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Post by shiningbright on Jul 11, 2016 10:58:35 GMT
I've not planned to ask, when I was 21 and close to loosing my job and home I went to the Dr for help and was labeled (by a nurse, the DR didn't even see me) and depressed and she gave me tablets fort hat which I didn;t take as I wasn;t depressed. I said I wanted to be tested for mild autism or ADHD or something, I told her that my moods are fine it's my brain in on a different frequency to everyone else. Btu she wouldn't have it and got quite rude so I lost my job and house and spent some time in counseling and visiting a mental health center, more to get me out of bed really. I was happy just stressed and overwhelmed and once free from the pressures I was able to do my own thing again and everything come up roses.
I told myself that i can deal with things alone and that Drs are useless (which my experience has always proven alas) and left it at that.
But what happens if someone finds a Dr who actually listens to their patients (diamonds in the rouge I know, but they must exist)? Do they do tests or forms or other stuff. Are authorities like social services (every parents nightmare) or such involved, etc.?
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Post by vagueandrandom on Jul 11, 2016 11:51:08 GMT
shiningbright a GP would refer you to a specialist for diagnosis. When I was struggling with the specialist turning down my referral, I had a lovely GP, who eventually got the specialist to see me (long story. .) He didn't patronise me and believed that I had ADHD, but didn't know that there was anything that could be done. .he said that he could put it on my medical records, but was concerned about stigma. . I saw him a lot because I wanted to get some therapy for for depression as I didn't want to take antidepressants again. . he said that I was falling between primary (who said I needed more than they could offer) and secondary MH services. . because I had a job and made the effort to wash and dress when I went to see him, even though it might have been the only time I'd done it in days. . . anyway, a GP can't give an official dx . .and therefore can't access treatment. . I know that you don't want to take meds, but there may be some kind of ADHD adapted therapy in your area and I know someone from my support group who got private ADHD coaching paid for via their GP. I no longer have a sympathetic GP and would love to have one again and not to be made to feel like an attention and drug-seeking deluded neurotic every time I have to see them. Social Services don't need to be involved, unless they think that you're unable to care for your children safely and adequately and I can't see that they'd have any concerns from what you've written on here.
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Post by shiningbright on Jul 11, 2016 22:41:50 GMT
Thanks @vaugeandrandom
My GPS are all so vague. They listen I my when it suits them and I also find he depends on the time of day and day of the week.
I've alsso not got the confidence for the stigma. I face enough stigma everyday without adding some space for authori ties to doubt my mental capacities (I know thats not what adhd is all about but others dont)
I'm also so scared of the dreaded Social services. I get so many threats from HV and Midwives, and even sure start all wanting me to do things their way else I'd be ref flagged by social services. I don't have the confidence to add more fuel to their fire.
I'm a good mum and I know it. I may forget to feed myself but my children's needs are always met. Clean clothes, Clean bodies, well fed (they eat so muchiit's unreal lol) and they get to do science experiments and home education tailored to their needs.
But I've lost all trust in GPS and Midwives and health visitors now after my various experiences that I'll not risk it.
It must be nice though, not being so alone with it. Most people just see me asa freak or wweirdo. My kids and my OH don't and that's enough for me :-)
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