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Dec 11, 2014 13:48:54 GMT
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Post by blaze on Dec 11, 2014 13:48:54 GMT
And want to cry
my preschoolers are v sensitive/spirited kids, v sure they have my adhd, maybe spd too, anyways we jst tried and failed our nursery xmas party, they were jst too over whelmed, one asked to go the other clung onto me so we left.after 30mins.... We already didnt do the singalong because I knew they wdnt cope, we arnt going to our toddlers xmas party because they didnt cope last yr, so this was the one thing I thought.they wd like.and it was.jst too juch over load for them.....
Im v tired grumpy over sensitive at mo but this jst feels so sad that they cant enjoy snthing their friends can
I have to go to a bday party at soft play on my own soon so I cd have realy done w the xmas party going well scause im so nervous as it is......
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Post by Deleted on Dec 11, 2014 16:49:16 GMT
I'm so sorry to hear that. xxx Just to say though that whether or not your littles have ADHD, it is generally a difficult age and the things that are OUR idea of what Christmas should be like don't always match up with theirs. Maybe you could deliberately plan to pop in to places for just 20-30 minutes and leave while you are ahead, if that is what they can manage right now. Here's hoping that you find some more peaceful and enjoyable activities over the next couple of weeks.
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Dec 11, 2014 17:19:46 GMT
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Post by blaze on Dec 11, 2014 17:19:46 GMT
thats what we do alot already, thats why I cut out the singalong and toddlers party, but I thought yheyd like the nursery one cause nursery staff played them music and they love dancing and christmas decorations, everyone thought theyd love this party but I guess we jst judged it wrong, next yr maybe. We do alot of stuff differently from lots of parents, thats fine with me generaly, I guess they are getting to the age where other kids notice and I wd have likedthem to beable to take part with their little friends so they dont feel left out when they have the fotos up at nursery or other kids talk about it. it feels like another of these things that makes them stand out as different, and I feel sad about that when they love dancing normaly so we all th po ught this wd be the one thing they cd be included in. uote author="@pelargonium" source="/post/85571/thread" timestamp="1418316556"]I'm so sorry to hear that. xxx Just to say though that whether or not your littles have ADHD, it is generally a difficult age and the things that are OUR idea of what Christmas should be like don't always match up with theirs. Maybe you could deliberately plan to pop in to places for just 20-30 minutes and leave while you are ahead, if that is what they can manage right now. Here's hoping that you find some more peaceful and enjoyable activities over the next couple of weeks. [/quote]
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Dec 11, 2014 18:10:02 GMT
Post by Deleted on Dec 11, 2014 18:10:02 GMT
That's rough and I'm sorry it didn't work out this time. xx
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Post by tashg on Dec 12, 2014 15:46:58 GMT
Sounds like you need some down time for YOU actually, in this post - are YOU ok? Maybe you need a bit of the things you really like to do and this would help you be a bit more resilient to the things you are going through with the little ones. I got embarrassed by my daughter at pre-school...now we look back on it we all laugh! I took her to Steiner thinking they were a bit alternative and OK to deal with it- my daughter never used to sit in the dratted circle with everyone for the songs- she just crawled off the play at the nature table or with the radiator and left me singing and doing all the movements like a complete nitwit with the other mums with their kids! I got tired of bringing her back - she just would not stay... it has always been the way - she does her own thing - but it got better in time actually. Don't worry too much -they are still really small - but take good care of you - that's most important.
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Post by blaze on Dec 21, 2014 12:05:20 GMT
Super happy now as went to bday party of another set of twins from their nursery, it was at a soft play that they know and love, although it can become overwhelming if v busy/noisy it was ok this wkend. Turned out my girls had been two of only four children invited from school nursery (ten other kids) dispite the fact I dont know the parents other than to say hi to so felt v pleased for them. It all went v.well also, one girl clung to me for a bit.but wasnt unhappy, she also wanted me to play with them for a bit (i am allways the only parent who is in the soft play with their kids!! So because of this bday boy.and girl now think im ace) and the bday girl also seemed to adore one of my.girls and seek her out. Both my girls sat at lunch and ate!!! And one took part in the games, cooperated with the rules and didnt get confused when the winning kids got sweets and she didnt!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 21, 2014 12:54:02 GMT
That's lovely, I am so glad you all had a fab time!
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