Post by Deleted on Jan 28, 2010 12:42:23 GMT
Hi folks,
I have ADHD, my son was diagnosed in 2003 with it, my eldest daughter is going for an assessment today, my youngest daughter was assessed and I was told, she does not have adhd, they then offered her council ling for her 'problems' which she refused as she had been 'council led' before and she found it most unhelpful, we were sent away and told the offer for 'council ling would be left on the table for 3 months after which time her case would be closed.
A little while after the allotted time elapsed, i received a letter closing the case along the lines of '...your daughter refused council ling and so her case has now officially closed, etc...'
i was then visited by my social worker we discussed Chloe and her problems, when i said she wasn't diagnosed, the social worker informed me '...she was actually diagnosed with conduct disorder'
All the while my youngest daughter Chloe has gotten worse, she has now been excluded from the EXCLUSION center she had been placed in wen excluded from mainstream school for assaulting a member of staff for assaulting a member of their staff.
They have sent her somewhere else where she is refusing to attend to the point she gets hysterical and yet she has been left completely. I have not even received written confirmation of her diagnosis from the professionals, they neglected to inform MYSELF of her diagnosis and nothing was explained to me.
I actually thought conduct disorder was another term for naughty child but have since myself looked it up and discovered a range of therapy's and treatments including family therapy, parental management skills and therapy/support not to mention medication.
Because of my own ADHD I know if offered any kind parental management I would have bit their arm off and yet there was nothing.
I now have Education welfare breathing down my neck giving me final court warning, but worse the head of the new exclusion centerer is some sort of social worker and has made the comment ' conduct disorder is anther word for naughty kid' plus ' you have no control as their are no consequences and isn't it funny you have 3 kids and ALL have something wrong with their psychology, that's SOME co incidence'!
i. e. its nurture not nature.
I screamed yes these things r hereditary and hung up, I was so frustrated as I just keep saying she has a serious psychological condition and until it is addressed we are actually just going through the motions, where as they prefer to focus on what i am not doing.
If my children have problems at home i accept responsibility however if in school whilst in THEIR care they still have problems, how exactly is that my fault or responsibility?
I have co operated with these agencies at great discomfort and inconvenience to my self at every turn, attended every meeting supported the school's and have been asking for years why a quiet studious well behaved girl turned into a demon over night and yet all i get is penalized all the time, meanwhile my highly intelligent yet emotionally distraught, angry daughter who has an IQ of 122 's education is slipping through her fingers.
The medication has proven to reduce angry outburst and minimize impulsivity all of which is a part of conduct disorder and yet it knowing she has had this diagnosis and has been left untreated the agency's involved in her case are not pressing for her to e treated, if the social worker has been informed wouldn't these other agencies including education have been informed and I am so distraught my meds don't seem to be working as my focus is off and i feel that churning in the pit of my gut continually reminding me theres something i can't deal with I don't know where to go from here....
PS: Interestingly enough, my eldest daughter has been referred to a different place to be assessed i thought about asking the doctor she was referred to about whether goin back to the doctor and having her re referred to them instead? But aside from that, how do i deal with these agencies obviously failing my daughter and isnt this seemingly disability discrimination?
I have ADHD, my son was diagnosed in 2003 with it, my eldest daughter is going for an assessment today, my youngest daughter was assessed and I was told, she does not have adhd, they then offered her council ling for her 'problems' which she refused as she had been 'council led' before and she found it most unhelpful, we were sent away and told the offer for 'council ling would be left on the table for 3 months after which time her case would be closed.
A little while after the allotted time elapsed, i received a letter closing the case along the lines of '...your daughter refused council ling and so her case has now officially closed, etc...'
i was then visited by my social worker we discussed Chloe and her problems, when i said she wasn't diagnosed, the social worker informed me '...she was actually diagnosed with conduct disorder'
All the while my youngest daughter Chloe has gotten worse, she has now been excluded from the EXCLUSION center she had been placed in wen excluded from mainstream school for assaulting a member of staff for assaulting a member of their staff.
They have sent her somewhere else where she is refusing to attend to the point she gets hysterical and yet she has been left completely. I have not even received written confirmation of her diagnosis from the professionals, they neglected to inform MYSELF of her diagnosis and nothing was explained to me.
I actually thought conduct disorder was another term for naughty child but have since myself looked it up and discovered a range of therapy's and treatments including family therapy, parental management skills and therapy/support not to mention medication.
Because of my own ADHD I know if offered any kind parental management I would have bit their arm off and yet there was nothing.
I now have Education welfare breathing down my neck giving me final court warning, but worse the head of the new exclusion centerer is some sort of social worker and has made the comment ' conduct disorder is anther word for naughty kid' plus ' you have no control as their are no consequences and isn't it funny you have 3 kids and ALL have something wrong with their psychology, that's SOME co incidence'!
i. e. its nurture not nature.
I screamed yes these things r hereditary and hung up, I was so frustrated as I just keep saying she has a serious psychological condition and until it is addressed we are actually just going through the motions, where as they prefer to focus on what i am not doing.
If my children have problems at home i accept responsibility however if in school whilst in THEIR care they still have problems, how exactly is that my fault or responsibility?
I have co operated with these agencies at great discomfort and inconvenience to my self at every turn, attended every meeting supported the school's and have been asking for years why a quiet studious well behaved girl turned into a demon over night and yet all i get is penalized all the time, meanwhile my highly intelligent yet emotionally distraught, angry daughter who has an IQ of 122 's education is slipping through her fingers.
The medication has proven to reduce angry outburst and minimize impulsivity all of which is a part of conduct disorder and yet it knowing she has had this diagnosis and has been left untreated the agency's involved in her case are not pressing for her to e treated, if the social worker has been informed wouldn't these other agencies including education have been informed and I am so distraught my meds don't seem to be working as my focus is off and i feel that churning in the pit of my gut continually reminding me theres something i can't deal with I don't know where to go from here....
PS: Interestingly enough, my eldest daughter has been referred to a different place to be assessed i thought about asking the doctor she was referred to about whether goin back to the doctor and having her re referred to them instead? But aside from that, how do i deal with these agencies obviously failing my daughter and isnt this seemingly disability discrimination?