Post by Deleted on Jul 20, 2009 8:06:12 GMT
Today, a social worker for my sons as yet, unborn baby, I am extremely anxious, they seem to be assessing my home for suitability to actually have contact with my own grandchild, I am aware that i have grandparenting rights, but the inconsistancies and lack of fact in the original report has alarmed me, althou i am told i can correct them today, but the whole meeting was based on information from over a year ago , I am writing this because i think on this webpage, there should be a whole compartment dedicated to deling with social services who seem to have a unique ability to take wat u say and twist it to fit their idea of you, i said my sons girlfriend wud make a gr8 mother as she has a real natural nurturing quality and they twisted it sayin shed need to look after my son as well as the baby, I mean WHAT? It was derogatory and inflamatory and wen i tried to argue they told me to shut up as i wasnt a professional, this was a meeting about my son i found it v difficult to deal with and im sure in his position id go out of my head, his ADHD was listed off along with hhis girlfriends conduct disorder as if it was just a label not a serious condition, there lack of interest in his condition and its impact on this family is really getting me distressed becoz they dont want to hear from me at all, at one point at the meeting i was asked wat the hell i was even doing there, then they laughed wen i said its my granddaughter and proceeded to treat me like an interfering old woman, even stating i wanted to dominate care over the child ( I SO do not) it was appalling, where as her parents were treated with kid gloves, despite their control over their daughter being an obvious problem ( pregnant at 15) it was like they were treated differently becoz they look old and r extremely wealthy (where as i look 15 and am so poor i cant even afford the o and r at the end of poor im po!) I am actually reporting this whole meeting to the head of social services in Lambeth because I am so appalled by their treatment of us, it waas THAT bad, but am quietly confident that after i speak to this social worker it might make a small difference!