Post by Deleted on Aug 14, 2012 15:13:18 GMT
Hi, am glad to have found this site and forum! My partner is recently diagnosed with adhd (aged 30+) and at the start of combined treatments.
i've been researching and reading all i can to help me to make sense of what the diagnosis and treatments will mean for him as a person but there is so much conflicting info out there (drugs are bad/drugs really help/cbt is best etc).
As far as I can see his whole way of thinking has changed since starting medications and it's a hard learning curve- the other day he got upset and asked me if i knew "what it was like to think about everything you want to say or do before doing it, in case it effects someone else"
It was so sad to hear that even the most simple and, to me, natural of thought processes like this would cause him such confusion and brought home just how much he has to re-learn about how to interact with the world from his new perspective.
(part of me wants to say stuff the diagnosis and the meds, as i have always loved the way he will shout "hello!" at strangers or run away in the middle of a conversation but this is, and will always be, his choice and his journey)
I'm not generally a moaner and dont want my post to be all negative so I will mention an achievement since starting meds too - he managed to sit next to me on the sofa and watch a film from start to finish without wandering off to do something else. It was the most romantic 2 hours ever!
Anyway, sorry to waffle on, it would be great if any of you on here could give me any advice/pointers/reading suggestions or even share some of your experience with me to help me understand better. thanks
i've been researching and reading all i can to help me to make sense of what the diagnosis and treatments will mean for him as a person but there is so much conflicting info out there (drugs are bad/drugs really help/cbt is best etc).
As far as I can see his whole way of thinking has changed since starting medications and it's a hard learning curve- the other day he got upset and asked me if i knew "what it was like to think about everything you want to say or do before doing it, in case it effects someone else"
It was so sad to hear that even the most simple and, to me, natural of thought processes like this would cause him such confusion and brought home just how much he has to re-learn about how to interact with the world from his new perspective.
(part of me wants to say stuff the diagnosis and the meds, as i have always loved the way he will shout "hello!" at strangers or run away in the middle of a conversation but this is, and will always be, his choice and his journey)
I'm not generally a moaner and dont want my post to be all negative so I will mention an achievement since starting meds too - he managed to sit next to me on the sofa and watch a film from start to finish without wandering off to do something else. It was the most romantic 2 hours ever!
Anyway, sorry to waffle on, it would be great if any of you on here could give me any advice/pointers/reading suggestions or even share some of your experience with me to help me understand better. thanks