I wonder if anyone can offer advice or has been in a similar situation. I think my 22 year old has ADHD & although we have discussed this in the past he wouldn’t go through with an assessment. I have suspected he has ADHD for years and feel terrible about letting him down, by not pursuing an assessment when he was younger. There are many reasons we did not seek help for him but that’s another story and a decision I deeply regret. I need to encourage him to think about ADHD and the way this is seems to be impacting his life, the difference a diagnosis and possible treatment plan could make. Does anyone have any advice on how to encourage him to go for an assessment? Thanks in advance for any advice.
Receiving a diagnosis is a bit like being given a pair of roller blades.
If you've always been irritated by your lack of progress, the roller blades can be awesome. People in this frame of mind are typically ready to pay whatever the price is for this new found mobility.
Conversely, if you strap roller blades to the feet of someone who is not ready to be the best version of themselves, they are likely to resent every aspect of the process and hold you responsible for any injury.
With that in mind, my strategy has been to gradually unveil my diagnosis to my daughter along with my difficulties and how they've been remedied. She's seen me at my best and she's also seen me seething and inflamed in situations that others would probably not react to.
I never tell her she has ADHD. I just try to illuminate the condition, in a safe way, so she can make her own mind up.
If you feel like you're running out of time, the quickest way forward may be:
1. Get him to acknowledge his difficulties in terms of impulsivity, hyperactivity/hypersensitivity and inattention. 2. Ask his permission to try and help him (skip this step at your peril). 3. Attend at least one ADHD group meeting so he can test the water (are these my people?). 4. Book a private consultation with a recognised ADHD specialist.
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butterfly01: thanks i am not yet diagnosed but I feel I have found myself it's been a battle with family and coping with boredom
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tabby: Hi. I've just joined but struggling to understand how to use this forum! There are just so many long wordy bits and no obvious button to press to create a post. Is anyone able to advise please? This Shoutbox seems to be the only place I can add anything
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ceadhc: sweetlife. I'd thoroughly recommend reading the possible side-effects of Atemoxetine if you're a man and want to have children.
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ceadhc: Hey Guys. Just joined. No support ofr Adult ADHD in my area. If you want to know what CEADHC stands for it's: Creatively Enhanced Attention Different Hyperactivity Condition.
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missweebo: Just had to go private for my diagnosis as the 2 year waiting list was more than I could bare! I didn't realise how expensive it was. I'm 42 (next week) and just waiting for me titration to start on Elvanse. Anyone else found this process to be extortionat
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sweetlife: Hi, I am newly diagnosed. I had to go private due to long waiting list - 18 months plus. I've started Atomoxetine today, has anyone got any advice ?
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izzibear: Jax, did you get anywhere with the private option? My 19-year-old daughter was diagnosed with ADHD as a child but now Adult Services are refusing to renew her meds as they say her case isn't "severe" enough.
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incredibethy: hi my name is Beth, am 40 with adult adhd and been struggling for many years with thinking before I speak. I tried mindfulness and it leaves me depressed. Can anyone recoomend an affordable therapy option (I can master up to 50 pounds a session)
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jax: Hi, I have just registered on this forum, frustrated at delays waiting for my son to be assessed re ADD at Petherton, considering private route instead, any advice?
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vagueandrandom: zelda look at my post about NHS Right to Choose in Reviews secction.
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zelda: Hi, I’m a 60 year old who has always struggled with anxiety and depression. My GP has suggested I may have ADD and we’ve done the ADD ASRS questionnaire but I’m told I can’t be referred as there are no services for adults my age. Any suggestions?
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jacob13: Hi, I'm a young professional and my private doctor won't prescribe me Elvanse until I pass a drug's test, I'm 3 weeks sober from cannabis but still testing positive and may continue to test positive for THC for a long time. I'm looking for recommendations
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greenfern: Hello, I'm a 42-year-old mum and struggling with (undiagnosed) inattentive ADHD. Would like to talk to others in the same (messy and disorganised) boat.
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ninakay: no help in U.K. at all scared to the thought of no light at the end of the tunnel feel so pathetic and inadequate don’t know where to turn
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