walking on air all day, and can't wait to read more and more about the help that exists for this condition.
I know I've written wayyyyyyy too much, but had to vent, and hope you understand.
If you got this far, thankyou!!! Much love, peace and hope... xxxxx
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Post by lesschilli on Oct 5, 2013 5:57:42 GMT
Can't believe what I have just read!!! SO MANY of your stories ring true with me too! I'm a girl who just recently turned 30, and after circa 20 years of lighthearted acknowledgment from friends and family, and myself, that I am "totally ADD!" I just yesterday happened upon an article about the condition. OH. MY. GOD!!!... I couldn't believe what I was reading, and ended up reading for hours (something I usually struggle to do for long times) with utter disbelief at how much the whole description matches me! "Intelligent and promising" but "too chatty and unfocused" at school, daydreamed through each lesson, often feeling angry and abandoned by my friends as they withdrew to focus on their schoolwork. I was popular and funny, and had plenty of friends, but couldn't relax or commit to just one routine, so I drifted constantly between several friendship groups. At home my Mum wasn't coping, and the house and her parenting were utterly chaotic and unsettled. She ABSOLUTELY was suffering with the condition throughout my life. I can state that as fact having read up on this, as she displays even more symptoms than me! Short tempered, hated ANY distractions or noise in the house evenings or weekends (whenever she was home basically!!!), interrupts all the time, crazy oversensitive, anger management issues, chronic lateness, disorganization - with MOUNTAINS of newspaper cuttings, bills, clothes and groceries FILLING the house, very late sleeper and hence always exhausted, neurotic and OTT speedy storyteller, problems with authority, relationship issues. My Dad too in different ways. Couldn't handle human company for too long, very distractable and irritable, entirely intolerant to authority figures (such as bosses, teachers and doctors), and boasting a LONG string of shortly held jobs and studies, although he is a HIGHLY academic man, and writes prolifically. Both parents have been on and off Fluoxetine, Prozac, Citalopram, etc throughout the years, but improvements to their problems seem MINOR! From 14 I was in and out of the NHS for mental health support, usually put down to depression, or unknown issues. I've struggled with sadness and whenever left to my own devices general overwhelmed BLANKness dominates my mind, and I can spend whole days staring ahead, only to realize the day's gone by and I need to get myself into bed for the night! I have partied, drank, and been premiscuous, and have consistently struggled to control sexual impulses when I find chemistry with someone. This has led to infidelity in most of my important relationships past, leading to DEEP pain, guilt and regret, and to me ending relationships in order to "release" then loving partners. I have achieved moderate success with my musical career, and have a very low-functioning website for my own craft business, but I have a long list of failed jobs, courses, degrees, voluntary roles, projects, and relationships behind me - which over the years has led to the deepest feelings of shame, disappointment, regret and confusion. I am currently on 10mg of Citalopram after twice breaking down at the GPs, unable to verbalise what was wrong with me, and being diagnosed as suffering from anxeity, but I have an appointment in 2 days, in which I am going to ask for specialist referral. I AM SO EXCITED!!! Have been walking on air all day, and can't wait to read more and more about the help that exists for this condition. I know I've written wayyyyyyy too much, but had to vent, and hope you understand. If you got this far, thankyou!!! Much love, peace and hope... xxxxx Thanks you for summarising my life - albeit mine is from a male perspective. My GP appointment is on Monday. I slept for an hour last night......
Welcome. xx
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Post by jan on Oct 5, 2013 6:16:04 GMT
welcome new understanding, great that you've found us - it helps so much when you find your tribe hope you get some understanding and support from your doctor - make sure you go well prepared - if you've been reading the forum you'l know its not always an easy ride to getting a diagnosis . hows you mum doing now? she sounds very similar to me are you anywhere near liverpool? the national charity addiss are holding a conference on adhd next week - be worth going along if you could - there will be lots of workshops and information and lots adhd'ers to talk with. some of us from on here will be there (don't know how much sense you'l get out of us though ). hope to hear more from you soon jan
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Post by Deleted on Oct 20, 2013 17:44:15 GMT
Thank goodness I found this forum. Not ready to reveal everything yet (trust issues), but needless to say, and as an adult sufferer, I've been through the mill recently. I just couldn't understand some of the reactions I was getting from various conversations, but after getting some odious and threatening comments decided to try and get to the bottom of things. I've been in and out of depression since a kid, ending up as an official NHS outpatient to group therapy in my late 30s. Suicide to end the pain were upper-most in my thoughts until I started remembering some of the sessions I had at that NHS clinic some years back and started researching on some of those comments from the leading psychiatrist. This led me to the comorbitities of ADHD and OCD.
I just tick every box of ADHD (one in not such an obvious manifestation i.e. practical risk taking) and several of OCD. It's my GP on Tuesday to request a formal referral and if he doesn't agree, then I'm going to ask for a private referral.
I'm not putting up with this any longer
Thanks all
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Post by jan on Oct 20, 2013 17:52:40 GMT
hya @almostrelieved welcome to the forum - i know it has been a huge help for me finding others struggling with same issues in life and others on here say the same, good luck on tuesday hopefully you'l be changing your name to relieved and diagnosed sooner than later xx (ps remember to arm yourself with all the relevant helpful stuff off posts on here or from main page on site my memory so bad can't even think now to put here for you (even though have lived on here for nearly a year ) someone will prob come and advise before tuesday so don't worry if your not sure
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Post by Deleted on Oct 20, 2013 19:31:00 GMT
hya @almostrelieved welcome to the forum - i know it has been a huge help for me finding others struggling with same issues in life and others on here say the same, good luck on tuesday hopefully you'l be changing your name to relieved and diagnosed sooner than later xx (ps remember to arm yourself with all the relevant helpful stuff off posts on here or from main page on site my memory so bad can't even think now to put here for you (even though have lived on here for nearly a year ) someone will prob come and advise before tuesday so don't worry if your not sure Thank you very much. I feel the warmth in here already. I've already downloaded some pdf resources from the FAQ page, like the NICE and GP guidelines along with the symptom sheet ready for Tuesday. My wife's going to put her thoughts down too
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Post by Deleted on Oct 20, 2013 22:22:57 GMT
I get confused about whether it's OCD or Aspergers - I can get upset by lack of order around me.
I also think Aspergers morphs into inattentive ADHD in a spectrum stylee.
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