Post by mcfairy on Apr 7, 2015 16:05:29 GMT
Hey folks
Not been on here for a while .... but any advice again would be appreciated.
Been with my partner 5 years and we have worked through a lot, I have felt we have moved mountains, everything from money issues, past family issues and living with some kind of order (the best we can). I have worked very hard and I feel he has met me part way.
At the moment he has a really fabulous obsession, running. I run a lot and he is currently switched on to this. He quit smoking in October .... still struggling with drinking too much..but I'm chuffed with his developments so far... ok problem
He is so irritable lately....over the last 3 months, snapping, not sleeping (unless has a beer). He has kicked out at objects in the house (new fridge freezer on order as we speak... ). I think I am fairly good at diffusing situations but I'm not managing well now. He was devastated after taking it out on the freezer, tears etc... but I am getting tired. I feel like he has tantrums.
I don't believe this is ADD, however, I do think his frustration and impulse doesn't help issues. My friend is poorly and in hospital, but instead of asking me is everything ok, he snapped in a panicked way and shouted at me 'whats up' .... now I was already upset and didn't need to be told off at this time.... I needed support.
I haven't seen him like this for a while and was unsure if it is irritability being increased by not smoking, medication being ineffective now due to losing some weight? He isn't sleeping well... to be honest I'm on here as I'm not sure if there is anything I can do to help, or if there is nothing further for me to do. Everything annoys him, people, work, the news, life... everyone is at fault and stupid... but obviously not him ha ha
I'm exhausted.... I have read all the suggested books, online help, but to be honest unless he can focus long enough to read some of them too then I am at a loss. He is a very intelligent man and I am his 3rd wife... this is not his first dance.
If it wasn't for my new found yoga and meditation I may have cracked before now.
Any suggestions? I'm extremely tenacious and love him to pieces but I can't experience any more storms.
Thanks in advance oh wise ones!
Not been on here for a while .... but any advice again would be appreciated.
Been with my partner 5 years and we have worked through a lot, I have felt we have moved mountains, everything from money issues, past family issues and living with some kind of order (the best we can). I have worked very hard and I feel he has met me part way.
At the moment he has a really fabulous obsession, running. I run a lot and he is currently switched on to this. He quit smoking in October .... still struggling with drinking too much..but I'm chuffed with his developments so far... ok problem
He is so irritable lately....over the last 3 months, snapping, not sleeping (unless has a beer). He has kicked out at objects in the house (new fridge freezer on order as we speak... ). I think I am fairly good at diffusing situations but I'm not managing well now. He was devastated after taking it out on the freezer, tears etc... but I am getting tired. I feel like he has tantrums.
I don't believe this is ADD, however, I do think his frustration and impulse doesn't help issues. My friend is poorly and in hospital, but instead of asking me is everything ok, he snapped in a panicked way and shouted at me 'whats up' .... now I was already upset and didn't need to be told off at this time.... I needed support.
I haven't seen him like this for a while and was unsure if it is irritability being increased by not smoking, medication being ineffective now due to losing some weight? He isn't sleeping well... to be honest I'm on here as I'm not sure if there is anything I can do to help, or if there is nothing further for me to do. Everything annoys him, people, work, the news, life... everyone is at fault and stupid... but obviously not him ha ha
I'm exhausted.... I have read all the suggested books, online help, but to be honest unless he can focus long enough to read some of them too then I am at a loss. He is a very intelligent man and I am his 3rd wife... this is not his first dance.
If it wasn't for my new found yoga and meditation I may have cracked before now.
Any suggestions? I'm extremely tenacious and love him to pieces but I can't experience any more storms.
Thanks in advance oh wise ones!