Post by Chris_87 on Nov 6, 2021 23:48:18 GMT
Hi all to give you some background (as best I remember) both my parents for dead now so I can't really get the full picture
Starting when I was a child I always struggled to pay attention In school although from what my old teachers said was never though lack of ability
Fast forward a and I have a vague memory of alot of trips to the Dr's and a trip to a specialist on atleast one occasion I think this was primary school kind of time so mid 90's
From what I remember my parents were told I have hyperactivity (could this of been a missed ADHD or ADD diagnosis?)
As I got to high school I remember just having no interest unless it was a subject I was interested in, in the end I left school with 0 qualifications.
Did a few bar jobs after leaving school alot of drinking etc
Joined the army at 19 and did 12 years including 2 tours of Afghanistan, Army career was fine promoted in line with my peers, its the kind of place you can coast and as long so your not causing major issues you will do well, I ended up gaining a few qualifications including my GCSE's but this was a hybrid system unlike in school no course work just told to complete self directed study and do the exam I ended up going to ibiza with my with my 2 weeks study and still passed the exams with decent results
I have not left the army and am working in a decent job making great money married with 2 kids and a nice house
I have always been very disorganised my desk is like a bombsite most of the time
I find it very hard to focus and work tasks will sit on my inbox until an hour before they are due then it will be a mad rush,
In meetings my mind is always elsewhere and there have been numerous times where I get asked a direct question and I'm somewhere else
And even in 1 on 1 conversations I drift off
My boss who is a great guy has a teenage son with ADHD and he asked me in not a threatening way if I have ADHD as I remind him alot of his son I never even considered it until he mentioned it to me as an automatic response I laughed it off and said no
Out of enbarrisment I don't think I have ever told anyone about the issues I had as a child etc
After the chat with my boss I did a bit of research and did the online assessments and I am scoring 21/24 or 19/24 depending on what test I do
My home life is fine except I tend to annoy my wife by starting different jobs before I Finnish the first
For example wiring a new plug socket then leave it hanging off the wall while I decide to paint a door then only when she reminds me 50 times will I Finnish the original job
I know the online assessments are not a diagnosis and just an indication
But the more I think about my childhood and certain struggles as an adult ADHD makes sence to me (or am I overthinking it)
Ir have not discussed this with anyone yet
My questions are am I on the right track? Should I seek a diagnosis?
My life is fairly successful does mean I am unlikely to get a diagnosis?
What benefit would be getting diagnosed be? Will treatment help?
I will admit I could be a million miles away and am just a person who gets bored easily
And advice or feedback would be appreciated
Starting when I was a child I always struggled to pay attention In school although from what my old teachers said was never though lack of ability
Fast forward a and I have a vague memory of alot of trips to the Dr's and a trip to a specialist on atleast one occasion I think this was primary school kind of time so mid 90's
From what I remember my parents were told I have hyperactivity (could this of been a missed ADHD or ADD diagnosis?)
As I got to high school I remember just having no interest unless it was a subject I was interested in, in the end I left school with 0 qualifications.
Did a few bar jobs after leaving school alot of drinking etc
Joined the army at 19 and did 12 years including 2 tours of Afghanistan, Army career was fine promoted in line with my peers, its the kind of place you can coast and as long so your not causing major issues you will do well, I ended up gaining a few qualifications including my GCSE's but this was a hybrid system unlike in school no course work just told to complete self directed study and do the exam I ended up going to ibiza with my with my 2 weeks study and still passed the exams with decent results
I have not left the army and am working in a decent job making great money married with 2 kids and a nice house
I have always been very disorganised my desk is like a bombsite most of the time
I find it very hard to focus and work tasks will sit on my inbox until an hour before they are due then it will be a mad rush,
In meetings my mind is always elsewhere and there have been numerous times where I get asked a direct question and I'm somewhere else
And even in 1 on 1 conversations I drift off
My boss who is a great guy has a teenage son with ADHD and he asked me in not a threatening way if I have ADHD as I remind him alot of his son I never even considered it until he mentioned it to me as an automatic response I laughed it off and said no
Out of enbarrisment I don't think I have ever told anyone about the issues I had as a child etc
After the chat with my boss I did a bit of research and did the online assessments and I am scoring 21/24 or 19/24 depending on what test I do
My home life is fine except I tend to annoy my wife by starting different jobs before I Finnish the first
For example wiring a new plug socket then leave it hanging off the wall while I decide to paint a door then only when she reminds me 50 times will I Finnish the original job
I know the online assessments are not a diagnosis and just an indication
But the more I think about my childhood and certain struggles as an adult ADHD makes sence to me (or am I overthinking it)
Ir have not discussed this with anyone yet
My questions are am I on the right track? Should I seek a diagnosis?
My life is fairly successful does mean I am unlikely to get a diagnosis?
What benefit would be getting diagnosed be? Will treatment help?
I will admit I could be a million miles away and am just a person who gets bored easily
And advice or feedback would be appreciated