Post by Deleted on Mar 11, 2011 13:38:46 GMT
Hi there,
I'm newly married to a lovely man who is I think is obviously mildly ADHD, but undiagnosed and untreated.
I started reading up about ADHD to see if he fit the bill, and he ticks most of the boxes with a vengeance, though does appear to be quite high functioning due to no real problems with social inappropriateness and not many with impulse control. It helps that he is intelligent and has a very high level of emotional sensitivity to others. Also, with a bossy partner around his levels of timeliness and household organisation are improving.
One of the big clues that he had ADHD when we started our relationship, was his heavy use of marijuana (starting from when he was a teenager), to 'calm the noise' and allow him to focus on other people like a 'normal person' rather than space out into his own world. That and, of course, hyperactive episodes, inability to follow instructions competently, complete tasks properly, pay attention consistently, etc. Like I say, it seems like a mild level of ADHD... he *can* do these things, just not very well.
I get the sense that it might be more useful to get advice from forums like this about non-medical methods of managing his condition, (I've had a look the other section that covers this), rather than seeking medical advice, a formal diagnosis, or drugs. I've weaned him off heavy marijuana use, but the thought of just replacing one drug with another seems a bit counterintuitive.
What do you guys think? Would it be helpful to get a diagnosis from a doctor, or is the medical information and advice here for non-severe, non-medicated cases good enough?
I'm newly married to a lovely man who is I think is obviously mildly ADHD, but undiagnosed and untreated.
I started reading up about ADHD to see if he fit the bill, and he ticks most of the boxes with a vengeance, though does appear to be quite high functioning due to no real problems with social inappropriateness and not many with impulse control. It helps that he is intelligent and has a very high level of emotional sensitivity to others. Also, with a bossy partner around his levels of timeliness and household organisation are improving.
One of the big clues that he had ADHD when we started our relationship, was his heavy use of marijuana (starting from when he was a teenager), to 'calm the noise' and allow him to focus on other people like a 'normal person' rather than space out into his own world. That and, of course, hyperactive episodes, inability to follow instructions competently, complete tasks properly, pay attention consistently, etc. Like I say, it seems like a mild level of ADHD... he *can* do these things, just not very well.
I get the sense that it might be more useful to get advice from forums like this about non-medical methods of managing his condition, (I've had a look the other section that covers this), rather than seeking medical advice, a formal diagnosis, or drugs. I've weaned him off heavy marijuana use, but the thought of just replacing one drug with another seems a bit counterintuitive.
What do you guys think? Would it be helpful to get a diagnosis from a doctor, or is the medical information and advice here for non-severe, non-medicated cases good enough?