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Post by Sherlock on Jun 24, 2016 22:26:15 GMT
hi guys i just wonderd if adhd has.negativley effectes ur relationship with your mum dad and wider family, i know its not exactly a nice topic. but the best way to some up how i feel, how adhd has effected my relationship with my family is its like adhd has put up a huge wall inbetween me and my family and i cant climb over it.
i mean i cant enjoy.family life the way other people seem to,like certain levels of the human experience have been shut off to me.
its all down to the.difficulties i can have in conversation.
im sure you all know too well.
over the years i look at mates and there family and how well they all get on, almost like they were best mates.father and sons headin away to watch a rally ,going fishing ,going for a pint yano man stuff lol
i used to do these things with the ole boy years ago
but having adhd makes it difficult to even form relationships with family or even keep in touch,
even talking to my granny is difficult she ask me .questions and my mind shuts down i cant organise my thoughts and do so outloud in circular speech then i forget what i.was talking about, usually when im tired id. be better avoiding people,sometimes things go smoothly sometimes things are a struggle it all depends on what level of retarded i am on the day,its shocking how inconsistent adhd makes me,
i cant remeber shit or focus in conversation, and the fact im unemployed and just dont seem to be able to function its almost easier to keep everyone at arms length,
its like adhd has ruined everything for me.
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Post by computermandan on Jul 20, 2016 10:42:51 GMT
Feel for you sir. I know what you mean about that wall. Being computer geeky i see it like a firewall i cant get through or i just dont know the password for but everyone else does. I used to go fishing with my dad as a kid and i remember loving it but being hopeless.. cant remember knots or even if i do i skip buts and generally ended up in a knotted mess... never mind the times ive sat for hours without bait on the hook!!! This was one of the main things that made me feel different to everyone else. As a teen it was girls... i just couldnt do conversation at all never mind be attentive. As an adult its become friends and family... the people that made the effort to keep in touch when younger are busy now and as i forget it gets percieved as a lack of interest and so they dont bother any more. I always got on with my old man. He didnt drink so it was computers film and games but again i always forget to keep in touch and so we see my wife's family all the time as she doesnt forget and in turn my family get fed up with me for what seems bias etc. Its kind of balanced out over time and what i call my real friends make an effort to say hello once in a while - they dont seem to get the adhd thing and i suspect they also think im making excuses and i understand that. Chin up boss you will get there in the end and we will find our own little happy medium somewhere
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Post by neonzz on Aug 2, 2016 5:30:05 GMT
Hello Sherlock,
I also had difficultys with family if I'm honest I'm quick to temper like most ADHDers so something as simple as going to the shop could lead to a temper tantrum I was never able to accept there authority witch put straign on the relationship between us dude to impolsivity I used to steal alot money credit cards anything and let me first say I'm not proud of it I never knew why I did it but hey I used to smash the house up when I was told somthing I don't like and this all ended up in me becoming homless in 2012 as my family had just had enough of me even now when I visit them I never know what to say or how to respond hell I couldn't tewll you what any of them like I guess what I'm trying to get at is my ADHD and refusal to take meds when I was younger ruined anykind of relationship I could have with my family and as such I'd say yes ADHD has negitively effected me and my familys realtionship
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Post by candy on Aug 5, 2016 9:42:43 GMT
I think I was okay at times with my family like my mother as I never lived with my dad, I know my nan used to be a bit iffy with me but I think because I was a girl and I would never shut up but my mum it was okay until I was a teenager and she had to stop working at that point I just wanted to move out and kept trying to avoid her as we would clash so badly and I was too much for her to cope with and I always put it down to being a typical teenager. As I had moodswings and just yelled at her but we would both pick holes at one another and it was just I was just too much for her to handle.
I was so happy when I moved out, we now don't see one another one month to the next but as she said it suits her perfectly.
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