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Post by chaoticwitch on May 25, 2015 22:13:10 GMT
I was just wondering if there were studies which showed how likely it was for children of ADHD adults to also have it?
I have found one site which talks about it being hereditary. I have two children, my daughter was diagnosed with a borderline eating disorder at about 11 years of age (I have also been diagnosed with eating disorders) Obviously I took this seriously and she went to CAMHS for a while, but what came out of this was that she only presented with symptoms of an eating disorder when she was at my house.
When she went to her father's she ate normally. It was decided that this was learnt behaviour and she wasn't actually aware of the difference between how she was at her father's and how she was at home until having the therapy sessions.
This all happened long before I was told I had ADHD.
She is very flighty, highly emotional, easily obsessed and then bored quickly among other things and I wonder if this is also learned behaviour?
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Post by blaze on May 26, 2015 9:08:55 GMT
If a parent has it there's a 30% chance their child will, and it increases the risk of all developmental disorders also- although I don't know that stats
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Post by chaoticwitch on May 26, 2015 20:24:49 GMT
Thank you for that info Blaze.
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Post by Little Owl on Jun 26, 2015 15:03:59 GMT
The only statistic I have heard or read is from Ari Tuckman PsyD, MBA when he was speaking at an ADDISS conference workshop in autumn 2013.
“One out of four children of parents with ADHD will have ADHD. This is a conservative number.”
To put it another way, if a parent has ADHD there is a 25% or more chance their child will have ADHD. This is pretty close to the statistic given by blaze.
For a parent diagnosed with ADHD this is a very important piece of information and I wish there were more sources and evidence out there.
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Post by Little Owl on Jun 26, 2015 15:06:41 GMT
If a parent has it there's a 30% chance their child will, and it increases the risk of all developmental disorders also- although I don't know that stats Blaze, where does the 30% statistic come from?
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Post by JJ on Jun 26, 2015 20:19:41 GMT
It's 30% as blaze says I've got a link to this stat somewhere, if I find it I'll post it. The other thing is that it's 80% heritable - which means for identical twins, there's an 80% chance that one will have it if the other one does. That's written in the NICE clinical guidelines (which are linked in the faq )
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Post by JJ on Jun 26, 2015 20:31:43 GMT
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Post by blaze on Jun 27, 2015 15:30:17 GMT
Both my adhd pyschs ; )br] uote author=" Little Owl" source="/post/90379/thread" timestamp="1435331201"] If a parent has it there's a 30% chance their child will, and it increases the risk of all developmental disorders also- although I don't know that stats Blaze, where does the 30% statistic come from?[/quote]
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Post by Little Owl on Jul 5, 2015 12:19:29 GMT
I fear I am not going to express myself particularly well, but I’ll try.
If a parent is diagnosed with ADHD and if, like me, they have 2 children, then the chances of one of their children having ADHD is 50% or thereabouts.
It would not be unreasonable for this statistic to promote guilt and anxiety ridden thoughts like “should I have my children assessed?”, “how will it affect their career chances if they are labelled as ADHD i.e. they carry a mental health issue?” and “It’s my fault they have ADHD.”
The NT partner may also feel, quite justifiably, that it is all about their ADHD partner; my needs are ignored. To combat this it is incredibly important that no changes are made without embracing the needs of the NT partner; even if it is only to recognise that they are sacrificing their need for the better good.
Medication is the medical profession’s cornerstone treatment. Yes it helps, but in my experience it is worth jack-shit unless you and your partner change your behaviours so that they are ADHD, relationship and family friendly. To educate yourself, change behaviour, improve co-operation and keep optimistic as you try to accommodate ADHD is tough.
My NT husband, bless him, did not understand what was needed and to make things worse, through education, I did. All along, I knew his subtle resistance to even positive change was to be expected and that we would (and did) suffer a great deal of avoidable pain over the last 9 years since diagnosis.
If you and your partner can re-frame the reason you are going to change your behaviours to accommodate adult ADHD, you may find the co-operation, motivation and optimism that will help sustain your efforts and foster love despite the challenges.
Not only will your possibly ADD children witness and participate in developing family friendly ADD management techniques they will also witness a strong, supportive, loving partnership facing and overcoming difficult challenges. This is fantastic parenting.
Children learn by copying, parents don’t really have to do anything special for this to happen; it just does. As an adult, ADD management techniques you develop will be suitable for adult life and promote the skills ADD proffers; anything they learn from you could last them a life-time. Yes, I firmly believe my skill set is both improved and tainted by ADHD.
I think it possible that the “ADHD gene,” if such a thing exists, may skip a generation. If true, that means your NT child may have to parent a child with ADHD. If so they, as much as an ADHD child, will benefit from knowing about ADHD techniques.
So, any effort you or your partner put into educating yourselves and pain you may suffer putting theory into practice will benefit your children regardless of whether or not they have ADHD, regardless of whether you and your partner decide to have them assessed and regardless of any consequences that an ADHD diagnosis may have.
I wish this message could get through to any parents who are trying to raise a family with adult ADHD in the mix.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 5, 2015 9:34:09 GMT
The important issue here I think, is that ADHD shows itself across a number of settings. So although you are naturally concerned, it will be important to check out how she is getting on at school, at her dad's, in social activities.
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Post by clubby on Aug 13, 2015 21:35:47 GMT
I think both my parents had some sort of relationship with adhd. Brought up in the 1930's, their symptoms were highly
masked by the social pressures of the day. It is difficult to get to the truth but one parent was hyperactive and the other
inattentive. I was damaged by my mother thinking that her coping mechanisms could be my coping mechanisms, and enforcing
them because she thought I was stupid, and all because her coping mechanisms made me look stupid. Viscous circle!
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Post by ananse on Nov 9, 2015 11:15:30 GMT
All relatives on my father's side seem to have had ADHD - though not diagnosed. Myself, I was recently diagnosed at some 45 years age with kind of grave ADHD. Interesting thing is that my children show no traits at all. Well maybe the younger one just a slight bit, but it doesn't seem to be impairing.
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Post by tati on Nov 19, 2015 10:26:15 GMT
good parenting, I guess I think that for ADHD being really impairing (rather than a gift), apart for parental inheritance, there are a series of other factors. And things have changed for good since we were children, as the condition is now well known and families have a series of options and helps that they didn't have just some years ago. I mean, adult parents with ADHD were totally abandoned to themselves... not even knowing they had this condition. And with children with the same problems. Now it's a bit better. The third factor, what the person will experiences outside the family... this is unfortunately not possible to know.
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Post by ananse on Nov 20, 2015 13:28:13 GMT
I've actually had this good-parenting theory too...
I've always felt different but never that anything is wrong about me. Not really after diagnosis either. But I've always felt lack of contact, that I need to hide all my actual emotions and thoughts and act normal. My father was probably through the same thing when he grew up, and if he'd been aware of that, he could have been support. Instead he rather helped me oppressing the same things he had learnt to oppress. I haven't done that. If my children want to cry, they may do so, and I don't push them to expressing their feelings in words. I also believe I'm generous in sharing my own difficulties with them.
They both are somewhat autistic as persons, but they don't seem to have any problems. And if it goes on that way later in life, I think this coocoo thing can be more positive than negative.
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