ts28
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Post by ts28 on May 18, 2020 7:44:34 GMT
Is it just me or does everyone else have great difficulty explaining to someone (especially partner) how you can be 2 or 3 completely different people? Personality wise. Depending on environment, who you are with ect. I feel I am a different person when visiting different family members homes, at work and in my own home. It is not something I do on purpose, sort of like a default. It’s a weird thing to explain to yourself never mind somebody else!
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kermit
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Post by kermit on Jul 12, 2020 18:03:59 GMT
More of a challenge for me is that I feel a very different person internally to that which others perceive, and it's the perception that changes from one situation to another.
At work, I suffer with major impostor syndrome, as no matter how I try, I never really feel as though I should be there. Everything always feels like such hard work just to keep up with my peers who appear to be getting the same results so much more easily, yet, from having told a couple of people at work about my ADHD diagnosis, they were really surprised, as they always felt I looked like it was quite effortless! It makes me wonder just how many other people are having a similar experience?
Outside work, I come across as over-confident, but inside I know it's compensation for not feeling confident at all.
I'd quite like to be the same person both on the inside and the out.
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butterfly01
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Post by butterfly01 on Jul 27, 2020 10:36:10 GMT
yes i can do same in different situations i can change, your not alone always been able to do but did not think anything of it.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 15, 2020 2:10:50 GMT
Sounds normal to me? Although some of us describe chameleon-like traits (anxiety?) I relate much more strongly to being a canary - reacting to the native energy of the environment. Some people/environments make me sing with excitement, some make me sing with anger and others don't trigger any engagement from me at all. I'm not sure masking is the word I would use for me. Starting to think I've misunderstood this question, actually!
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Post by suzeebluecheese on Jan 31, 2021 13:19:59 GMT
I see it as being multi-faceted. Different people draw out different sides of us. Not sure if that’s similar to what you’re referring to.
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Post by Easily_distrac on Jun 16, 2021 20:11:46 GMT
Most people put on a silly voice when talking to babies, or act differently with children or old people. Also everyone tends to strip naked and leave the curtains open when the window cleaner comes around, well according to my wife. That's true , isn't it ?
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Post by speedy1 on Jun 17, 2021 19:02:07 GMT
Depends how fit the window cleaner is😂
Nice answer good way to explain how you act differently depending on your environment
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alexred
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Post by alexred on Jul 18, 2021 13:07:25 GMT
I feel I am a different person when visiting different family members homes, at work and in my own home. I get this feeling to. Sometimes it's self censorship which is necessary because at times you need to be a different person to suit the environment that you are in but maybe it's worth writing down the differences you notice and comparing to different environments to see what is different as well as causation? I get anxious around people I know about being judged so I am more likely to close off emotionally to avoid the potential of getting hurt - this is less so when I am in public because I have less care about the opinion of strangers.
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Post by random on Jul 21, 2021 9:26:40 GMT
This gels with me. I am different person when talking with friends I know well, people I see occasionally.
I also observe my partner is THE SAME but soesnt seem to want to discuss it. Have become more aware of this since she has been working at home (no longer does it). I don't hear the detail of her work phone calls but I can't help but pick up the tones of voice.
Andrew PS - I thought thes subject "masking" was about these damn things we have to wear (or should wear now!).
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