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Post by haydreamer on Sept 21, 2009 13:52:00 GMT
Hi , why this poll?, well , i am 30 years old with add and living at home with parents, still, desperate to be independent, but can't bear to live alone, which have done in past and struggled hoping meds will help change that soon, or i'll be destined at home until 40+ and be an old maid lol i need reassurance that i am not alone in this situation, then i will feel a whole lot better ;D
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Post by andy12345 on Sept 21, 2009 13:56:24 GMT
Snap lol. It must go with the territory.
Still, got some blood test results to discuss with the doc, unless he witholds them for writing about 8 other tests on the form... I almost feel a twinge of excitement.
EDIT, should be an option for "living in same house as parents, but distant as ever"
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Post by haydreamer on Sept 21, 2009 14:19:40 GMT
oh good a fellow ''LAHWP'' but i can't be distant under same roof, we do communicate occassionally, the odd grunt now and again!! -what are these blood tests Andy, think u mentioned them before- hows it going? How exactly can this confirm a dx of adhd if you don't mind me asking? a bit confused.com!!
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Post by Deleted on Sept 21, 2009 16:12:55 GMT
Due to my interests in this area, it would have been good to see age included.
We know that our borough has the highest dx of ADHD under CAMHS and high numbers of homeless young people 16-25yrs. The numbers above age 25 could be high also?
Honey x
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Post by andy12345 on Sept 21, 2009 20:59:26 GMT
Hey Hay! I talk with them, but you know that "not of this earth" feeling Blood tests will not confirm adhd or disprove it, but it does rule out some extra "symptoms" that eat away at me and don't help with clarity. The test results (see my thread aadduk.proboards.com/index.cgi?action=display&board=lounge&thread=1782&page=1 ) may make my adhd more bearable although I am soon writing to ask for out of area funding arghhhhhhh.to get an adult adhd referral at maudsley...... that willl be fun.
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Post by haydreamer on Sept 21, 2009 22:03:57 GMT
OMG, Andy! all that 'T' talk, i'll admit alot flew over my head at lightening speed!, BTW, doing all those tests must be incredibly frustrating?, good luck with getting out of area funding, hope your journey will be short and sweet, I know about ''not of earth feeling'', I should have been born on another planet or era
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Post by andy12345 on Sept 21, 2009 22:44:22 GMT
I like blood tests, quick decisive, unlike me.
I think I will experiment with a 76nmol level of testosterone one day....just going to paint myself green.
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Post by haydreamer on Oct 1, 2009 9:11:28 GMT
is green your favourite colour? ;D
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Post by andy12345 on Oct 2, 2009 11:22:03 GMT
No, its the incredible hulk colour = 76mmol of testosterone........
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Post by Deleted on Nov 15, 2009 9:44:40 GMT
Ditto. I'm at home with my parents again and about to turn 31! . I'm still working on DX and currently unmedicated.
With financial incompetence and impulsive spending etc., and being usually underemploted, I have never managed to pay my own way etc living on my own. Last time, bin bags stacked up for months outside in the back, I antagonised the neighbours with a car dead on the grass verge with grass growing up around it. The chaos cannot be put into words! So, comfortable for the moment. But, obviously, very limiting re relationships etc etc. Fingers crossed on moving on at some point.
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Post by andy12345 on Nov 15, 2009 14:40:14 GMT
snap with the birthdates lol..... Its good to know GAV, that even with all of your nutritional care, you still are here.
ARe you extra proof, along with Russell Barkley's comments that ADHD is not just food issue caused, that taking good care of yourself nutitionally, still does not change the ADHD fact.
I stacked credit cards like nothing else....for years, paid religiously, perfectly, (minimum payemnts ahem) .......until I failed to maintain them, bang......all gone now.....no buffer........ If I ever start to live....I may just have to get used to a world without any buffering.......safety nets.... 35 and living with parents...........hmmmmmm...
Don't really care at the moment though as I have quite a few things to try......
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Post by Deleted on Nov 15, 2009 16:28:25 GMT
Well u'll be alright, its quite cozy in here really...Put the heating up someone..
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Post by Deleted on Nov 15, 2009 19:56:02 GMT
Andy, yeah lol.
Not seen all the Barkley yet, but definitely agree with your statement. ADHD is with me to stay. 100%. I believe that it is multifactoral and nutritional therapy can improve it to a staggering degree, but it will stay with me. In a hell of a lot of ways I wouldn't want it gone. But yeah, God, capable of living on my own? Hm...
Without it I am an utter mess, incapable of socialising to any degree & I can barely put a sentence together, let alone do anything without effing and blinding and beating up cars a la Basil Faulty, cooking utensils etc etc. With it, I'm inattentive ADHD with, on good days, being pretty together.. But yeah, long way to go yet, and I'm looking at DX and trying out some meds etc.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 15, 2009 19:59:55 GMT
Mind you, the whole 300 bin bags in the garden scenario did coincide with living with a mad ex who didn't support me in my food etc., and eating a lot of chocolate., pizza, and everything I shouldn't have, so, it could have been better, and one day... maybe... There will be me with a wee flat and a basset hound, or a narrowboat....
Yeah, distant with my folks too. Vague tacit understanding going on, and they are more supportive than ever to be fair, but we don't talk about anything much.
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Post by andy12345 on Nov 17, 2009 22:20:38 GMT
I talk a lot and can write a lot (groan) but sometimes its just time padding.
Really though, I think it all just means nothing to me, or less than nothing....... O.o or does it? who knows, I don't....
