Post by peety on Oct 3, 2016 12:45:57 GMT
Hi guys,
No diagnosis yet, but as the problems are real and the forum is here I may as well jump right in
My wife is a great lady. I love her very much. She can be very supportive and certainly has been over my recent job loss.
Well, sort of. She thinks that I've been treated less than great by my employer and she understands that the job isn't for me (ADHD or not), that it has ground me down and it wouldn't be healthy for me to stay on (I have that option, albeit under very strict and humiliating measures). Having said that she also has a pretty strong work ethic herself and expects that in me. She would prefer me to stay in this job until I find another one, which I think she feels would be quite easy for me to do, but which I feel would be quite hard. I don't want to just fall into another job which I will struggle with. Besides I'd like the time and space to start my own business, which may or may not be successful. There's also a general mood that I don't pull my weight round the house and am quite work-shy. And in fact it's true: as mentioned in my intro post I leave bills and paperwork to her and I unintentionally leave chores unfinished due to distraction or simply not noticing that i haven't washed up all the pots / cleaned everything off the side / hung all the clothes out to dry/ whatever. If only day-to-day life had some more creative responsibilities then I'd be a much more useful husband!
Historically, she's been pretty good about it all. But I can tell, particularly this year (which has been particularly tough - miscarriage in June & I've had other medical problems) that it's dragging her down. While we still get on well, our sex-life isn't quite what it was, and I'm starting to worry about our long-term prospects. Her career has taken off and I worry that the grass will soon start to look a little greener, you know? This morning I just got that vibe when I dropped her off for some conference she's going away for.
So then, anyone here been in the same position? What can I do to keep things together?
Thanks
Peety
No diagnosis yet, but as the problems are real and the forum is here I may as well jump right in
My wife is a great lady. I love her very much. She can be very supportive and certainly has been over my recent job loss.
Well, sort of. She thinks that I've been treated less than great by my employer and she understands that the job isn't for me (ADHD or not), that it has ground me down and it wouldn't be healthy for me to stay on (I have that option, albeit under very strict and humiliating measures). Having said that she also has a pretty strong work ethic herself and expects that in me. She would prefer me to stay in this job until I find another one, which I think she feels would be quite easy for me to do, but which I feel would be quite hard. I don't want to just fall into another job which I will struggle with. Besides I'd like the time and space to start my own business, which may or may not be successful. There's also a general mood that I don't pull my weight round the house and am quite work-shy. And in fact it's true: as mentioned in my intro post I leave bills and paperwork to her and I unintentionally leave chores unfinished due to distraction or simply not noticing that i haven't washed up all the pots / cleaned everything off the side / hung all the clothes out to dry/ whatever. If only day-to-day life had some more creative responsibilities then I'd be a much more useful husband!
Historically, she's been pretty good about it all. But I can tell, particularly this year (which has been particularly tough - miscarriage in June & I've had other medical problems) that it's dragging her down. While we still get on well, our sex-life isn't quite what it was, and I'm starting to worry about our long-term prospects. Her career has taken off and I worry that the grass will soon start to look a little greener, you know? This morning I just got that vibe when I dropped her off for some conference she's going away for.
So then, anyone here been in the same position? What can I do to keep things together?
Thanks
Peety