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Post by johnnywhizzbang on Nov 4, 2009 12:10:37 GMT
Ok so now I have been diagnosed. I wait for therapist appointment...have commenced Equasym.....experience text book reactions, fear, loathing, joy, regret, hope blah blah blah. But please someone steer me in the right direction. I feel more lost now then ever! What do I do next.... if anyone can shed some light on how to do something with the 'news' please let me know. I lost my job in April and want to capitalise on this but dont know how, I want to change my life but dont know how, I feel a bit like a deer in the headlights. I know I gotta' move but havent got a clue. input please...
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Post by Deleted on Nov 4, 2009 13:23:44 GMT
Make an appointment at the job center to see the disability Employment Advisor ASAP as often a few weeks wait. They have list of agencys that can help you might be worth saying your also depressed as I did and there is a lot of workshops aimed at depressed that are relevant to us. Stating your desabled will also give you more leverage over what jobs they are trying to push you into. If they give you any hastle you can just go and see the DEA and any probs just ring up and ask to speak to DEA, but usually not full time 5 day a week person.
Also find a support group if there isnt one around think about starting one? only need a small space once a month, give you somthing to do. If you dont fancy that look at what you would like to volutree keep yourself in routine on track and have something to put on CV and refrence etc, good luck!
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Post by Deleted on Nov 5, 2009 16:10:16 GMT
Hiya, Sorry thing are hard for you atm.
I think it all depends on how you actively decide to handle the "news" of being ADD. I have actually found it to be liberating. I feel encouraged to actually be EVEN MORE my natural self. I am trying to concentrate on the areas where my ADD gives me an advantage. Namely creativity and quick-thinking.
I also refuse to buy in to the generally accepted ideas of the way one "ought" to be and the life one "ought" to live. I have always considered myself different to most people and have always ploughed my own furrow. Fortunately I have found that in just being myself "warts and all" that there are people who love and appreciate me for who i am. I don't hide it or sugar-coat it. Yes, I cause offense - not usually on purpose. Yes, I have lost friends from being outspoken and difficult, but the ones who stay are the ones who really get me.
Forget what "normal" people are supposed to do. For they are mainly blinded by the media and consumerism in order to be seduced and then juiced by all of the products that are out there.
Take a step back and look at things like fashion - what a ridiculous concept. We are expected to spend our money to continually change what we wear (throwing away perfectly good clothes) because some bozo in Paris has decided that what was fashionable 20 years ago, hasn't been seen for a while.
Just look at the ludicrous and foppish way they dress themselves, look at the smorgasbord of mutton dressed as lamb that dictates the way we're all supposed to look.
Buy a perfume and read kids books "designed' or "written" by Jordan!?! Give me strength!!!
The only thing you can do is to be as happy as you can. To me that means protecting myself from damaging and inessential desires.
Don't get me wrong I like the good things in life, I do dress "well" but I buy good quality items (always on sale) that are relatively classic.
I love food, so I cook good food. I hardly ever buy processed or ready-made meals, because I don't mind spending some of my time making something that is really good - and cheaper. French country cooking is great stuff, often simple to make and very cheap. Try sausages and lentils (saucisses lentilles) for a truly superb, healthy and quick meal.
What I'm getting at is pleasure!!! Pleasure makes life seem better and can come in simple forms. Laughter being one of the best.
The best thing you can do right now is take whatever small-steps you can to be a bit happier. The happier you are, the happier your family will be.
Your family and friends should now be able to accept that you are different and probably won't be the person the world expects you to be, but you can still be great.
Everybody in a family, in fact everybody everywhere needs to pay as much attention as possible to what actually makes them happier - or less unhappy. It is very rarely money or a good job.
Don't look backwards at all. I consider this one of the blessings of ADD. Living in the moment is something that many neurotypical people strive for, yet it is natural to us, if we can let go of all the "shoulds".
Focus on the joy and hope, for that is what your dx has given you.
I'm using my equasym as a tool, to enable me to operate on a more level playing field, yet retain what makes me special. I'm loving it!!!
It is just conditioned ways of thinking that drag us back into patterns, that don't need to be dominant once you realise that you are ADD and take back control of your life.
Try and get some momentum and enthusiasm going because, sorry to say it, you're unlikely ever to have any more of it that you do right now.
It may not seem like it, but what you have at your fingertips is freedom - that can only be a wonderful thing.
All the best.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 5, 2009 17:16:10 GMT
Hi Johnny, are you on the meds now?? How many days, are you noticing any positive effects??
All i canrecommend is getting the right meds/dose first & foremost, then take things step by step, it all takes time, especially us who only found out in later life.. Its going to take a lot of work to get where we want to be?! Simone x
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