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Post by onebigcontradiction on Aug 20, 2021 12:25:33 GMT
Hello, I had a conversation with the gp yesterday. She gave me a test where i answered a series of questions and a score of 24 or high means a high chance of adhd. I scored 32 so it seems i do. She is sending a letter to a Psychiatrist and we will go from there. I havent told anyone yet as it was only yesterday. My main issue is i know people have their opinions about whether adhd is real or not and thats fine let people believe what they want to a certain extent. Except what if your mum has been a nurse all her life (almost 50yrs) and you feel like she is just gonna belittle the whole idea? I feel like she’s just gonna tell me its rubbish im approaching 40 and have been treated for anxiety and depression since i was 19. Would you bother to even tell her at all?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 21, 2021 11:31:55 GMT
Your gut is probably right.
Some people are simply not equipped with the level of intelligence, intuition or empathy required to relate to the plight of another.
There's no value in blaming them for it.
Best of luck.
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Post by londonwillow on Aug 24, 2021 13:58:55 GMT
I recently returned to my parents home not long after my diagnosis. My father was a pharmacist before retiring and very judgey on all MH related meds so I’ve had so many battles with my dx for depression/anxiety. I’ve not told him I’m taking adhd meds now as I don’t have the energy to defend myself. Be prepared if it comes up but don’t go out of your way to say anything if you feel there will be any judgements. You need time to get your own head around what you’ve been through the last 40 years ish and undo the trauma that you’ve suffered. Don’t make it harder for yourself if you don’t have to. At least, that would be my advice. You know the situation better than others but people learn unconscious bias all the time and while not always intentional, they can make this transition a lot harder if they don’t offer the support you need. Feel free to offload here as you need to until an opportunity presents itself to sit down and have this convo with your mum. It may be once you are stable on your meds. It may be before. It may be never. I hope it’s not the latter. X
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Post by dionne on Oct 30, 2021 22:48:59 GMT
Totally get this. I’ve been on the waiting list for 18 months after the gp referred me - similarly to you after asking a series of Questions. I’ve been trying to speak to my mum whos a family support worker for a Couple of years and every time I mentioned something did she reply with a reason she disagreed and dismissed my thoughts. It wasn’t until she saw a recent article on morning tv (this week) about adult women with undiagnosed adhd that she finally got It. And all of a sudden she is as convinced as I and my GP are. It’s like she’s finally seen the light and is full of apologies and understanding. That in its self to me is more important than the diagnosis. But maybe your mum also needs to watch/ read something “concrete” as general behaviours of adhd aren’t always visible are they. And if like me your achieved despite experiencing difficulties. It’s hard for people to comprehend when people with adhd stereotypically live a life of crime. (I state this because I work with offenders and it’s the general consensus at work too. Meaning I would also not mention anything at work….. it’s difficult!! 🥺
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Post by Rossall on Nov 8, 2021 20:25:35 GMT
Hello, I had a conversation with the gp yesterday. She gave me a test where i answered a series of questions and a score of 24 or high means a high chance of adhd. I scored 32 so it seems i do. She is sending a letter to a Psychiatrist and we will go from there. I havent told anyone yet as it was only yesterday. My main issue is i know people have their opinions about whether adhd is real or not and thats fine let people believe what they want to a certain extent. Except what if your mum has been a nurse all her life (almost 50yrs) and you feel like she is just gonna belittle the whole idea? I feel like she’s just gonna tell me its rubbish im approaching 40 and have been treated for anxiety and depression since i was 19. Would you bother to even tell her at all? My mother worked in the NHS and when I gave her a leaflet on ADHD she threw it in the bin and rubbished the idea so I wouldn't expect too much support from your mother. Older people get very set in their ideas.
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