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Post by Ben hopkins on Sept 13, 2021 18:31:37 GMT
I have struggled with arguments a lot of my life .having recently been diagnosed with adult adhd . Me and my partner are separating because during arguments I say the most all full things and then instantly regret it but my partner cannot forget it . Is this common ?
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Post by ADHD in Denial on Sept 13, 2021 22:22:55 GMT
Hi, yes it is ‘normal’ with ADHD. Sorry to hear you’re splitting up because of it. My husband and I threaten divorce on a regular basis and minutes later we’re hugging and kissing. I’m diagnosed and suspect my husband may well have ADHD too, at the very least shares certain ‘ADHD traits’. He certainly likes to try and get a rise out of me for kicks, loves to wind people up etc. I generally find it best not to engage when he’s mad about something and he will try and make me laugh, when I’m shouting at him. I hope you’re able to get some help for your ADHD now you’re diagnosed. If you’re trying medication, hopefully it’ll mean you’ll be more able to take a step back and not say the things you later regret. I can totally see it from your partners view though and why they’ve had enough, many people can’t cope with a relationship like that, must have been very difficult for you both. I hope you find someone who either enjoys the drama or is very tolerant and understanding. Those people do exist, you’ve just got to search them out. 😉.
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Post by wayne on Sept 20, 2021 3:40:31 GMT
hello I am 48 and got diagnosed with ADHD 2 years ago I have struggled through life from school to relationships I was a single father at 24 and I guess that kept me busy I find life a constant battle I always knew something wasn’t right with me and the diagnosis was quite hard hitting I have just started 2 new medications 1 yesterday i constantly get stressed and angry i am way over sensitive which is positive and negative I’m am so loving but when I get hurt it smashes my soul , there is a condition that comes with adhd called rejection sensitive dysphoria which is way out of my control to control my emotions everyday is a battle I can be the most beautiful person but such a nasty person I do not have control over my emotions I’m desperate for this medication to work although there’s things that trigger my anger off I’m being told i really over react my mouth is vicious if I don’t get control I’m gonna lose the most beautiful person I’ve ever met I’m sorry to hear you have broken up
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Post by Makingsense87 on Sept 26, 2021 2:51:50 GMT
This is me too. Just started a new relationship again and quit smoking for last several days. It’s like everything has gone into overdrive! I take any criticism straight to heart and the retaliation to this generally name calling. Then ends with me apologising. Life story!
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