When I have film night with some friends, we used to joke about "wouldn't be a film, without us talking all over it" Sometimes, you just know, even with a good film, that eventually one must unlesh the omniwaffle verbal onslaught, lest they explode in a cloud of containment.
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Post by haydreamer on Nov 23, 2009 15:18:20 GMT
hi Gav, welcome to ''LAHWP'' living with parents'' BOAT, join the club!!
i am 31 now since writing my earlier post,like u don't need to broadcast it! Unlike you I was privately dx with adhd, but waiting for nhs dx, but the dr is ill at clinic, due to being underfunded and overwhelmes, same old same old The best i can do at the moment before turning insane and disappearing down the dark hole of depression and frustration is to attend the bristol support grp and write here. ;D x
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Post by Deleted on Nov 23, 2009 15:48:01 GMT
Am thinking of living in a teepee aparently there is a company that makes them for people to live in with heating etc will have to find link any one else fancy alt living hay maybee we could have a ADHD commun what do ya think? ;D Attachments:
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Post by haydreamer on Nov 23, 2009 19:09:23 GMT
Count me in safe!! what a cool idea!! I have been thinking that I should be on another planet sometimes, so, a adhd community tipee is just my ticket out of this, perhaps??!! I can just imagine, all my adhd housemates, we could live in chaos and understand why we live in chaos, we could show off our quirky traits and be accepted without being given odd glances or being told ''Your weird, lazy, Crazy'' , we could all live in chaotic peace MAN!! ;D
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Post by Lame44 on Dec 18, 2009 22:31:32 GMT
I moved out of home when I was 17......I still have my own place, I moved in with my Dad after moving back to my hometown though a couple of years ago, but it was only for about a year and a half while I waited for my flat. I'd never lived with my Dad before then. I'm 29 now.
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Post by phil on Feb 1, 2010 19:42:32 GMT
i'll be living in a box living in a card board box ;D
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Post by haydreamer on Apr 17, 2010 10:12:36 GMT
So am thinking of getting a flat, but fear I will struggle, how do you all manage with paying bills, do u seek advice, at my age early 30's feel like a failure still living with mummy and daddy!! I keep looking on the net 4 properties, but am chicken to do anything about it!! I am single, so would be lovely to find someone to keep me company, but life doesnt work like out to your needs always- I feel like i am a burden to them-they are supportive and its cosy at hme, luxiourous comapred to a tiny bedsit, flat, house, whatever, but I am stuck in a rural village surrounded by pensioners and going mad and feel sooo trapped-I want out but also scared my adhd will be having fun----- also dont drive-as failed test 4 times and gave up- one good thing is I am trying adhd meds in the hope one will temporily 'cure' me. I can't cope like this anymore-im going crazy for change and life-im only young!! sorry rant over!!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 17, 2010 10:49:51 GMT
My parents left home first as my Dad was not well so they went off somewhere quiet and left me and my brother in the family home and my bruv running the business ! Needless to say the business went bust but thats another story ! I moved around a lot always in jobs where accommodation came with it ie in pubs and hotels !Jersey for 8yrs ! Eventually came to London with a boyfriend and we bought a house in Essex which eventually relationship broke down and I fought long and hard to remove my name from the mortgage ! Shared a flet with a girl from college for a while ! Met my ex Husband and started renting eventually bought a house which was sold last year !Rented for 8months before being accepted for housing association part /rent part buy ! So here we are and am Sooooooooo Happy being single but sometimes would like to be hugged etc but not living with anybody ! Paying bills by Direct Debit for me is a must ! Do live on an overdraught of £2000 soon to be reduced to £1000 ! HELP ! MUST SPEAK TO THE BANK ! Ex started to give me money a few months ago as he owes me over £2500 in child maintenance ! May have to give up the car but I need for work ! It will all work out in the end ! ;D
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Post by Deleted on Nov 11, 2010 11:55:59 GMT
I found the posts interesting here. I was living at home with parents till in my thirties, ocassionally living with partners until the relationships failed.
Now got my own place as I became a parent and my place is mess!!! lol. Think I need to get myself a boyfriend with OCD who likes cleaning!
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Post by snickerz on Nov 11, 2010 16:26:52 GMT
I left home at 17 and have never gone back
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Post by Deleted on Nov 12, 2010 17:56:52 GMT
i live with my future wife in her flat but if i am honest i would rather be in a tent in some woods with a roaring camp fire and a HUGE steak anyone feeling me ?
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Post by snickerz on Nov 12, 2010 18:09:50 GMT
totally and a huge crate of beer each lol
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Post by kakema on Nov 12, 2010 20:45:29 GMT
Steeeeaaaaaak! Juicy. V. Rare, right? Dribble.
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Post by magpielady on Dec 23, 2012 3:12:58 GMT
I live in a private rented flat, but I would still be living at home if it weren't for housing benefit and for personal assistants/support workers paid for by the local government.
Although they have recently reduced housing benefit by stupid amounts, so I'm having to apply for special discretionary payments to cover my rent so that I don't have to move back home.
All my bills are automated, that's mostly how I cope. Everything else the support workers help with, and then I check in with my mother regularly who makes sure nothing has been missed. I can't wait for medication, my aim is to live with minimal support. Right now I am just proud I remember to eat, shower, and sleep! And take my medication, God bless pillboxes, never leaves the side of my mousemat.
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Post by speedy1 on Apr 3, 2018 11:12:21 GMT
I'm 37 & I've been back home with my mum for 4 years since I went bankrupt & became jobless
& homeless as the house came with the job. I mite move out again when I get sorted
but think my mum's coming with me she likes the company since my dad died 6years ago.
So no escape 4 me ever!!
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