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Post by maximillian on Apr 22, 2022 14:35:00 GMT
Hello everyone. I am desperately wanting to quit drinking, And as such, I'm looking for any advice (be it of a personal or academic nature) which may help me.
A brief description/introduction: 47yrs old, still waiting for assessment (since 2019), housebound for last 6 yrs due to depression/insomnia/fatigue. I fall in to the 'binge drinker' category, and I currently drink approximately once a week. In an evening I can easily consume 3x the recommended weekly limit.
I'm confident I will be diagnosed as ADHD/ADD come my assessment, but that seems so far away, I have to seek advice from other quarters, because I simply cannot continue to live like this. Obviously, I have attemped on several occasions to stop drinking, but to no avail. My circumstances and condition have provided a substantial obstacle to any success. However, with the recent revelation that ADHD has been party to all my past shenanigans and current difficulties, there could be a new understanding and approach to stopping drinking, if only I can gather more information.
So far, all my investigations into ADHD and alcohol abuse, choose to discuss what the excessive consumption of alcohol can lead to, for anyone who may have ADHD, Naturally, for someone in my position, this is too little too late. I'm sure many of you have stories and memories of having 'crossed the line', or 'taken it too far', when you've had too much too drink.
I am more interested in the events and decisions leading up to that moment when you reach for a drink and (as I choose to call it) 'take a break being me'. With a little help I know I can identify that pattern, those triggers, which push me over the edge, and into the bottle. And if I/we can map out a plan, maybe it could be of help to others, too.
Looking forward to your comments and suggestions.
Many Thanks.
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Post by Rossall on Apr 22, 2022 14:44:29 GMT
Hello everyone. I am desperately wanting to quit drinking, And as such, I'm looking for any advice (be it of a personal or academic nature) which may help me. A brief description/introduction: 47yrs old, still waiting for assessment (since 2019), housebound for last 6 yrs due to depression/insomnia/fatigue. I fall in to the 'binge drinker' category, and I currently drink approximately once a week. In an evening I can easily consume 3x the recommended weekly limit. I'm confident I will be diagnosed as ADHD/ADD come my assessment, but that seems so far away, I have to seek advice from other quarters, because I simply cannot continue to live like this. Obviously, I have attemped on several occasions to stop drinking, but to no avail. My circumstances and condition have provided a substantial obstacle to any success. However, with the recent revelation that ADHD has been party to all my past shenanigans and current difficulties, there could be a new understanding and approach to stopping drinking, if only I can gather more information. So far, all my investigations into ADHD and alcohol abuse, choose to discuss what the excessive consumption of alcohol can lead to, for anyone who may have ADHD, Naturally, for someone in my position, this is too little too late. I'm sure many of you have stories and memories of having 'crossed the line', or 'taken it too far', when you've had too much too drink. I am more interested in the events and decisions leading up to that moment when you reach for a drink and (as I choose to call it) 'take a break being me'. With a little help I know I can identify that pattern, those triggers, which push me over the edge, and into the bottle. And if I/we can map out a plan, maybe it could be of help to others, too. Looking forward to your comments and suggestions. Many Thanks. Post hidden so I've reposted it. I currently drink around 70 units a week so I'm also looking to cut down. With me it's inability to think clearly and anxiety due to this and the booze lubricates my brain and helps me escape the realities of life. Pretty stupid given that alcohol can lead to health problems. I presume as you're housebound you're out of work same as me so have lots of time on your hands which doesn't help with the drinking. It's also bloody expensive which if you're on benefits isn't very helpful. I am absolutely terrified of death so it's ironic that the substance which I'm using to help me escape reality is what might eventually kill us both.
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Post by maximillian on Apr 22, 2022 21:00:50 GMT
Firstly, thanks for reposting. I should read the forum instructions again.
The irony hasn't escaped me either. On many occasions I have been happy to accept the cost, the hangover and increased depression, because it offered me clarity and escape. You're correct, I am out of work. Have been for some time. And yes, this overabundance of time can be torture: I fail at being productive, and I fail at doing nothing. Both routes lead to an ever decreasing circle of negativity, frustration, and desperation. And as this decreasing circle becomes smaller and faster, there is an almost correlative increase in the lack of, as you said, clarity and increase in anxiety. In these moments, I find myself becoming erratic, extremely verbal, and aggitated, which always leads me to having a drink...several times.
It's this downward spiral that I want to crack. It's the inability to think clearly and the subsequent anxiety that I can never escape. If I can gain a deeper understanding of every minute step, I can maybe beat this. I'm going to attempt to analyse these steps, and post my findings. They will also be an honest confession of what it is like, for me, to lose control and hit the bottle.
I appreciate your honesty Rossall, and your help. I hope this thread/idea might help you in some way, too.
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Post by leafy on May 4, 2022 21:07:25 GMT
Hi Just seen this, trying to find the introductions place with no joy. I was in rehab Jan 2019, it brought me to my knees, no drink since. Such a powerful and devious drug, most dangerous I have ever come across, more so because its socially acceptable and accessible. If you need to I can point you in the direction of help. - or via the methods acceptable. it is AA I am afraid. I am not a regular anymore but they will sort you out if you want it. Don't let the god thing put you off (I am not religious, or Pagan is the closest) good luck.
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Post by Rossall on May 5, 2022 11:28:28 GMT
Hi Just seen this, trying to find the introductions place with no joy. I was in rehab Jan 2019, it brought me to my knees, no drink since. Such a powerful and devious drug, most dangerous I have ever come across, more so because its socially acceptable and accessible. If you need to I can point you in the direction of help. - or via the methods acceptable. it is AA I am afraid. I am not a regular anymore but they will sort you out if you want it. Don't let the god thing put you off (I am not religious, or Pagan is the closest) good luck. Post hidden for me so I've reposted it. Not doing too well on cutting down on the booze, had 9 cans last night. Thought going on Xagittin XL would help but so far not.
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Post by Bm as guest on May 10, 2022 11:14:53 GMT
Hello,
My workplace organised an outreach member of Andy's Man Club to talk to us - just seen the presentation a few moments ago. It was very powerful & emotional.
andysmanclub.co.uk
#ITSOKAYTOTALK
Website says: "We run talking groups for men who have either been through a storm, are currently going through a storm or have a storm brewing in their life."
There are also online meets for areas where there isn't yet a local club or for people homebound.
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