Post by tippy on Nov 19, 2008 18:28:37 GMT
Hi all,
I have just finished a relationship with a man with ADHD about 6 weeks ago. He was undiagnosed until I met him and quickly realised he was `different`. He refused all medication and was diagnosed with ADHD, anxiety and OCD. I sit here in bewilderment as I try to process my past 2 and half years of being on a rollercoaster. My heart was constantly ripped out with his damming comments, lack of commitment, lateness, unbelievable debt but continuing to spend, inablility to stick to any plan or even make plans, zoning out constantly and oh those mood swings. However I fell in love with the fantastic side of ADHD, the spontonaity, the aerobatics in his plane, the speed in his motor boat, his fun and laughter. Sadly the severe symptoms of ADHD became too much to bare......it started to affect my mental health and physical wellbeing. I can only stand so many times being told one minute you are loved the next you are not loved, being told you are a bad mother then a good mother, being told that he wants you then he doesnt, he wants to marry me then backing away. This has been the most confusing relationship I have ever encountered. As I lick my very open wounds I will take away the fact I have done so much research on this subject and the co-morbid effects ADHD can attach to I can safely say I could assist anyone who needs any support from someone who chooses to live with ADHD. I did not want to finish the relationship but sadly my health was being affected too. As I continue to make sense of my train wreck I wish all of you living with a spouse with ADHD love and strength to continue your pathway through the disorder.
I have just finished a relationship with a man with ADHD about 6 weeks ago. He was undiagnosed until I met him and quickly realised he was `different`. He refused all medication and was diagnosed with ADHD, anxiety and OCD. I sit here in bewilderment as I try to process my past 2 and half years of being on a rollercoaster. My heart was constantly ripped out with his damming comments, lack of commitment, lateness, unbelievable debt but continuing to spend, inablility to stick to any plan or even make plans, zoning out constantly and oh those mood swings. However I fell in love with the fantastic side of ADHD, the spontonaity, the aerobatics in his plane, the speed in his motor boat, his fun and laughter. Sadly the severe symptoms of ADHD became too much to bare......it started to affect my mental health and physical wellbeing. I can only stand so many times being told one minute you are loved the next you are not loved, being told you are a bad mother then a good mother, being told that he wants you then he doesnt, he wants to marry me then backing away. This has been the most confusing relationship I have ever encountered. As I lick my very open wounds I will take away the fact I have done so much research on this subject and the co-morbid effects ADHD can attach to I can safely say I could assist anyone who needs any support from someone who chooses to live with ADHD. I did not want to finish the relationship but sadly my health was being affected too. As I continue to make sense of my train wreck I wish all of you living with a spouse with ADHD love and strength to continue your pathway through the disorder.