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Post by andy12345 on Aug 2, 2009 12:12:15 GMT
Okay, Why, oh why, does it seem like a good idea to spend varying sums of money on things that may clearly be pointless upon reflection? I know it's considered a symptom of ADHD, but why do people do it? Just for a dopamine hit?
I seem to have done some silly/risky purchases in my time, due to easy credit etc.
I note that the only fail point could be the executive functioning area of the brain causing the usual "I want it now" drama and totally ignoring everything else.
The trouble is that it always seemed good at the time....... Sound familiar? or maybe I just did not really care enough. I paid my bills every month, but now am really living day to day more than ever. So, is it ADHD, a lack of caring leading to "it does not matter anyway" or both? or something more underlying?
I am certainly not a compulsive shopper but I remember that I always like to have the tools for the job etc. That is not a bad idea anyway of course... Internet shopping, is a good one as well lol.......
Waiting for the item with impatience, getting item, using item, then onto next novelty-seek.
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Post by laura on Aug 3, 2009 21:30:39 GMT
ebay, love it and hate it ;D its the worst place for impulse buys, the anticipation, will i win it! i cant take the suspense, and you can always find something you really need (or think you really need) and it always seems like a great idea i bought 2 meters of fabric for £20 a couple of months ago to make a skirt, even tho i cannot make skirts (tried and failed/not completed many times before) so its just sat looking at me from one of my piles of stuff to do (more like mountains than piles and yes i always like to have all the tools neccesary for the job too. and usually anything i could possibly maybe also need. and i have to get the good things even tho im a single parent/student and only work part time so have clearly not got the money. but im not going to get onto easy credit (still slowly paying it all back) i dont know why it seems like a good idea, but it really does and still does even tho most the time they are really not good ideas and i can realise this, but i still do it!
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Post by andy12345 on Aug 3, 2009 22:54:37 GMT
Erm, well. I bought 20 metres by 3 metres of tightly woven blackout material for curtains/window cavities etc....... That was 2 years ago.. It seems that I have only used about 4 metres of the 20 so far.....ummmmmmm.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 11, 2009 0:31:05 GMT
The only thing that always saves me after episodes of ebay or other internet purchasing is that I reliably get bored of shopping (internet or elsewhere) so that it always balances out in the end, I guess...
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Post by Deleted on Aug 11, 2009 8:53:00 GMT
Had many an arguement with my ADHD son over his impulse buying on e-bay and the debt he had mounting up on credit cards and overdrafts. In the end I placed all his cards in a bowl of water and put it in the freezer, this way he would have to wait until it had defrosted before he could spend anymore.
We had many a laugh at his trying to defrost them quick to get his last minute bids in on ebay, it worked though and soon his debts reduced.
Honey x
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Post by boo on Aug 11, 2009 18:48:26 GMT
thats a good one, i will have to remember that ;D
does it knacker the chip though
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Post by Deleted on Aug 11, 2009 20:16:54 GMT
If i want a hit of instant gratification i go the car boot were i can buy all kinds of stuff from roller blades to bread makers and then put them in the loft a month later and forget about them. love the hagling aswell, cheap as chips, as king creosote would say.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 12, 2009 9:26:00 GMT
thats a good one, i will have to remember that ;D does it knacker the chip though Hi Boo We placed cards in a sealed Freezer type bag first and when we had to defrost they seemed to work ok through the old swipe and cashpoint machines. The trick worked for us---didnt have to keep bailing out of debt. The biggest problem we had was his obsession for mobile phones--especially contracts and the huge bills that came with them. I had to contact the services many a time, telling them it was illegal to allow someone with additional needs sign a contract with an appointee or appropriate adult present. (His needs are quite complex!) Honey x
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Post by Deleted on Aug 12, 2009 19:58:30 GMT
I love this freezing-the-credit-card idea! Brilliant - best proof of the theory that ADDers tend to be creative!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 13, 2009 11:58:03 GMT
Yes, the impulse buy thing can be a real killer. I've spent sleepless nights waiting till payday so I can purchase this thing that seems all important....and once it's in my head I can't get it out ....then once bought it joins the pile of other things that I don't use. I've finally got my debts sorted and everything is paid on time....but the problem is that I know the balance of my bank account is mine, so what shall I buy now... ;D I came across this the other day, can't remember where I saw it: 'I suffer from ADOS.....Attention Deficit....Ooooooh...Shiny!!...' Take care, Del ;D
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Post by andy12345 on Aug 13, 2009 13:29:03 GMT
Shiny shiny, do magpies have adhd?
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Post by boo on Aug 13, 2009 14:50:16 GMT
well they are very black & white ;D ps. i may have to freeze my credit card i reckon
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Post by andy12345 on Aug 13, 2009 17:35:32 GMT
Boo! Boo, Good one! Now you can go and preen and cherish your wisecracking antics.
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