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Post by jj11 on Sept 12, 2016 19:52:21 GMT
I'm 52, single mother of four after my divorce 15 years ago and until recently used to be a professional. Just started two weeks of Concerta tritation. I've read so much about ADHD and I have cried because so much now makes sense. Since I can remember ive had every label, from careless, lazy and impulsive to disorganised, scatty and a 'nightmare'. The sense that something is not quite right led me to so much. Every self-help book on the market, therapies, alternative medicine fend shui, astrology etc etc. I feel so regretful and somewhat bitter at how things have turned out
i feel quite isolated atm. Lonely and sad. Skint and worried. Does it get better? I feel emotionally calmer now but there seems to be so much to come to terms with not least the sense of identity. Is this common?
Would really appreciate some comments xx
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Post by smogz101 on Sept 13, 2016 17:48:06 GMT
Hi jj11 It is common for you to feel like this after the diagnosis - a lot of us have felt the same emotions! In one sense its relief and finally an answer to a lifetime of everything feeling like one big slog. But then theres the thought about 'what if i'd been diagnosed sooner' - would things have been easier. BUT... you've been diagnosed, your starting medication so things should hopefully improve! Once you've accepted the diagnosis you can stop beating yourself up as much and then work on ways to tackle the symptoms. The medication has been a big help for me - not a miracle tablet as I still have some major wobbles but in general much happier and content with everything. It's good you feel emotionally calmer on the Concerta. What dose are you on? H x
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Post by jj11 on Sept 13, 2016 21:24:14 GMT
Hi there. IM on Concerta 36mg and working up to find the right level. I think it's not just the diagnosis, it's not working too. Suddenly going from wages to benefit takes some doing. Who can survive on£70 a week! I'm trying to get early retirement so maybe things will pick up. Feeling better today. Thanks for replying!
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Post by jj11 on Sept 15, 2016 19:24:28 GMT
Thanks for replying. I too have been a single mum but I find it harder now on my own! We are, after all, Sociable creatures. I also have an auto-immune disease which means what I can do is limited as I suffer from fatigue. I was hoping medication ie stimulant would help this but sadly it hasn't. I got 'let go' from my last job and didn't pass my extended probation period. It was gutting. However, I can look back and see a pattern. I struggled and suffered stress a lot which was not helped by ADHD. Anyway, feeling a bit better now😊
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Post by jj11 on Sept 26, 2016 6:46:28 GMT
I've just got the Pip form. Thinking about it!
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Post by marionk on Sept 26, 2016 9:15:19 GMT
Go for it! Get help if you find it tough, and keep trying if you get refused. for me the toughest bit was actually getting the form as I had to answer a load of crappy q's on the phone, ffs, before they would even send it out!!
(I got help with the actual form filling, but I do wonder if the fact that I nearly had a breakdown while talking to the guy in charge of sending the forms, might actually have helped!)
There's council tax benefit too, and housing benefit if you're renting, or 'help with housing costs' if you're still paying a mortgage (part of ESA).
I was at my best when living abroad in an extended family, with most of the slightly more distant relatives living in walking distance. My biggest problem then, was remembering everyone's names and faces!
The best thing was that you never had to be alone doing anything, at least not anything that took more than a couple of minutes. Having someone to talk to somehow makes even the most boring or frustrating tasks bearable.
The other really good thing about it was that I wasn't the one being depended on to 'pay the bills' or even make sure they were paid, nor keep the car running and legal, nor fill in any forms, nor organise holidays, nor buying a house. Nor was there any problem remembering social events, as everyone else would be going too!
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