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Post by fuzzywuzzy on Jul 17, 2013 22:30:02 GMT
Did anyone go to a school that specialised in ADHD, autism, learning difficulties etc.? Is anyone thinking of sending their darling son or daughter to one? I'm going to have a look.....it could be disastrous and my daughter would think I was mad for considering it.....or it could be the best thing that ever happened to her to be taught according to her learning style and she might flourish
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Post by JJ on Jul 17, 2013 22:59:28 GMT
My admittedly limited knowledge would say no, she'd be better off in a main stream school.
In my area several of the secondary schools are credited with accommodating specific additional needs. So for example one is designated as the place to send your child with autism - so the education is mainstream but there's an ASD unit there for interventions within the mainstream classroom setting. My view is that this is ideal.
I considered sending my ASD son to a primary that had a speech and language unit within it. The children were taught largely only in this unit and with their peers from the unit and came together with the rest of the body of the school occasionally.
However, the children who were in the unit had deeper learning and developmental issues than my son and so, while his language was on their level at that time, the staff still advised me that he would be better off in mainstream. Your daughter, as I understand, doesn't have any profound learning or developmental disabilities and it's this point that informs my automatic response of no.
As well as my limited and now 10 years out of date knowledge, everything's different in every area.... So actually my whole post is pointless!!
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Post by fuzzywuzzy on Jul 18, 2013 14:19:32 GMT
Thanks JJ, I totally appreciate what you are saying.... All I was thinking is this......Once you treat it as having a totally different style of learning and accepting that most schools have no idea how to cope with this, my daughter might, just might, be better in a school where the whole emphasis is on teaching that very learning style AND you don't have to fight every step of the way to make them understand this.... there are schools where I live where they were set up specifically for high functioning children with learning difficulties rather than behaviour problems.... What worries me is that my daughter has ALL the difficulties that I had except that unlike her, I loved school.....she hates it, unlike her, I was much better 'behaved', she has more trouble adapting/controlling the symptoms and I failed all 9 'O' levels I was entered for I'm just gonna look.....got nothing to lose.....be good to hear from anyone who did experience this
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Post by JJ on Jul 18, 2013 20:28:01 GMT
.... there are schools where I live where they were set up specifically for high functioning children with learning difficulties rather than behaviour problems.... That sounds v forward thinking (you sure you live in the UK? ?!!!!) Completely different from what I was thinking of - def worth investigating, specially as yr daughter's not enjoying school... You can't be the only parent wanting direct experiences - I wonder if the schools have a list of parents who are willing to speak to prospective parents?? Xxx
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Post by mighty on Jul 24, 2013 21:47:49 GMT
I went to a special school it was fucked up. They tell the staff they have permission to restrain and it's really fucked up please keep her away from one.
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Post by mighty on Jul 24, 2013 21:49:18 GMT
Actually don't take my advice, its personal to her, ask her. If she's doing ok and has a strong family etc that's more important
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Post by mighty on Jul 24, 2013 21:53:18 GMT
Also bear in mind the staff whether intentional or not treat the kids as if they're dumb. I was always smart as fuck but had to fight with teachers so hard to convince them just to let me do enough exams to get enough gcses for college. I think "special school" may have done more harm than good for me but its hard to tell as I was off the rails.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 24, 2013 22:12:51 GMT
I don't think society accepts outsiders easily. Parking your kids in a special school... I would need some serious convincing and that's before I heard Mighty's point about the staff taking liberties, which makes perfect sense.
Who's gonna believe some 'mental' kids?
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Post by nel77 on Oct 9, 2013 10:03:01 GMT
My Son is 10 and has ADHD and ASD (PDD-NOS) He was excluded from mainstream at 7. This was honestly a terrible time for my family, it felt like we were losing our beautiful child.. He's been is a BESD school now for 3 years and is so happy.. It'a the best thing we could have done for him... You have to do whats right for your child and every case is different. My son was always being told off and lashing out at other children.
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Post by jan on Oct 15, 2013 8:42:37 GMT
hi nell been away at conference so greetings and belated welcome to the forum fantastic that meds are working out so well for you - sounds like life is on the up so good to hear (looking forward to the day that i cheerfully come home and do housework ) as for your son we know whats best for our kids i believe - its not one size fits all - great that you both having such a positive experience of the besd school - just wish that i had taken my daughter out of school completely - the years she spent there have had a detrimental effect on her self esteem and college wasn't much better
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Post by nel77 on Nov 5, 2013 0:29:04 GMT
hi nell been away at conference so greetings and belated welcome to the forum fantastic that meds are working out so well for you - sounds like life is on the up so good to hear (looking forward to the day that i cheerfully come home and do housework ) as for your son we know whats best for our kids i believe - its not one size fits all - great that you both having such a positive experience of the besd school - just wish that i had taken my daughter out of school completely - the years she spent there have had a detrimental effect on her self esteem and college wasn't much better Hi, sorry I only just saw this reply. It's been extremely positive, I'm not so sure about the secondary School transition tho the BESD secondary schools round here don't suit the sensitive child so much. Have found a wonderful School which specialises in ASD And I know he'd be happy there so that's what I'm fighting for. If he went to a mainstream school he'd have a lsa the whole time with him, he'd feel different and hate that. Parental guilt is the worst isn't it! Never leaves, always makes you question/blame yourself :-(
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Post by Kathymel on Nov 5, 2013 8:52:19 GMT
We wouldn't have parental guilt if society (the media) didn't keep on about it being our fault, especially if we are single mothers. Bottom line - it's not your fault. My son would do better in class if he had a LSA with him, but it draws attention to his being different, so he won't have one.
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Post by nel77 on Nov 5, 2013 12:26:31 GMT
We wouldn't have parental guilt if society (the media) didn't keep on about it being our fault, especially if we are single mothers. Bottom line - it's not your fault. My son would do better in class if he had a LSA with him, but it draws attention to his being different, so he won't have one. SO very true.... The LSA is reason i'm keeping him special needs school, he would struggle to identify with any peers in mainstream. He can get very violent sadly (ASD meltdown combined with ADHD)
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